- Report: #300326
Complaint Review: Carolyn Gibson
| Carolyn Gibson Pingry School, 50 Country Day Drive
Short Hills, New Jersey U.S.A. |
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Carolyn Gibson, Pingry School Carolyn Dow Gibson: Psycho Private School "Teacher" in New Jersey Short Hills New Jersey
*Consumer Comment: I Still Want Some Reparations!
*REBUTTAL Owner of company: This Is Not The Carolyn Gibson I Knew At Vail Deane
*Consumer Comment: Discrediting Kids: Does The Pingry School Have a Faculty of Child Predators?
*Consumer Comment: If the School is All So Full of HONOR then Why Can't They Apologize?
*General Comment: PURPOSEFUL IGNORANCE NOT AN EXCUSE
*Consumer Comment: Institute Mandatory URINALYSIS!
*Consumer Comment: Additional Information on Carolyn and Toshi Gibson
*Consumer Comment: You'd Be Better Off Expelled
*Consumer Suggestion: Pingry
*Consumer Suggestion: Pingry Should Have the Good Sense to Issue an Ultimatum
*Consumer Comment: NJ Private Schools should Pay the Kids Reparations
*Consumer Comment: NJ PRIVATE SCHOOLS--similar to Oak Knoll School, Summit New Jersey
*Consumer Comment: Vail-Deane: A Faculty of Fruit Loops
*UPDATE Employee: It's True
*Consumer Comment: Has Pingry's Diversity Policy Expanded to Include Hop Head Faculty Members?
*Consumer Comment: Carolyn and Toshi Gibson: Every Parents' Worst Nightmare Come True
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I had the misfortune as a child to be subjected to the grotesque unprofessionalism of Mrs. Gibson. I am writing this now as a fully grown woman and I can say definitively that Mrs. Gibson was the worst, most
vicious, most two-faced, hypocritical, passive-aggressive freak I have ever known anywhere. Gibson was sociopathic. To be subjected to her in a school setting was beyond unconscionable on the part of the school I attended, another private prep school called Vail-Deane, which went bankrupt (and deserved to). Gibson absolutely thrived when it came to targeting certain children to use as depositories for her verbal abuse and total obnoxiousness, and she even told enormous, ludicrous lies about those she did not personally likein the hopes that she could get us thrown out of school. In my case she lied about me on the one hand, then would laugh in my face about it when no adults from the teaching staff or the administration happened to be around on the other. How convenient. At one point I was even threatened by her outside against the brick wall of the school building.
It was disgusting.
There I was, a private school kid whose parents were paying a lot of money for me to attend Vail-Deane, being threatened up against a brick wall. Literally. By Gibson.
I remember her mocking kids in front of other kids, too. Her worst comment was about a shy little girl named Missy. Gibson was sitting there and sneering, "Missy - SHE'S the one with buck teeth, braces and glasses," and then laughing uproariously about that, as though it was funny. What kind of a sicko would sit there, as a TEACHER, and say such a thing, which only served to encourage kids to be cruel to a child who was totally harmless but just physically plain, like Missy was? At the time of that incident, Missy was eight (8) years old! And Carolyn Gibson was about 35. Watching Gibson was like watching a case of arrested development in action. How many people in their 30's need to mock kids the way that schoolyard bullies in grammar school do?
But there was a major flaw in Carolyn Gibson's little game plan: she did not seem to realize that, bully certain children though she might, the day eventually dawns when those children grow up. Some of us even grow up and have no problem whatsoever with blowing the whistle on people like her. And then what happens to Mrs. Gibson's little house of cards? Like the fabled walls of Jericho, it comes a-tumblin' down!
Carolyn Dow Gibson is a complete disgrace to teaching and to humanity. I think she works exclusively in private schools because she knows on some level that the public schools would never tolerate her emotional problems; she would not be able to fly under the radar as easily in a public school with an active PTA looking out for the children's interests. The Pingry School must be run by people who are either too cheap to pay teachers of a higher caliber than Gibson or too stupid to see what kind of a "woman" is standing before them when they look at her, because there's no other explanation as to why anybody in their right mind would hire Carolyn Dow Gibson.
