My daughter was 15 years old when she began stealing, lying, running away from home, drinking, and ditching school. In order to make herself look like the victim when she was caught, she began telling stories of mental and physical abuse, all lies. "Thelma" was the first CPS person who told me to work with my daughter more positively. No mention to my daughter about her behaviors, no proof of abuse.
Over the next few months, my daughter knew all she had to do was call Thelma and her behavior was blamed on me. After being threatened with a "report of abuse in my file", I took my daughter to mental health as suggested by Thelma. Instead of treating her defiant behaviors or even addressing them, they blamed me!!! She had some great stories to make her look like the poor little abused girl. They put her on "meds" which I did not want and said they would make sure I gave them to her. Funny they never checked up on her stories.
After putting up with threats and accusations - none of which were substantiated, I was threatened that "it wouldnt look good for me" if I didn't allow my daughters boyfriends family to keep her, I said go ahead. That was by a worker named D.J..
The only abuse my daughter experienced in my home was being adopted at age 4, participating in cheerleading, ballet, private school, soccer and little league. I can accept that maybe I was overly concerned about her weight - she would eat everything - and tried to make restrictions and I pushed her to go to school.
Well now she is over 250 pounds, no job skills, and has only completed her freshman year of high school. She lives with her boyfriend and his grandparents - and works full time at a fast food place. Thank you CPS for your great help. Maybe if they had spent more effort helping her with her behavior instead of focusing on what they could get me for - my daughter may have turned out differently. If I had the resources, I would go after them for what they did to me and my family.