Nice post, Gina, but like most of what you say it leaves out all the important things.
I posted the retractions because we were supposedly trying to work things out. I believed you when you said you wanted to make genuine changes. The truth is that the original posting, even though filed in anger, is true.
Gina did give me herpes and did not inform me that she was carrying it until I had already been infected and showed outbreaks. When she did inform me it wasn’t even in person. It was by email. Here are her own words:
“. . . Not really why I am emailing you…something’s been bugging me, need to talk, but having a hard time…Remember that sore spot you had “down there” last week that was bugging you? You said you get ingrown hairs a lot where you shave? Do you get that often, like before this? I now have a similar thing going on. I am completely freaked right now. Know where I am going with this? This is really hard for me to talk about…sorry for the email. You can hate me now…you know I will tell you everything, just having a hard time with this one. Remember when I told you I was raped at 12 yrs., well in addition to that near lifetime of sexual repression he also gave me a scorching case of herpes. (Best things in life are FREE) I only get it about once a year, I had been on different meds over the past few years that have decreased it. Probably due to not having a very active sex life, I had never given it to my ex’s (Bailey’s dad had it, so it didn’t matter). It is also the reason I had to have 2 c-sections from extremely stressed pregnancies. Now I am shitting bricks because I failed to mention this and I don’t know if this is a problem you may have had before me and not realized what it was or if I might be the cause of it. I got really concerned after you told me the flaming balls story. You can kill me now…because I am afraid I may have set the balls on fire. Maybe it would be good news for you to say this has happened to you before…? If I caused this I would be pissed if I were you. My worst fear is I have fucked literally this up beyond all recognition. I hope this isn’t going to be our first fight and I am really afraid it might be our last. If you want to call me now, do, I am still afraid to talk about it…if you don’t want to talk to me again, I understand. I am so sorry I did not say anything sooner about it, that was not the right thing to do. I don’t know if you have had this in the past without knowing, but hoping you can forgive me.”
And I did forgive her. The anger isn’t about that. I tried to tell myself that this was a momentary lapse of reason and that she was really a good person. Her actions of the next four years, however, proved that this was not the case This was just Gina doing business. The same personal irresponsibility that allowed her to keep her herpes infection secret runs throughout her life. Also, one outbreak a year? Maybe in your dreams. It was much worse than that and you know it.
Oh, and a PSA: You can catch herpes between outbreaks. Barriers only work if they cover the infected area. If the infected areas are outside of this you have no protection whatsoever. And if you have herpes the responsibility is yours to disclose it! If you don’t tell then this is legally termed “sexual battery” as the other person does not have an informed choice!
When you do horrible and stupid things to someone and they are angry it doesn’t mean they have “anger issues.” It means you did horrible and stupid things to them. If you stop doing horrible and stupid things and make amends there is no more anger. Will you ever take responsibility for your hurtful actions to others?
She says in her post she left over the anger yet (again by email) yet here are her own words:
“I have to be honest with you in saying I do have another offer on the table. The bar has been raised and the things I want now are more clearly defined. Whether or not this person can deliver remains to be seen, but the inquiry alone has changed my perception of everything.”
Yes, while she was with still with me, working things out, she “connected” with another man over Facebook. Gina was unemployed at the time (her usual state). She sat in my house and in our very bed for hours exchanging messages with another man on the very computer I bought her for her birthday. Things she should have shared with me she decided to share with another man. When things went further she felt she had a better offer and that was that. What kinds of lessons have you learned, Gina, that allow this kind of behavior? Google “emotional affair,” Gina, and do some reading.
As to the money thing, yes, she borrows money and does not return it. She has borrowed over $5,000 so far. Bills, rent, medical bills. I loaned her $1,000 for legal fees after she was jailed for refusing visitation to her ex husband for her son (she had decided that her ex-husband was responsible for the Daytona murders and submitted a motion to the judge to deny him visitation based on her suspicion alone. This brilliant legal maneuver wound up costing her custody of all of her children to their fathers). When she had to move she borrowed $1,500 in moving expenses. I have yet to see a single dollar back and never will. She borrowed even more after we were back together. Some people do not deserve second chances. This woman does not even deserve a first.
She has borrowed tens of thousands of dollars from family members over her various divorces—also never repaid.
I stuck with you through all of you emotional meltdowns, your temper tantrums, your crazy ideas and everything. I stayed with you after your therapist invoked the Baker Act on you and I even lied to your employer about where you were. I stayed with you after your stupid jail stunt. I stayed with you when you were whacked out from taking Xanax all the time. I stayed with you after a hundred crazy things.
As to the embellishments of her past, this is also true. Her latest thing is that she fancies herself an artist and painter, seamstress and costume maker. I’ve seen her list Parsons School of Design in New York on her resumes and in conversations to validate her education. She neglects to mention she didn’t even finish her first year. She says things like this that are technically true (she went there) but once you know the true story you know you’ve been misled (she never finished and only went for a short while).
Gina, I’m glad you think you’ve learned some lessons but to carry such a tone when they’ve been at my expense is unbelievable. Reading “The Secret” doesn’t immediately make you an expert on life. You leave this relationship pretty much as you came in. I leave poorer financially and with my health irreparably damaged due to your negligence. I can’t do suppressive therapy for herpes (the side-affects of the medication are too severe) and barrier methods do not work as you infected me in areas not covered. I can never have a relationship with someone who does not also have an active infection due to your negligence. It is very possible that my relationship with you will be the last one I ever have.
I could never to someone else what you have done to me. You have irrevocably damaged my life and I will pay for your negligence for the rest of my days. I tried again out of love and (admittedly) desperation to give it a second try and was repaid with unfaithfulness. You broke every promise and every commitment you ever made to me. After all this you have done (and there’s plenty more!) you have the nerve to post a reply blaming everything on my “anger issues.” Unbelievable.
So, “M” was right. My first impression was correct. I was just stupid enough to try it again. Don’t make my mistake. You will pay for it forever.
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