I only read this because I was drawn in by the message I thought this might be, not yet certain what all it might be about other than "some kind of complaint regarding a particular court's practices, in a jurisdiction I've never even heard of. That said, I have nothing helpful to add, but sympathize with what you're dealing with enough to say so. It sounds very much like what's happening to my own daughter in a different state who is doing everything right and not supported by the court she's pleading her case to, and the reasoning all involves "money talks" type problems.
A little more about that, as her mother, facing this same court against her father 3 times re our divorce, knowing as right as I was, and even if the court agreed, he would never comply, knowing I could never afford to "make" him because I would never have the kind of money that would result in enforcing anything. I wont bore further with that detail, other than to assure you it's true, and I'd share if it mattered at this point anyway.
My daughter's situation involves trying to collect over $7000 in child support due to her, court ordered for payment twice, ignored by her ex husband, etc. The $7000 figure was as of about a year ago. Over the last year, he's also remarried to a teenager with a very wealthy family. Together they finally hired an attorney (on her mommy and daddy's dime) asking for leniency on the original $7000 because they could not afford to pay it etc (not even considering she's now owed well over the $7000, it's truly signifantcly more than that. She has complied with all visitation when HE didn't show, and he's the only one who knew where she lived, because he refused to tell her his and new wife's address change info. It wasn't until they went to court regarding his getting leniency that he was made to provide her his contact information if he expected to continue visitation with THEIR child, leaving her not knowing where to get her son if she needed to. That was all straightened out.
The $7000 owed was granted leniency to the tune of $1 per month on his amount of support as set that day - now also lower based on difference in income he made between the accumulation of his past due and the time his new job that paid less began. He made this job change deliberately because daddy in laws lawyer was being paid an amount larger than life compared to what my daughter could ever pay, even if I, my parents, and my sister all chipped in to help her try. In that state, I know for sure that the person who can afford to lag, hang back, do as they please, then hire that kind of attorney, vs the other they know who can barely afford any atty will always win in a civil court. That's how that works. This man was a friend of the family from the time he was a child, and we all adored him. While married, he turned into an alcoholic and a compulsive gambler within a year. She tried putting up with it hoping the old "T" we had all known and loved for most of his entire life was now also one of the worst drunks there are. He would be home with his infant son while she was working (due to different hours, at this time he at least still had a very good job). One night while at work, my daughter got a call from hubby's best friend, similar relationship with our family, still same kid - he thought T was home that night, yes...he's supposed to be. My daughter is scared now.
The friend lets her go, assures he will figure it out and get back to her. He knows how upset she already is now, and intends to make her feel fine when he calls back, so he starts looking into windows. He starts where he sees the TV is on and sees that dad had not only drank at least 12 beers by his count from outside, he was passed out cold and lying in a position where his own son was trapped beneath him! This is only 1 example of several while still married. The friend broke a window to get in, took my grandson (i think maybe 7mo old this time, possibly younger, because the actual date doesn't matter. Son-in-law never even woke up, not from the breaking window, or the friend's struggle to rescue (as opposed to steal, if it were that sort of situation, my grandson!
He next had to break into son-in-law's truck to "steal" the car seat, because he was not leaving baby alone with dad even if he could wake him. He took baby to mom at work and explained what happened a little, but enough to get her out of work for "the rest of the story". She and baby slept at my parents' home that night (over mine due to proximity, not preference), but my parents are outstanding grandparents either way.
Only because I mentioned it, here's a little on how bad of a gambler he became. He was finally at the casinos several times a week by this point, had lost all of their savings, and most of his son's that was over $11,000 last time he proudly told me how much it was up to. By this time my grandson is around a year old. He was actually a young father, my daughter was 19 and he was 22 when they married, against my better judgement due to their youth, but not opposed entirely because they'd already known each other over a decade by this time. I thought maybe this could work out, they were sure of it, and so was her always responsible older sister, who's judgement I trust even more than my own.
Sorry for the here's my story getting so long, but I hope you can also understand how sex matters none in states where the side with the money does how they please. Based just on your side of the story (I agree there are always 2), I already tend to feel you have been truly wronged in your situation, and already assume many other men have as well, because those kinds of advantages should never be "advantages" where the outcome affects lives of everyone involved, especially minor children that need things to be fair and right no matter what. There are too many other ways that courts cant always help this type of injustice all the time, but in their own courtrooms, they should set the example, not create and propagate such blatant displays of unfairness.
This is not the country we are browbeaten to death sometimes into believe we live in. These judges make such decisions in a position to not only know, but expertly know and are daily baring witness to the affects their decisions create. In both situations shown here, 3 if you even sorta agree mine might have been too based onw the little I would say. For the worse by their own hands, these judges do harm to these children and the party who isn't really getting justice at all - the one who never did enouigh wrong to deserve the hurt, let alone having the place you go to for some form of amending any portion of it, instead chooses to make that person's situation even more difficult, more painful, and left feeling even more hopeless that justice even exists for some of us.
I have no issue with lawyers who are in it for the money if they earn what they get by being great lawyers who uphold or defend the laws as they were intended, or set precedence when it's unclear, or work on the side that legally fights laws they oppose. If money motivates them to that, so be it. They paid a lot to get where they are too, few can accomplish that much. Final decisions from the bench should not make unfair decisions because this lawyer makes his money supporting and going for the throat against someone only because he can, his client has more money for him too if he draws it out and drags his feet too. One advantage her lawyer thought of, that you may not be privvy to. His motion filed after his was hand delivered and on the docket before yours was looked at, because he found out yours hadn't made it out of the gate yet. He could have even known how to keep yours buried long enough for him to line up his ducks and file her motion. When a lawyer is good in that regard and wins for it, is another example I despise.
I started, but for health reasons never got to finish, or even get that far in law school (I got my pre-law requirements and passed the LSAT, was accepted, and then got too sick for awhile). I would have probably been one of the "poorer" lawyers, because I was interested in specilizing in civil law, human and civil rights. Not big bucks for ones who don't hope to grow up and be hired by a corporation or somebody who could use me to enforce laws to protect what is written and make lives worse and change unfair laws. lol
You and your child will be affected by this forever, she probably never will for her part in the cause to either of you. How he accepts and moves on depends a lot on you making sure he at least is always aware that he can count on you, even if you see him less often. Knowing is planted, you help that grow, and it will continue on it's own if you become unable once that's inside in his heart and mind to stay. Gestures can do this too if that's all the choice you have at the moment. Never forget that your place for him will be his choice some day.
I'm sorry for your struggles, and wish you some sort of peace with knowing you've done all that was expected of you, and more in some situations you've shared here.
Peace.
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