On the 20th of March 2008 some referral was received alleging general neglect of my son by my wife and I. Still to this day we have not been allowed to know any details concerning this referral. I admittedly was assigned to 120 days of community service. on a previous misdemeanor drug case. I missed my court date on the 28th of March 2008 and therefore Riverside County issued a bench warrant for my arrest. I arrived home from work to 4 riverside sheriff's ripping apart our house and 2 Child protective services employees. I car pooled with a co-worker and he was told to sit while they searched his vehicle and checked for any warrants. Both social workers were outside our house with one of the younger sheriffs and my son. I began to play with my son to put him at ease. We bounced a ball back and forth and my son Kodi attempted to involve the sheriff and one of the social workers, who happened to be about 8 months pregnant. The other social worker and the sheriff began flirting in an unprofessional manner.
My FIVE year old son still tried to play with the sheriff and he grabbed the ball and tossed it under our house, actually an RV. I asked if I could get it and I was told that I could not. The sheriff made my son go about 5 feet underneath of the RV. I told my son to be careful. Thankfully he was able to retrieve the ball and the sheriff continued to throw the ball in different directions. He turned his back as I watched nervously as my son started to run towards the street where a car was approaching. Again thankfully he listened when I asked him to stop. Apparently involving ones self in unprofessional conduct was more important to these people than looking out for the welfare and safety of my son. After a failed effort by the bullies to obtain any evidence to back-up their unknown report of general neglect/abuse, we were both administered field sobriety tests. We passed those tests and were issued a urine test. Two and a half months later, while in the custody of Riverside County Jail, we were told that we tested way above the limit for controlled substances.
The public defenders had no explanation as to why the test took so long to analyze. We were also denied our right to our discovery, or case findings. We were told to plead guilty unless we wanted to be sentenced to at least a year in State Prison.
CPS is supposed to look to family members as a temporary Guardian in cases such as these. My wife and I both informed the social workers and the officers about my mom and her willingness to watch over my son. We provided contact numbers and addresses.
No attempt was made at contacting my mother. My wife and I were sentenced to 120 days in jail. I served 87 days with Good Time and 3 days for time served. I was denied transportation to the first Juvenile court hearing therefor the Judge granted a continuance. This happened two more times. Each time my attorney, Dawn Shipley, stated to the Judge and my mother that I had denied transportation. The 4th time was a charm and was also almost about two weeks away from my release date. On this day, June 10th, Dawn Shipley came into my holding cell at the Juvenile court in Riverside. She batted her eyes, smiled then began telling me a story about the Sheriff of Riverside County jail. She said he was called in by the Judge to provide an explanation as to why they were denying me transportation. Then she said that the Judge threw the case out. Dawn presented me with papers and I was told to sign my rights to a speedy trial. Speedy?? = 2 months 21 days??
We were told that we could not talk in court. Dawn Shipley did informed the Judge that my son, Kodi, had not visited with me, my wife or even my mother. Kodi was not even allowed phone contact with my mom, despite CPS being provided with her contact info. That same week Kodi was transported out to Murrieta to visit with me. Then they took him to see my wife in Banning and finally he was allowed to see my mom. The social worker assigned to our case at this time was Kay Phillips. After our release we met with Kay Phillips 3 times at my Mom's residence. Kay Phillips attempted to help in our transition to Family Reunification. Due to my detainment I lost my Job as an Electrical foreman and my landlord moved all of our furniture from the unit we were renting from him. Kay Phillips encouraged the move to Las Vegas because we were going to be moving in with my brother in law and his wife to assist them in their hardship. She told us to inform our attorneys and put us at ease by telling us that she has parents in Washington and Minnesota successfully participating in family reunification services. We did as she suggested. So then we get to Las Vegas and get stuck in Limbo due to a reassigning of the case to the Banning office. Then we are provided with the sheep in wolf's clothing, Merville Olieberg and her loose lip assistant Lisa. Lisa racked up travel expenses while driving from Banning to Mira Loma and then to Calimesa. She also felt the need to make judgments about my wife and to discuss case details with my mom and the foster mother. Eventually my mom, who has always befriended my ex-girlfriends in an effort to use them to create problems with my current partner. I was blind to this and many other selfish and jealous acts until a year or so into the case. Merville stated that she had contact with me on April 15, 2008. I was still in jail and she had no idea who I was at that point. Forgery and plagiarism evidently are common practices among the CPS workers in the Banning, CA office. I have noticed these dishonest practices conveyed in Merville Olieberg, Fay Edmond, and the very unarticulated and illiterate Tedra Graham. Back in Las Vegas Merville Olieberg contacted us after our Court date in October and told us to find a parenting and drug counseling class. The following week she told us that she had to set it up. We were set up for an entrance interview at Bridge counseling and finally after the holiday season we were placed in our classes. We were instructed after the fact that if we asked for a completion date then we were not ready.....