I caution parents against sending their children to Pingry or to any other school that would hire this strange and deeply sick woman. To paraphrase an old Vietnam era anti-war poster, "Carolyn Gibson is not healthy to children and other living things."
Caesar's wife
Elizabeth, New Jersey
U.S.A.
This report was posted on Ripoff Report on 01/15/2008 05:08 PM and is a permanent record located here: http://www.ripoffreport.com/r/Carolyn-Gibson/Short-Hills-New-Jersey-07078/Carolyn-Gibson-Pingry-School-Carolyn-Dow-Gibson-Psycho-Private-School-Teacher-in-New-J-300326. The posting time indicated is Arizona local time. Arizona does not observe daylight savings so the post time may be Mountain or Pacific depending on the time of year.
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I Still Want Some Reparations!
AUTHOR: Malibu cliffs - (U.S.A.)
SUBMITTED: Sunday, July 17, 2011
Missy, what you are describing is awful. I'm so sorry to hear you were treated like that. So was I. I remember that there were a lot of teachers who would say nasty things behind kids' backs when certain kids would leave the room or were absent or something like that. I don't know who Cesar's Wife is or what may have gone on with Gibsen but I do remember a lot of teachers talking very inappropriately about kids to other kids. The psycho math teacher all but drove one of my friends there straight over the edge. None of us should have been treated like that.
Most of the faculty weren't fully qualified, state certified teachers. I know for a fact another member of their sick faculty was fired from a public school for being a drunk. It's funny, she was kind of nice, the fired drunk one, but the point is that no public school wanted her near their students. They didn't want to be liable. What did Vail-Deane do? Vail-Deane took her on with no qualms.
Maybe they should have had a few.
It just shows what kind of a place that was. They tried to destroy a lot of student's self worth. This is probably no comfort, Missy, but you're not alone. They did this to a whole lot of us.
Living well is the best revenge!
#2 REBUTTAL Owner of company
This Is Not The Carolyn Gibson I Knew At Vail Deane
AUTHOR: lilybart - (USA)
SUBMITTED: Saturday, July 09, 2011
I was horrified to read that slanderous article concerning Carolyn Gibson's conduct at Vail-Deane. I was a "Lifer" at Vail-Deane, from K-12. During those 13 years I was targeted by bullies repeatedly about my overbite I had as a child. This abuse you would think would never be tolerated by an exclusive private school who's parents pay a hefty tuition so their children get a quality education in a safe, nurturing environment. However, many students and teachers alike took sadistic pleasure in treating me so cruelly that the trauma haunts me to this day.
I have a vivid memory of the perpetrators. For example, a certain art teacher who is now at Wardlaw-Hartridge School. I was in her class for many years. She always told me all my work was worthless and thus made me feel I was worthless. Then there was the 2nd grade teacher who knew I was a poor math student. Many times she called me to go to the blackboard to do an equation she knew I couldn't solve. She would shout at me "Just do it!" repeatendly and let classmates laugh at me. I would be so humiliated that I ran to the bathroom in tears. This was sadistic, pure and simple. Finally, there was a female math teacher in midlle/upper school who also thought I was a hopeless student and didn't conceal her contempt for me. None of these women should ever have been put in charge of teaching children. When I was being bullied by other students at Vail Deane. Often, in full view of my teachers, virtually all of them would do nothing to stop it. Now over 20 years later, the scars of my Vail Deane past never fully healed. Thanks to "Caesar's wife" these painful memories were brought back to life.
Now to the subject of Carolyn Gibson. She was not among the teachers who abused me. On the contrary, she was one of the few faculty members who always showed me kindness and compassion. She was also an excellent 3rd grade teacher. I never witnessed her bully anyone. 3 years ago I saw Carolyn Gibson at the funeral of a mutual friend. She was as kind and warm to me as she always had been when I was a child. Not at all the person described by others in this article. The portrayal of Carolyn Gibson as "sociopathic", a "sicko" who "thrived when it came to targeting certain children to use as depositories for her verbal abuse" is a pack of lies. The coward who claims to have seen and heard her mock and laugh at students like "Missy" must have motives to fabricate these lies about Carolyn Gibson. "Caesar's wife" should feel free to write a rebuttal.
