My significant other is a gentle, kind, and decent man and these virtues have led him into a ludicrous mess. He married a woman in Detroit who had a half-black child, the result of her union with 3 different black men.(She is unsure which is the real father.)
When asked by his wife, my significant other was kind enough to give the child his name upon entry into school at age 6. Because of the woman's repeated cheating, my significant other divorced this woman. She immediately quit working and filed for child support. My significant other paid it for several years.
Then the woman went into 1 county court in Michigan and testified under oath and provided a notarized statement that my significant other was indeed NOT the father and that she had named him because she couldn't find the real father.
My significant other took a DNA test proving that he is not the blood parent. The court accepted this and released him from his obligation. HOWEVER, this woman knows how to play the Michigan game. She moves to a new county and files for payments there. The whole process continues. To date, my significant other has been arrested and jailed for this and has had to appear in several different courts and has taken 3 different DNA tests for which he has to pay. Every time this woman does not want to work, she does this and gets away with it.
When does the foolishness stop. Why can't what 1 county accepted stand up throughout the state of Michigan, nay, the whole country? She has testified and documented the fact that this is not the real father and she has no hopes of finding said real blood parent.
When are the courts going to see her for what she is: someone playing the system so that she does not have to work? My significant other is a good man but he should not be made to pay for someone else's child simply because the real parent cannot be found and he is a findable body. This child is now 12 and we have been going through this for 6 years. We have 6 more to go before she is 18.
Can someone please make it stop. We are trying to hold up against this but it is disruptive to our lives and I would like to live without the threat of this woman hanging over me all the time. It is ruining my health.