marina bander, lying, manipulating gold digger. desroyer of a mans wealth,finances, and credit rating Hickory North Carolina

the writer of this report is a man named michael bander...  google his name here on rip off report .. he is a child molester and a sexual deivaint...  hes made all kinds of posts to get back at the people that made the world aware of what a scum bag piece of s*** he is..  my name is nicole and I am a now a grown adult who 15-16 years ago he molested when I was a child, along with his own children

Nicole Parissi, as I stated in an earlier rebuttal spent her childhood running aroun screaming all over Laurens Turn sub division in Coconut Creek.She has and still probably does have ADD. She used Rutulin on a regular basis, and then graduated to stronger more mind altering drugs. Long term use of such drugs cause brain damage and extreme delusional behavior.

I have never been accused of charged with or implicated in any way with any molestation or child abuse of any kind. I have 2 adult children, one 22, a female, and another 26, a male. They both are well adjusted and gainfully emplyed adults, and have never been molested or abused in any way by either me or my ex wife. No one formally or informally has ever accused either of us of any such act.

The drugs with which Nicole Parissi has cooked and fried her brain continues to cause her to hallucinate events and exhibit delisional behavior. Fortunately, there are public records, and those records for each of us, speak for themself.

Nicole Parissi, as I stated in an earlier rebuttal spent her childhood running around screaming all over Laurens Turn sub division in Coconut Creek.She has and still probably does have ADD. She used Rutulin on a regular basis, and then graduated to stronger more mind altering drugs. Long term use of such drugs causes brain damage and extreme delusional behavior.

I have never been accused of charged with or implicated in any way with any molestation or child abuse of any kind. I have 2 adult children, one 22, a female, and another 26, a male. They both are well adjusted and gainfully emplyed adults, and have never been molested or abused in any way by either me or my ex wife. No one formally or informally has ever accused either of us of any such act.

The drugs with which Nicole Parissi has cooked and fried her brain continues to cause her to hallucinate events and exhibit delisional behavior. Fortunately, there are public records, and those records for each of us, speak for themself.

DEAREST SEXUAL DEVIANT:

Its spelled nicole parisse. I'm not going to debate with you on what kind of horrible human being you are. Everyone who has ever met you knows what kind of person you are. Your daughter Amy used to tell all the neighborhood children and parents the stories of what you did to her growing up.Especially the sterns and the vorguhess family. So your "on" allegations that my fathers comments are in spite are beyond laughable. Tonya anne and her husband michael, along with alana, pat, dan, mike, randy, etc "shall I go on?" used to sit around telling stories about you. Even now the children of laurens turn who mind you all still for the most part associate together, even now, as adults we can't imagine how a piece of scum like you is still walking this earth. I do have memories, vauge as they may be of you molesting me.And the childhood reports of dcf shortly after prove it.And I do have access to those records and would glady post them up in adobe form for all too see. Your right though, too long after the fact for the memory to come back to convict you, but I will tell you one thing..I dare you to provoke my family I dare you to show up and kick my door in like you did your former employee because she wouldn't have sex with you and had sex with another co worker instead. Because I will tell you what dear, I'll put you in the ground if you show up here :) You do not scare me or intimidate me one bit..and I know all about you and what you have done... I could list your disgusting deviant and violent behavior.. Like hiring a stripper to s h i t in your sink so you could eat it, paying your wife money to go out and sleep with other men.. and by wife I am referring to lynn, so you could god only knows what... Trying to offer money to your employees from saturns wives to sleep with and or defecate on you.... Lets see if some of them come across this eventually and have a thing or two too add. Poor michael was so violent as a child because of your behavior... Sleeping in the bed with your 6 year old son fondling him, molesting him... Thank god he turned out half way decent. You say these facts can't be proven that they are all hersay.. Its true most of them can't be proven  beyond your victims telling there stories, such is hearsay but that doesn't mean it didn't happen honey. But as for myself I have never in my life used drugs, in fact I have a tattoo on my neck depicting the straight edge philosophy but you wouldn't know that seeing as the last time you saw me I was seven years old. I'm sorry but if I did drugs I think it would beyond difficult to graduate with honors a year early with a full scholarship and currently be enrolled and continuing grad school in biochemistry and after grad school I've already completed several med school interviews including Duke University which sent me a formal letter of admittance this past week:). Yet my impeccable record speaks for itself. Oh and my record shows a few traffic infractions :) but I would be happy to sue you for slander seeing as you said there are records to prove it.I've never done drugs a day in my life, in fact I choice to cut people out of my life that even smoke cigarettes or drink alcohol because I find things like that disgusting and morally and ethically wrong. Perhaps you should brush up on your law.. Lastly.. My parents are your typical hardworking republicans. Married 28 years...Not a single run in with the law. Respectable business class.. decent hard working folk...and if Myself or my sister ever touched a drug let alone stayed out passed a curfew growing up we would have been sent to boarding school... So try and defame my father again  because while you were out being a deviant, breaking the law, molesting children  and couldn't even pay child support to lynn for your children my daddy paid for my home, my car, my education & my wedding  not to mention the same things for my younger sister who graduates this fall..I've had everything I could ever want in life. My father was walking me down the isle at my wedding and you weren't even welcomed at your sons... nor at the birth of his child.... Your a s h i t.. and a looser and by Michael and his sword you shall burn in hell