In January, 2009 we arrived at court to hear the Judge issue a continuance.
In May, 2009 we arrived in Riverside, California for our one year review. This is where I truly saw my mom's true nature. Her unqualified analysis of me and my wife, during our visits to see Kodi, was allowed to be submitted in Merville's report. This report was not received by us until 3 weeks after our court date. We were then scolded for not having a completion date with a substance abuse program set up by Mrs. Olieberg. Dawn Shipley tried to convince me to leave my wife, just as she had done the three previous court dates, she assured me that I would be given custody and reunified with my son. When I told her that I loved my wife and my son she ran to my mom and told her that my wife had a slip up and I didn't want to leave her. I explained to Dawn before the hearing that our service had not actually started until January of 2009. So in reality only 4 months of services were offered in a program that did not operate in conjunction with Riverside's expectations. Dawn said that it doesn't matter and she won't bring it up to the Judge because he will not care. Family re-unification services were terminated and still Dawn Shipley told me to get a completion date for my substance abuse counseling class. Parenting class certificates were offered to Mrs. Olieberg, but she refused them. We were told to fax them. The next day they were faxed over and were said to be unreadable. The next attempt was completed two fold, fax and snail mail. When asked about visibility of Certificates Merville Olieberg told us she was no longer assigned to our case Tedra Graham's information was obtained through my mom. Tedra refused to acknowledge any and all attempted contact from us. She told my mother she wasn't the social worker, which contradicted her blatantly obvious attempts at plagiarizing reports. Two phone calls from my son were ordered by the Judge on 04/15/2010. I felt the need to ask for this since my rights and the rights of my son were being violated since day one. My mom tried to use my son as a bargaining chip to separate me from my wife. Tedra Graham told my mom and my step father to deny any communication between me and my son.
On April 20, 2010 I finally was able to speak with my son. Fay Edmond, who was not present for court, informed my wife that about the rules dealing with communication between us and our son. Then she said we were only "authorized" ONE call a month at her discretion. I called up my mom in tears because she promised that she would not lie about me to CPS. I asked her if she had said that our communication with Kodi was inappropriate. She said no but that she would call Fay to make sure there wasn't any understanding. Fay Responded the next day in an intimidating and unprofessional manner. She called us liars and stated that we don't know "her." We were worried about the tone of her voice and power trips exemplified by her co-workers. Dawn Shipley informed me before hand that her and Fay Edmond were friends and she would be helpful IF I told her that Dawn told me to call her and that she was my attorney.
I spoke with Dawn Shipley to express all my concerns that I was not given time for during every single court date. She said she would talk with Fay then tried to hang up on me. I spent the next hour on the phone with her telling her about my continuing my education to become a Minister and how I felt that I had been wrongly judged by others. I was promised a call back after she talked with Fay. Now Dawn has apparently joined in the slander so perfectly executed by everyone else. She said I was yelling and cussing at her. Now I am unable to get any response from her. I have only been given the socials workers reports once before the actual court date.
My mother has been trying to replace me with my son, like it is her second chance to do things better. The reality is that she takes more pain medications. She wakes up at 2-3 pm with a hangover caused by her daily over indulging. My step Dad makes broken promises to Kodi daily. My mom wants visitation but then any time he needs something she tells him to go away and play games.
I grew up with severe Asthma as a kid due to my mom's chain smoking. She would refuse to go outside and smoke. She encourages Kodi to deny that she is smoking in the house. She seems to have some need to talk badly about me to my son. I used to be devastated and heartbroken when she would do that to me regarding my father. Kodi has been through too much already. I would rather have him away from my mom's destructive ways. The family that is adopting him seem like great people and I believe that that is what is best for him. I asked God to do for his help in assisting Kodi and I see he responded. He was the joy of my life, but this experience has helped me see my purpose in life. At the same time I will go through with any actions needed to prevent this occurrence from scarring a kid for life. Then like robots, after another issuing of a continuance, our Attorneys and Mrs. Olieberg told us to keep up the good work and just keep doing what we are doing and we will have him back.