BTW, I am Missy as mentioned in "Caesar's wife" Rip-off Report of Carolyn Gibson.
#3 Consumer Comment
Discrediting Kids: Does The Pingry School Have a Faculty of Child Predators?
AUTHOR: LibertyFlame - (United States of America)
SUBMITTED: Wednesday, May 11, 2011
#4 Consumer Comment
If the School is All So Full of HONOR then Why Can't They Apologize?
AUTHOR: SingOutLouise - (USA)
SUBMITTED: Tuesday, April 12, 2011
I'll tell you why. They're not sorry, they're sociopaths, and honor is not what they're full of!
All the best to the kids who are still stuck in, and suffering, in such private "schools." It gets better once you leave, kids. Hang tough. Oh, and if you see her, say "high" to Mrs. Gibson!
#5 General Comment
PURPOSEFUL IGNORANCE NOT AN EXCUSE
AUTHOR: Maryann - (U.S.A.)
SUBMITTED: Thursday, March 31, 2011
As far as everyone else here why are you not writing to the school? Complain to a director at the school? Or there must be a 'commission' that 'oversees' private schools in New Jersey. Just be sure you have documentation/pics/recording/witnesses to back up your accusations... Get a petition together?
If you don't do that, I can only assume you have been harboring resentments which you need to let go of because they work like a cancer eating you from the inside out... Pray for Ms Gibson - sounds like she needs them. Then forgive her for her ignorance your forgiveness will set 'you' free. Warning this is not an easy thing to do...it takes courage.
To the person telling a kid at school to not do her homework - ever - so she can get expelled/suspended? What kind of message is that to give to a kid? 'You' are the grown up - or are you?
The school kid should advise her parents how miserable she is, if they are supportive parents, they will help her through this... If she cannot go to her parents she should find another adult who she can trust to talk to. They can either have her finish out the year or perhaps the kid has a problem with going to school and is miserable for 'other' reasons. Besides weren't we all miserable with school at one time or another?
Good luck to all of you I hope you can move on past this, you deserve to be happy...
#6 Consumer Comment
Institute Mandatory URINALYSIS!
AUTHOR: Malibu cliffs - (U.S.A.)
SUBMITTED: Tuesday, February 01, 2011
If I were running this school that hired a known drug abuser and lets her teach, I would insist on her being subjected to MANDATORY URINALYSIS on a weekly basis to ensure she was not still using drugs! Let her pee in a jar once a week! Let the medical professionals find out what illegal substances she does or doesn't have running through her bloodstream! If the school doesn't get on top of a potential disaster like this, they are going to wind up sued, sued, and sued some more if anything happens to one of the kids because of that loser coming to work stoned. Go look at her webpage. She's still bragging about the 1960's on it. Read between the lines and face what she is. If anything ever does happen to a kid because the teacher's coming in high, on your head be it, Pingry!
#7 Consumer Comment
Additional Information on Carolyn and Toshi Gibson
AUTHOR: Miami Mama - (U.S.A.)
SUBMITTED: Monday, November 10, 2008
One is that when the faculty member Leboff leaked the info to the parents about the Gibson's drug abuse she said that the reason they were doing their drugs at night in the same school bus in which they drove the Vail-Deane students in the mornings was so that their landlord in Plainfield, NJ wouldn't smell the pot and call the cops. Leboff also said Carolyn Dow Gibson came from a very nice family, which I find almost impossible to believe, that her parents were "appalled" at her lifestyle, living at first unmarried with the bus driver in a hovel in Plainfield furnished with orange crates, doing drugs all the time, and that her parents had wanted to "do something" about her. But her parents DID NOT do anything about her. They did not do one single thing to stop their sick, irresponsible daughter.
