I am a mother of six. When I only had 4, my husband and I were divorced. 9 months after filing, he found another woman. I was okay with this. One year after filing and only six months after our divorce being finalized, she moved in. Once she moved in her demeanor changed towards our four children. (she has 3 children of her own)... Our four children were moved out of their two rooms that they slept in on weekend visits to the living room floor so that her children, who she validates because they were there full time, could move into our children's bedrooms. That is the least of the issues....
Her youngest is only a few months older than our oldest. We will call him Perve. Perve(9) would abuse our two youngest children who at the time were only 2 and 3. The other two children were 9 and 8(mine), hers were 12 and about 15. I would argue with my ex about the children coming home with bruises and marks that weren't the normal kind for a child that age. My oldest son(9) started saying how he was being bullied by both Perve and the older step brother(12). I told him to stick up for himself. Victoria wanted nothing to do with any of my children but two. My oldest daughter(very dive like and beautiful) and youngest son(gorgeous and quiet do to a speech issue). She ostericized the other two.
A year later my younger daughter, now 4, came home form a visit and told me Perve played a game with her. I said that's nice(thinking he was finally coming around). I asked what game? She replied, 'Tongue touch'. ??? I was curious, was it a game were he was telling her to put her tongue on weird stuff like dog food?, dirt?, you know what I'm talking about... SHe said,'No'... I asked her to explain. She said he put his tongue in her mouth and had told her to put her tongue in his mouth. I was shocked. I called the Chandler Police. I had to bring my daughter(4) in for a forensic interview.
After conducting the interview and meeting with CPS, I was then told by the investigative Detective, MAckenzie, that even though the interviewer concluded something in fact happened, he felt my daughter had been coached and they were closing the case with no findings.
I was devastated!!!! Victoria kicked it into high gear on terrorizing the children at this point. She would verbally attack them when their father was working or in the shower. She would refuse to care for them, make breakfast, wash their clothes, help with homework, etc. I'm not saying a stepparent has to do all these things but when you are being supported by someone and they have children and you have children, then don't you care for all the children!!! She went as far as to tell my oldest son that because he didn't say'Hi' the night before, she wasn't going to drive him to school. A few weeks later, I had sent a text asking about school pictures that had went home with the kids and I had paid for them. She threatened me and then told my oldest daughter that next time she sees me she was going to beat the SH** out of me.. Really?
I go to court for like the 10th time trying to get the time that the kids must spend over there lessened. Nothing... January 2012... My two oldest children have cellphones, I had been ordered that the only communication I was to have with their father was by email. It was his weekend and the two older kids went to friends houses both Friday and Saturday night. I call on Sunday to say goodnight. My younger daughter(7) tells me, he's doing it again. I said, who, Perve? He's hitting you again? She says, no... She goes into how she woke up with Perve on top of her and her pants were down. She said both last night and the night before. Sick to my stomach, I tell her to put her sister on the phone and I say I love you and that I must go.
I call CPS. I call Chandler PD, dispatch tells me that they will have an officer call me if they deem it necessary. I call Gilbert Pd, trying to find out what I do next and if they can help, unfortunately, its not their jurisdiction. I live in Pinal County. I call MAricopa Pd. They send an officer over to my home. I had since received a text from my eldest daughter stating that the younger sister divulged the fact that Perve put his p***s in her butt. I showed the officer this text, he asked where were the children? I said still at their father's, it was his visitation time. At this point he made a call and right after, I received a call from the Chandler PD. The officer on the phone was arrogant and rude. He said he would forward the report onto a sergeant in the morning. I was not pleased with that, so I called my ex and yelled at him to talk to our daughter.
He did. I told him I was on my way and he said he was going to the Police station. While sitting with my daughter, she told me that her stepmother Victoria was yelling at her and calling her a liar. How do you call a child who should know nothing about this stuff she's lying...
He DID it!!!! Forensic medical exam shows damage. In the months to come this woman would harass and have her frist ex husband harass and threaten my ex. Her oldest (19) has a record as well but can you blame her. Look at who her mother is. The week before all this happened, Perve's 16 yr old brother had been arrested at school and on the same day aressted later for abuse.
This woman is out there, unfortunately, its not just her.. Its her whole entire family. Her mother, her sister who had her children taken away, her daughter(was pregnant as a teen and gave up the baby because of drugs and deliquent behaviors), her oldest son( 16 and has a record), Perve(13 and the last grade completed was 5th grade, and he has been convicted of sexual misconduct w a minor), her first husband Joe(wanna be wise guy, absentee father).
This woman, whether she be a potential employee, potential friend, mother to a potential friend, potential girlfriend or wife- STAY AWAY!!!!!!!! She marries men with money, and after she has been made for that or her kids or her attitude messes up everything, she moves on. She will try to take everything from you and you won't know it until its too late.
If you are a lawyer and would like to assist with pursuing a civil case please contact me. CPS ignored a mother's plea for help, the police dismissed the signs and evidence, the court system wouldn't help even after proof of potential danger. There are potentially many parties that were neglectful in protecting my children. Thank you for reading my story. I hope no one has to endure this experience. Love your children as if you will never see them again.