I have three children currently in foster care. They have had a very ruff time in the custody of CYS. They have been in foster care for about a year and a half. It all began with my son having an accident. He was 2 years old when he fell out a window on my mother's front porch. He only fell three or four feet, but he got a huge gash underneath his right leg. He was in Pittsburgh for a week or so and then came home.
Now I'm not going to say that they didn't have reasons to make a case on my children but I don't agree with everyone else saying that I deserved for them to be put in foster care. I could be wrong though, because I suffered severly from depression while they were in my care.
I had my first daughter Storm, who is 5, when I was 17. Then at 19 I had my son Asa, who is 3, and before my 21st birthday I had my daughter Orenda, who is 2. Asa and Orenda had minor diaper rashes, no open sores or bleeding, and Storm had a urinary tract infection that I had no idea about. When I found out how bad it was I cried, knowing that my daughter was in that much pain. She never mentioned anything and I never noticed her having any problems going to the bathroom.
I am writing this report because I need help getting them out. I have done everything that CYS has asked me to do and more, but the only thing that has happened is that my children have been moved to a foster family that my children don't like. Storm has been through 2 other foster homes then placed there.
She originally supposed to have respit care at the second home because the original foster family thought that she could use some one-on-one that they couldn't provide all the time. But they always wanted her to come back. Storm has also acted out in bad ways, I really don't want to put in here what she has done because it is very personal.
She has been put in counseling only at the original foster mom's and my demand. Since being at the new home she has gone to see CART(not sure what it stands for) a few times at my demand. She has been taken out because she started acting out again and the foster mom couldn't handle it. She is taking care of 5 children, 2 she and her husband adopted years ago and my 3 children.
I don't know what happened to my daughter to make her act out and with her in CYS's custody I don't think I will ever find out. I only receive one hour and a half visit once a week with my children now. When they were in their first home, and when I had not done anything that was asked of me, I was able to come down and see them with my sister, who was and still is approved to suppervise, whenever we wanted as long as the family was home.
They were placed in care in June 2005 and I really didn't start visiting them much until this year. I know that sounds horrible, and I feel horrible about it. The only reason I have was that I was scared to see them, I didn't know if they were mad at me, if they even wanted to see me and if I deserved to see them.
Because of my son's accident I was put in jail and charged with endangering the welfare of children. So with that hanging over my head after getting out of jail, I thought that I deserved the charge. Now I don't think I do.
Now after so long being in care and me completeing everything CYS has asked me to do, I get hour and a half visits once a week and NO HOLIDAYS. I don't understand why I can't have them for holidays. If anyone out there can help me get my babies back home before Christmas, please contact me.
Thank you so much,