Instead, children like mine had to suffer through being the recipients of her drug-induced paranoia and abuviseness. My daughter reports that Gibson was consistently paranoid and thought kids were "out to get her," would even spy on them, which is a drug abuse symptom, and that it was terrifying to watch this play out. Keep in mind that as a parent I was paying Vail-Deane for the "honor" of sending my kid into this bad situation.
Carolyn and Toshi Gibson, if you are reading this, you are TOTALLY REPREHENSIBLE, and I am delighted to have the Internet provide me with a forum for saying so to the world. You're like two cockroaches who do your dirty work in the dark, when nobody is able to see, but thanks to the Internet, the rest of us can shed and shine the light on your sick activities and illuminate them in all their sordid glory for other parents of kids you come in contact with.
The kids really should be paid reparations for dealing with you.
#8 Consumer Comment
You'd Be Better Off Expelled
AUTHOR: Malibu Cliffs - (U.S.A.)
SUBMITTED: Saturday, November 08, 2008
#10 Consumer Suggestion
Pingry Should Have the Good Sense to Issue an Ultimatum
AUTHOR: Miami Mama - (U.S.A.)
SUBMITTED: Tuesday, July 08, 2008
Step up to the plate, here, Pingry. Get her into treatment or tell her to get another job.
#11 Consumer Comment
NJ Private Schools should Pay the Kids Reparations
AUTHOR: Malibu Cliffs - (U.S.A.)
SUBMITTED: Saturday, June 28, 2008
I have a consumer suggestion that I'm certain Vail-Deane, Pingry and Oak Knoll all won't like, which is why I am going to gleefully mention it: the bastions of impropriety involved with running all three less-than-lovely places should seriously think about finding all the kids whose lives they messed up, every single one of us, and paying us all REPARATIONS. Yes, ladies and gentlemen, reparations! What a delightful little concept that would be: to be PAID BACK. After all, our parents trusted you fruit loops with our educations, paid hefty piles of tuition money to you, and sent us to your "schools" in good faith, and how much good faith were we treated with in return? Absolutely none whatsoever!
So I'd like my hefty pile of tuition money back. That's what I'd like. Adjusted upwards to account for the inflation of the intervening years, of course. Give it back. I may never get it, but I'd like it. After all, you may have taken it, but you assuredly did not earn it, and every kid who was there at the time knows it. Give it back, Vail-Deane and Oak Knoll! Give it back.
#12 Consumer Comment
NJ PRIVATE SCHOOLS--similar to Oak Knoll School, Summit New Jersey
AUTHOR: Janice - (U.S.A.)
SUBMITTED: Saturday, May 10, 2008
I went through similar experiences at Oak Knoll School in Summit, NJ. It was close to our house, so I was able to walk there. My parents did not want me attending the junior-high school in Summit NJ, which was probably a mistake. It could not have been any worse than that place. Because we weren't wealthy, many of these snobbish girls would not even talk to me. Many days, I cried in the bathroom at lunchtime because I was so miserable. The faculty would not do anything about anything. And the place wasn't even very clean. I got ringworm from kneeling on the gym floor, which should never have happened. Of course, the girls laughed about that, too. Wherever they are now, I hope they are all living miserable lives. So I can certainly relate to the unhappiness of those who posted here before about Pingry School and Vail-Deane.
As a former education faculty member for 10 years, who supervised student teachers and taught future teachers, and who has now returned to school to become a registered nurse (career change at age 42), I have the following suggestions for parents who are considering private school for their children:
1) Find out the average income of the parents who send their children to school there. If they are all driving Mercedes Benz SUVs, and you can't even begin to afford one, your children will have trouble fitting in, because they've been raised to see the value of a dollar. For these rich kids, a dollar is never enough; it's not even in the equation.
2) Spend time at the school observing. The principal should allow a parent or parents to spend a few days at the school, and the prospective student should go as well. If my parents had allowed me to observe the way things went at Oak Knoll, I would NEVER have gone there!
