Ms. Bush initially contacted me on November 25th 2009 when she left derogatory messages under my YouTube videos after viewing my wedding video. I deleted the comments and accepted that she was a woman scorned who regretted seeing her ex happy with someone else. I later received an email from her confirming that she left my husband in June of 2008 and claims by her concerning the way he treated her while they were married. As an author of two relationship books I understand that bitter feelings can linger even after a relationship has ended so I attempted to reason with Candace and encourage her to be mature about the situation.
I assured her that we would have never gotten married while knowing that they were still legally married on paper. I explained to her that her ex-husband, my current husband filed for divorce over a year and a half ago after SHE left him and took their son to another state with out his knowledge. The attorney he hired failed to file the proper paper work to officially dissolve the marriage on the grounds of abandonment. Evidently there is an extra step that must be taken when a spouse abandons the other spouse and a child is involved. The attorney did not do what he was paid to do and we did not find this out until after our wedding when we attempted to file the marriage certificate. Since Ms Bush stated that she attended law school, however, did not pass the bar, I encouraged Ms Bush to recognize that my husband was not committing bigamy because our certificate has been placed on hold until the technicality of the divorce is final between his ex. Although we have hired another (qualified) attorney to complete the dissolution of his previous marriage on paper, we recognize ourselves to be married in the eyes of God and society.
In our hearts, minds and spirits we are married and believe that a Covenant is made between a man/woman and God not man/woman and state. In our spiritual beliefs a divorce occurs per 1 Corinthians 7:15 when a non-believing spouse abandons the other.
Although Candace Bush has not interacted (much less lived in the same state) with her ex-husband in over a year, she chooses to use this technicality to stalk, harass and threaten our family. We have had to rely on legal recourse to protect our businesses, credibility and ourselves. As you can see by the relentless, bitter postings, this woman and her friends will not stop until they feel they have destroyed us. They have left countless postings under my videos, my book reviews, and my blogs, sent countless emails and even made threatening phone calls to me.
The attacks have not stopped there. She is now leaving false postings that we owe a lot of people and that I have filed Bankruptcy several times over. All of these allegations are false and a form of slander by Ms. Bush and her associates. I have been the victim of identity theft twice and have supporting police reports to support this. All of those bankruptcy filings she referred to are not mine.
As far as Reggie Garrett is concerned, he is a good man who is surrounded by many family and friends who can validate his character. He is a man who like every human being has admitted to making mistakes in his past but who has also grown from them. He has won several tournaments since his divorce from his ex-wife and this is the only reason why he is a qualified PGA tour player. As a relationship expert, I can testify that he is a good father and man who loves his children and mine dearly. I say this not because I am his wife but because I am with him day in and day out. No woman fights as hard as Candace and her associates have to smear a man's name who is worthless and about nothing. No woman bitterly and relentlessly pursues and attacks a man and his spouse when there are no intimate feelings involved.
As far as Lauren Kilby is concerned, our legal battle with her is not complete. She received a default judgment in her favor only because we were given the wrong court date over the phone and did not appear. Although we were not there, we won our counter claim and our legal team will continue to pursue Ms Kilby to have this judgment overturned and seek damages against her.
My fans have come to recognize that I am an open and honest person who has given my heart, love and commitment to my fans and what I do. When you put yourself in the public light, you are vulnerable to all kinds of allegations. I have never claimed to be perfect and I have produced two books and over 170 videos to help other women learn from my mistakes. This entire situation has allowed me to bring yet another lesson and blessing to my fans.
Lesson #1 Always do a back round check on the person you are dating and before you get married. That includes asking for a tangible divorce certificate if they have been previously married. Had I done this both my husband and I would have learned sooner that his attorney did not do what he was paid to do. You cannot assume the people you hire will do their jobs, you must confirm it.
Lesson #2 Be careful of the people you hire and associate with. You cannot believe everything you read or hear. The more money people assume you have, the more they will attack you and blackmail you for it.
Lesson #3 Hurt people hurt people and it takes strength and faith not to fight back when everything you have worked for is under attack and someone you have never met wants to harm you and your family.
I pray for Candace Bush, Lauren Kilby and anyone else who desires to attack my family or me. Their arms are too short to box with God's. I do not harbor any ill will against them. I am more than positive that people can see them for what they are worth and distinguish the truth from the bitterness. Although I choose to conduct myself with class at all times, I will not now or ever run away from a battle that has been wrongfully waged against me and I am more than willing to use the legal system to settle any and all imbalances.