It is apparent by your consistent erratic tirades, that you are mentally unstable. seeing as you are the only one ever to accuse my of these disgusting acts., and my 2 female and 1 male child know full well you are a sick f--k, with delusional behavior.I will just state that you did indeed take drugs when you were young, and my 1st wife Lynn knows that too. Your parents also ingested illegal drugs in y presence in my house. My son and I have always had a great relationship and you statements about him only display your ignorance.
All the employees that worked for me and with your dad, know the truth about him and me. They come to me on a regular basis and thank me for the opportunities I gave them that changed their life. Your father and i know what he was doing when I hired him, and what he was making. I provide him an opportunity that changed his and his families life for the better.
You not only have never seen me in any of these disgusting acts, but you have never talked to or met anyone who has either. So just keep sticking your nose where it doesn't belong. My family that you talk about like you know them, knows the truth about me, and about your childhood ij Laurens turn.
So keep it coming, its starting to become entertaining

You cannot hide

You cannot hide

First of all, "deadbeat mom.....HA HA...  She is the BEST MOTHER / WOMAN (who has custody-and is not the one who is supposed to pay child support) I have ever had the privelage of meeting.  Unfortunately, it was when she was with you.  

".......get more child support than she deserves" ???  Last I heard, you were behind, what?  20K???

As I recall, you were the flashy one, spending the money you STOLE. 

She, by far, is the most down-to-earth, frugal person I have ever known that was ever involved with the likes of you.  And she didnt deserve the deviant hell you surrounded her with, and you know it.

Anybody who has had the misfortune of knowing Michael Bander knows extremely well that this is ridiculous in itself. I would not even need to be stating this in her defense or anyone else you choose to attack.  

I dont know a lot about what happened to Nicole Parisse, but my GOD!  How could you look at yourself in the mirror.

Maybe you should worry about your troubles in paradise, and pay your criminal attorney.  He is your only true friend, as long as you keep him happy.......

By the way, I must commend you on the poetic nature of your lie.....Sound like a lifetime movie.

Sincerely,

A good friend of one of her So-Called "Victims"

You have got to be kidding!!  I almost died when I read this.  Marina? A gold digger?  I have not one bad thing to say about that woman, or her abilities of being a GREAT MOTHER! 

I am her ex-boyfriend of 3 years.  My financial issues were of no fault of hers, only my own and the ECONOMY!!!  You are unbelievable!!  There is not one person you could find to say anything bad about her, NOBODY!

