SUBMITTED: Tuesday, October 26, 2004
POSTED: Tuesday, October 26, 2004
I have been reading this post, and I know everyone has an opinion about it, but my question is, why was the response by a witness never mentioned in later posts? It seems there was someone who had seen the entire thing and recollects it in a well versed manner, but yet, there is no follow up listed? And if it was a true retaelling of the events, what were the bruises and pain on the mother from? Just curious...It was interesting to read the writers summary. I will paste it again here so you don't have to search for it.
"I saw everything.....
I think that these people need to hear what someone else saw. I was there when all this happened. I work down the street from this IHOP. I come there once a week for the last 7 years, so I know most of the staff there. I have kept quiet as Kevin, the manager then and now, knows who I am, and this may start some negative responses when I come in.
However, you all have a lot of this situation wrong. I don't know if the readers here don't understand what really took place, as the parents seem to be getting more and more upset as people make the kind of responses that they have. Now, I don't blame them for getting upset, this is a little kid we're all talking about. So, I will tell you everything I remember about that night and you all can make what you want of it.
My friend and I were sitting at a both on the right side of the restaurant, so I was able to see everything that took place. There were 3 or 4 others tables being used at this time, they weren't busy at all. These people were unforgettable as so many things kept you interested in them. There was 4 adults, 3 children (2 little boys and a little girl) and this baby.
I remember them walking in because the mother seemed to be in a lot of pain. The father had to help her to the seat and with her jacket. She had horrible looking bruises along her arms. The hostess sat them all in 3 tables, side by side, but not together. I remember the other lady asking if they could move the tables together and the hostess replied that the tables did not move, she was sorry for the inconvenience as they had no seating for more than 6 people. The baby was in a high chair and the only place he could sit was at the end, the other end was attached to the waitress's station.
I saw the mother and father sitting one on each side of the baby and each child sat by an adult. Both the men seemed very concerned with the mother's well-being and kept asking if she was OK and if she needed anything. I remember one time she replied, “I'm fine, I'll heal and my family is all here.” Like I said, you could not forget this family.
The waitress came over and asked for drink orders, then came back and asked for their food orders. These kids were well behaved, the children ordered with a please and a thank you. They all seemed so happy, something most of us don't seem to have ourselves anymore. A little later, the waitress came out with a tray full of food. Instead of her sitting the tray down at one of the tables behind them , she started handing plates to the mother and father to hand down. As they were handing the plates down, she did place a bowl of gravy right in front of this baby. And kept placing plates in front of him.
The parents continuously kept picking these plates up. Then this horrible accident happened. The baby starts screaming, he was rubbing his little hands together. The father picked up napkins trying to get it off. Then the mother grabs one and starts wiping the other hand. The napkins were just sticking to this little ones hands. The waitress walks away, like nothing was going on.
I'm sure these people thought that maybe she was going for help or something. The mother runs a pile of napkins to the bathroom and comes back with them dripping with water. She looked to be in so much pain herself. She wipes the baby's hands and starts crying. I looked over again and the baby's hands were so red and bumps started emerging. The father was trying to calm to mother down and the baby was still screaming.
The other man stood up looking for someone that worked there. Like I said, they were not busy, but all of a sudden there no one. Finally, the waitress comes back and asks how everything was. I thought the father was going to hit her. The mother tells her that she was stupid enough to place food in front of a baby and in less she was deaf she had to know he was hurt. The other man told her to they were leaving. She told them that she had to get her manager. They waited and waited, the mother was getting more and more upset. Another waitress comes over and tells them that the manager was coming, the mother told her to tell him to hurry up, she wanted to get her son to a doctor.
Kevin finally comes out and tells them that they had to wait for their bill before they could leave. The other man told Kevin he must be kidding. Kevin gets loud and tells them that they ordered food and needed to pay for it. The other man told him that none of the children were even served and no one else was going to eat, so they were leaving. Kevin tells them that if they move he would call the police and have them arrested.
The man called him an A??hole. The mother was still crying and tells Kevin, she couldn't understand anything he was saying. Kevin is African and has a very strong accent. He tells her to sit there and he'll be back in a minute. At least 15 minutes passed and he comes back and gives the mother the bill, no kidding.
She gets everyone up and they go over to the counter. My friend and I were just sitting there in amazement to all this. Kevin was at the counter talking to a woman who walked in. The mother asked him if he minded they just pay the bill and leave. He told her to shut up that he'd get to her in a minute. The other woman told him they were leaving. Another man walks up behind them and Kevin takes his bill and tell shim that he was so sorry for the disturbance during his dinner and tells him to go ahead without paying. The mother asked if there was a district manager there, he was I think his name is Dave, and he was standing right around the corner listening to everything. Kevin tells her that the district manager already left. She then asks to please let her pay her bill so she could get the baby to a doctor.
Kevin tells her to give him their F???ing bill. The other woman said, “Excuse me?” He snatches the bill from the mother's hand. Then starts talking to the woman again. The other woman grabs the mother and said, “Let him call the cops.” and drags her out the door. Kevin says, “Get back here B???h!” The other woman gave him the finger as they were leaving and tells the mother, she did not have to put up with anyone like that.
Then the other manager walks back around the corner and stands by the window writing their tag numbers down. He calls the police from the front desk, by this time my friend and I were standing up at the counter just shacking our heads. Dave tells the police that a family just left without paying and was causing a loss in their profit from starting a big scene.
He told them that their little brat could not keep his hands away from the food long enough for their waitress to move the food from his reach and the parents got hostile. I looked at both of them when he finally hung up and told them that they were real jerks. I paid my bill and left.
Now I want everyone to know that Kevin is still the manager at this IHOP. I'm sure what took place after they left will upset them even more, and I am truly sorry. But if these parents are reading this, I want you to know that this was not your fault and don't ever blame yourself.
The waitress could have done many things differently, easy things, like walking from table to table with the food. But she didn't and this accident happened. I hope your baby is doing much better. I think he is was so young he'll never remember any of it. As for your other children, you are doing something right.
I am a 56 year old grandmother and wish my grandchildren were so well behaved and polite. Ignore these people, they don't know what you had to go through. Anyone else would have handle things with much more aggression, you stayed calmed and that was good for your children. God bless you and your family.
I wanted to approach someone else's comments about the parents saying the child is Autistic because of this accident. I must have read something different, as I remember them stating what their child's doctor stated. I also read that they did not believe or feel this was the case.
I know for a fact that doctor's will tell parents anything for an extra buck, maybe this doctor thought they could get something from IHOP too. It seems that they are handling their child's need without this doctor's comments. Hopefully they got a new one. I deal with many special needs children as part of my job. You would not believe some of the things parents are told that has cause one problem or another with their child. I've heard it all.
If you have insurance, try to stay within the Children's Hospital doctor's circle. They are great with children like yours. So many children are improving yearly with different special needs. We also have a center that can help you in LaPlata called the Gwynn Center, if you haven't contacted them, please do. They help children up to age 3, they can help with getting him into a school to improve and give you references to support groups and resources.
These people are great. Again, God bless you and I hope everything works out. I dope everyone can understand their situation a little better.
Mary - Brandywine, Maryland
U.S.A."
Just wanted to know what was thought about that, thanks