The first thing I
would like to do is to put my response on the things she actually put in her
report. After that I would like to add my own info in.
Dessa put that I left
her and my son. That was not true I left her and her mother that she couldn’t
live without not my son. Unfortunately there was times when I didn’t see
my son or pay my child support and for that I’m will always be sorry to my son
for it, I did try and do my part at times even when my wages weren’t being
garnished. I have made my mistakes and have had to learn hard lessons from them
and in doing so I wasn’t the best father at times but she isn’t the best mother
either. I can’t change the past that is why it’s the past. The rest is not worth
responding to because it’s was either a lie or uneducated guesses. Before she
tries to make someone look bad she needs to make sure all of her facts
are correct and not just what she guessed to be true, she also needs to look at
her-self in the mirror and see that she is being a hypocrite.
Now the tables have
been turned and I have custody of our son, because she gave him up because of
her new family (her new husband’s (Jeremy) family) and I have had him
for a year now. She pretty much has nothing to do with her actually family now.
They had always been there for her and our son; her mother was the one that
pretty much raised our son. She has never lived on her own a day in her life.
She has always had her mother with her whether she was living with her mother or
her mother was living with us. Now she lives with her husband’s family because
her mother wouldn’t continue supporting her and her husband, now the burden of
support falls on her husband’s mother, father, and sister because they all live
together along with his niece, his two children (they are there every weekend)
and their new daughter. She will only work a part time job (it’s been that way
forever, she has never had a fulltime job) and her husband is not working, due
to being fired from his job 6 month ago for allegedly stealing from his employer
(Pechanga Casino).
During our son’s life
Dessa has not been the prefect mother for our son. Now it’s even worse she seems
to be more about her husband’s family, her new daughter and his kids and not her
own son.
Dessa refuses to
financially support her own son since he’s been with me and her support is less
than I was ordered to pay but that’s supposed to be ok because it’s her. In
Dessa’s own report she said “I was
having a hard time trying to support my son and I especially with the little
amount that was ordered for me.” Which again
is less than she is supposed to pay me, I let her decide what she felt was the
right amount and that she could afford, the courts didn’t have anything to do
with it yet. Still I have gotten nothing from her, but they make sure
her husband’s kids support is being paid every month.
By the way Dessa and
Jeremy met online and married only after 1 month and that was just 3 months
after Jeremy’s second wife passed away. Dessa is wife #3, I would
love to continue but it would take me a writing a book to tell you everything
about Dessa and the things that I have gone through with her. Oh yeah that
friend / girlfriend that Dessa brought up we have been together for 6 years and
have known each other for over 20 years. We have two wonderful children together
and we live in our own place not with or being supported by
family. That friend / girlfriend is a Pediatric Nurse, once again Dessa
needs to get her facts correct before posting things.
The funniest part of
this whole thing is how much crap she use to/and still says about me and now she
is doing the same thing. If that’s not a hypocrite then they need to rewrite
the meaning of the word.