I just think its pathetic that you cannot allow people to move on.  Whats wrong with you anyway?  Its actually all coming back now.  I remember that I would not allow you in my home, at least I didnt want you there.  She allowed it so you could see you daughter.  Oh and might I mention, that most times, as I recall, YOU DIDNT EVEN SHOW UP!!

~~~~Also, she went back to school to get a degree in Criminal Justice while she was with me (I think you criminal background inspired her!!).****  She told me that you would NOT ALLOW HER TO WORK OR GO BACK TO SCHOOL WHEN YOU WERE MARRIED.  WERE YOU AFRAID SHE WOULD FIND A DECENT MAN?

****And by the way, for ANYONE reading THIS, Mikes "mini bio" of her covers about 25 years of her life.  Thats a lot of time dont you think?  Married twice and a few realtionships, not bad these days. 

~*~*~*~*~Oh and MONEY FOR SEX???  HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA!!!  ANYONE WHO KNOWS HER.....WELL I DONT HAVE TO SAY ANY MORE.  THEY ARE LAUGHING IN YOUR FACE!!

OR WOULD YOU RATHER THEM DEFECATE OR URINATE IN YOUR FACE.  THATS THE STORY ABOUT YOU, FROM WHAT I HAVE JUST READ.......Just get on with your life for a change......I am pretty sure everyone is getting sick and tired of your sad, pathetic attempts to make yourself feel good.

 

 

Though I do agree that She is a good mom. I doubt seriously you would have factual knowledge either way.No where did I state that she was not a good mom. As far as child support is concerned, this is where her nefarious, cunning and insatiable desire for money is most apparent.

For 3 years I paid child support directly to her. We have been to mediation over this, and she still owes her attorney for his fees. Fortunately, cancelled checks and bank deposits are very good proof in court. What she knew, and I did not, is that unless it is paid thru child support enforcement, or Fl. Dept of Revenue, they don't have a record of it in their tally. She knew this very well when collecting directly from me. Though the wheels of justice are slow, they are usually fair, and 2010 will be the year that she has the opportunity to answer under oath about the support payments she recieved directly from me.

In addition, child support fortunately is not determined by the discretion of the judge, but by statute, based on income. The $1100.00 she continues to get is based on twice the income I am earning, and she is well aware of that. So yes, she does get more than she deserves. Not based on what I think or say, but on the statute created by the Florida Legeslature.

As far as the most down to earth frugal person. Its quite easy for someone outside a marriage to make comments about one side or the other. Its quite difficult however for that person to even have a clue of the facts of what truly went on in that marriage. I am sure you were not there when she begged  for an H1 Hummer at $80k in 1998. Or the $75k 2000 S420 Mecedes that I bought for her. I don't think you were privy to the conversation that led me to purchase in 1998, a 5000 square foot home on 1.78 acres in Parkland. I don't think any of those were frugal.

As far as Nicole Parisse is concerned,My respone speaks for itself.

I do think that my criminal attorney is my freind, and I have, since 2003, paid him a very large amount of money. He on the other hand has performed briliantly and I appreciate everything he has done.

I dont know about your finanical situation (thats your business) concerning child support amounts, but if my memory serves me correctly, she told me that you bought 2 mercedes benz's at the same time????? One for you too, isnt that right?  *******Play fair now.....you wanted those nice things MORE THAN HER didnt you??? 

I think what pissed her off the most was the amount of money you spent on ridiculous things, and all I remember her telling me was the cigars ($1400 a week) and scotch (some EXHUBERANT amount per shot)

Look, I dont have any problem with you, personally, but this Ripoff Report s--- is just wrong and we all know that she is NOT WHAT YOU DESCRIBE.  And its really not fair. 

You cannot begin to portray her as if money is all that matters to her.  YOU KNOW THATS NOT TRUE. ****HER KIDS ARE ALL THAT EVER MATTERED TO HER****

YOU ARE GONNA SAY WHAT YOU WANT, BUT YOU SHOULD REALLY THINK ABOUT WHO YOU HURT IN THE PROCESS.

S

I agree that she cares dearly about her kids. Never have I said or written anything to the contrary.

I also agree that I purchased 2 Mercedes. I also agree that I spent way too much money on cigars and scotch. I was immature, impulsive and made mistakes. The biggest of which was not appreciating her.

That said, since the divorce, it would be very difficult for me to conclude anything other than her having an insatiable desire to get money fom me, regardless of fiarness, or honesty. She is well aware of the times we were getting along and I paid her child support either directly to her or made deposits directly into her account.She gave me deposit slips from her account so I could make them instead of mailing them to her when I lived in Melbourne.

She even e-mailed me on Sept,28th,2008 acknowledging the correct amount of arrearage. If she is truly honorabe, why, in this extemely difficult economy, is she not coming forward and agreeing to the not only the correct amount of support esch month, but the correct amount of the arrearage.

I have had to borrow money from my 401k to pay a family attorney (they are quite expensive) to file a motion for modification, and to reconcile the correct amount of arrearage. Pay to have her served in North Carolina, and go back to court again. This when she is keenly aware of what I make and what the correct amount should be.

So I will grant you that she is a great mother, and even that she was a great wife. I will even agree that it was me and my behavior that caused the failure of our marriage. But she has been cunning and dishonest, and taken advantage of the situation, in her handling of child support

Well, I am not privy to the latest since I am not in contact with her, but I also pay child support and know that the arrearages and future payments are determined by the courts, not either parent.  Money paid outside of support in the form of gifts, cash or otherwise are not counted as support payments>  I learned this the hard way myself.

My advice to you is to move on and do whats right.  In the end, its all about the kids, isnt it?  I pay my support and also give for the extras, lessons, bday gifts etc...

Take care

 

Though it may indeed be correct, that money paid outside of support, cash, gifts,etc do not go towards child support. Checks written that are specifically for child support, and cash deposited directly into an account that also are specifically for child support do go towards support, especially when the checks are noted as for that purpose, and there are reciepts for the cash.

