The first thing you need to do is to learn how to separate the issues. One thing has absolutely nothing to do with the other, LEGALLY.
You ARE dealing with LEGAL issues here, so learn how to separate them.
First, if your husband is deployed, he is protected from any collections action INCLUDING foreclosure under the provisions of the "servicemembers civil relief act". You need to assert these rights in wriring, so I suggest you take this to the base legal office.
Also under that act, ANY revolving or installment debt that existed prior to the deployment must be reduced to 6% by federal law under the same act. Some will do this on a retroactive basis if you provide them a copy of his deployment orders along with your request, which MUST be in writing.
The bottom line here is that nobody can touch your home or your bank accounts under this act, buy YOU must assert your rights.
And, it gets better. These provisions apply for 90 days after he returns home!
It works with some utility companies as well, as they will do it under the honor system even though they don't have to under the law.
Car payment-House payment-credit cards-installment loans, etc. They are all covered and must be reduced to 6%, and all collections activity of any kind must cease until after 90 days from his return home.