3) Interview the faculty. Ask questions about their qualifications and how they feel about students with special needs. If they seem disinterested, uncaring or don't want to give you any of their time, this place is not for you or your child.
I hope the above suggestions are helpful to those parents considering private school placement for their children. Sometimes people get carried away because they assume that it's a private school and it has a fancy name, it must be good. There are plenty of reputable schools around, not necessarily private, which can provide an excellent education, and not cause students grievous harm in the process!
#13 Consumer Comment
Vail-Deane: A Faculty of Fruit Loops
AUTHOR: Malibu Cliffs - (U.S.A.)
SUBMITTED: Saturday, May 10, 2008
So nothing, and I do mean nothing, that I ever hear surface about that school shocks me at all. All I will say is that after my Vail-Deane experience, no child of mine will ever be setting foot in a private school, and that anyschools that subsequently hired Vail-Deane faculty assuredly belong right here on Ripoff Report.
It's all true about Carolyn and Toshi Gibson's drug usage. It's also true that Carolyn most clearly and certainly fits the profile of a sociopath. When I read "The Sociopath Next Door" it gave me chills because it reminded me so frighteningly of Carolyn Gibson.
I wish I had had the courage of the Vail-Deane student who published this report. Those of us who knew what was going on should have spoken up, and we didn't. I, for one, am just so sorry.
#15 Consumer Comment
Has Pingry's Diversity Policy Expanded to Include Hop Head Faculty Members?
AUTHOR: Nalle - (U.S.A.)
SUBMITTED: Saturday, February 16, 2008
So I have to wonder. Is having an addict on the faculty part of their diversity policy too? Definitely an addict would qualify as "different" and "diverse." But diverse or not why do they have this woman on their staff? Once an addict always an addict. Addicts are emotional weaklings they can't face normal daily stress and there is a lot of daily stress in a classroom. One day she might get stressed, get high, get behind the wheel of her car and run down some kids in the parking lot. It could happen. And if it happens Pingry will be liable. It is right here on the Internet that she has a major problem. So the Pingry administration must already know and they are doing nothing about her.
The Pingry parents should grab their kids and vote with their feet. Get the kids out of Pingry until they stop hiring addicts.
#16 Consumer Comment
Carolyn and Toshi Gibson: Every Parents' Worst Nightmare Come True
AUTHOR: Miami Mama - (U.S.A.)
SUBMITTED: Thursday, February 07, 2008
every night, close all the windows, and smoke their pot in there, with the windows all shut, the better to "concentrate" the pot, be surrounded by the smoke, and get higher from it. They invited another teacher, who flatly refused, to do the same, and then the story made its way around the Vail-Deane Faculty Lounge, and finally to some of the parents.
Doris Leboff was hesitant in telling this to anyone until her daughter Barbara, who went to the school for free because she was a faculty member's child, had graduated. To protect her daughter Barbara, Doris Leboff allowed other people's children, including mine, to be driven around on that school bus by those two fouled-up hippies and to risk being killed on a daily basis by their irresponsibility as they drove under the influence of illegal substances.
This story was later confirmed by not one, not two, but three other former Vail-Deane faculty members. Everyone knew what those two Gibsons were about but nobody did a single thing about stopping them.
They were stopped by the cops for speeding with the van full of children a few times. The school was called by the police about it. The Headmaster did absolutely nothing.
I don't know just what was going on there but there was no accountability from the Headmaster, the Board of Trustees, or from the faculty. I believe the Gibsons should have been placed under arrest for reckless endangerment as well as for buying, using, possessing and driving under the influence of illegal drugs. It's to
protect the rest of us that such street drugs are illegal in the first place, but nothing was done to protect the children against this disgusting duo, Carolyn and Toshi Gibson.
Obviously there's no accountability present at the Pingry School either or the likes of the Gibson woman would not be permitted to remain on their staff. Then again Vail-Deane was Pingry's sister school, so why am I surprised at their lack of ethics?