Once again you speek in generality without knowledge of the facts. Obviously, if both parties are getting along, and there is no income deduction order at my employer, the only way to pay child support is to make payments directly to her. It was her idea to give me deposit tickets for her account so I did not have to mail the payments to her when I resided in Brevard county.

When you and her broke up,She called me and asked me to help her and accelerate the arearage that I was paying $100.00 a month. I gave her 2 checks, one for $5000.00, the other for $2500.00. Both were marked and accepted as child support, not a gift. What is so nafarious is that she had knowledge that none of those payments are notated at child support enforcement, and also knew that I did not have that knowledge. Fortunately, they will accept cancelled checks and reciepts, and we are going back to court again.

You are also incorrect that the court has sole discretion. The child support enforcement has told my attorney that if she acknowledges those payments in writing, we do not have to go back to court. That also saves her a trip from North Carolina to Ft. Lauderdale.

You also stated incorrectly that the court alone sets the amount of child support each month. Well, in her kitchen at her townehome in Parkland, in November of 2007, We agreed and signed an agreement for the current amount of $1100.00 a month. She then had it recorded with court. No judge or court determined that amount. She again could agree to a new amount. The correct amount based on my current income, and save me substancial legal fees and her a trip to Florida, but she does not, because she knows that it takes time and money(my money) to get back into court, and she is enjoying the windfall as long as she can.

Its very nice that you can afford extra's like bday's lessons, etc. If and when my child supoort is modified to the correct amount, I will have an extra $6240.00 each year. With that, I will be able to do the same.

Thats really more than I needed to know.  Maybe court dates, and such are not needed?  A lot of things can be settled by mail, and out of court without the costs to you or her.  We all know too well that only the lawyers make out here.

Maybe you can make a "lump sum" settlement with her for arrearages with what you said you already paid taken into consideration????  Just a thought. 

Settle the past and move on......thats my final advice to you this.

******Back to the original "rebuttal" because we got seriously sidetracked. 

****For the record, you should retract your FIRST (Original) report. 

Who would want to cooperate with you after that!!! 

 

I met Marina in 1989. She managed the Merry Go Round then. We dated for awhile, I sold her a car. I"ll Leave out details of our relationship, but I was seeing 3 girls then. My roommate at the time who had introduced us informed her of this and she moved on, she wasn't hard to replace. End of story, not hardly. For a few month's now, her ex-husband has been house sitting next door with his fiancé. Frank Testagrossa.

While waiting for his latest criminal trial, he was arrested in front of my house last week. He was on a drug and alcohol binge. Going house to house asking for money. An elderly neighbor called the sheriff. As they cuffed Him and put him in the squad car, I asked one of the officer his name, as I had only said hello in passing. He also said he was a cockroach, and was wanted for a parole violation. So my wife was worried that we had A neighbor with a criminal record, so I looked him up. I see Marina Spagnolo aka Testagrossa no way I said. Going back I see she was married again, now Marina Bander. So here I am after 20 years later with an incredible tale. What are the odds. Only comment is I punished her, In every hole, and she loved it. In fact She took me to Orlando to look at her parent's land. They had two lots side my side, one was for us when we got married. Guess I got off easy.

Powerhouse Gym

P.S. She was no angel, she omitted a few guys

First off, Powerhouse Gym Dania shouldnt be hard to find.

Secondly, why do you have a problem with her?  She is the victim here.  Married 2 losers and still managed to raise 2 beautiful kids. If she moved on because you were seeing other girls, then that counts for something.  Showing you her parents property, marraige?   WOW, sounds like a real bad girl!!!

You, in fact, sound bitter.  She did nothing to you for you to make a very public comment like you did.  Or did she????? 

And, since when is dating in your 20's such a bad thing? I have know her since she was born, and I can bet my life that your description of her is far off bro.

Your "wife" i bet is proud of your decriptive comment: "punished her....." 

Dont judge someone on the bad choices they make, especially if those choices are realized and corrected.  She just wanted to be married and have a family.

Lastly, I know where Frank Testagrossa was renting his house.....maybe you want to tell me all this face to face instead of ambushing someone on the internet. Man to Man.

HAVE A NICE DAY!

Somewhere on or near SE 3rd Place?

I suggest that you make this right

To the author of the most recent comment. I took Steve"s advice in comment #15. I moved on I do not know the gentleman who works in Dania Beach at the Powerhouse gym, nor do I wish to.
You therefore, should focus your vigor and venom on him.
You speak of her 2 children as beautiful, and then refer to me as a loser. Despite assertions to the contrary, I am half of one of them. In addition, I have 2 grown children. Both doing quite well. My son  is very successful, happily married, and the proud father of his own Daughter, My Granddaughter.
If this makes me a loser, you might want to reaccess your definition of the term.

Lastly, its been more than a year since I participated in this childish activity, Steve was correct. You should be cognisant of the collaterral damage caused by your comments.

Go after him if you must, but please leave me out of it.

Thank You

You must be that 5 foot 2 little guy that chased her home to her parents house because she didnt want to be with you.....? 

Are you the same guy that wanted her to meet your friends & family back in Michigan?

And the same guy you gave her a wrapped present that you knew she was opening in front of her parents and remember what it was?.......Lingerie from Victorias Secret.

I beleive that was the breaking point for her......Bill Kiriako
 
Bro, you have a beef with her ex living next door, then then you should think twice about the comments you make and keep them directed to the person you are talking about.


Ya know, her best friend at the time was her cousin Lucy.  Ironic, isnt it?