Jeff Rose ripoff, Deadbeat Dad, home improvement, social security fraud, disability fraud, tax evasion Smithfield North Carolina

Amber has major issues when it comes to making up her own mind. In fact, she wasn't even thought of or imagined (altho, Jeff's family, Amber's maternal family, & others don't believe she's even Jeff's child b/c her mother ran off w/the father of the child she threw away then came back conveniently pregnant! What's that saying about the Mailman's baby?) 

I can recall many times when we ran into this child in the supermarket and her mother would literally peel her off me because she was clinging for dear life & in tears pleading to come home with me! I felt for the little girl, I truly did. It's worse now since all the lies have somehow manifested themselves into truths for her now & she hasn't got a clue what she is talking about because she was not even thought of when this began and was in diapers when A JUDGE REVOKED JEFF'S RIGHTS TO OUR DAUGHTER WITH THE EXCEPTION THAT HE WOULD PAY SUPPORT FOR HER SINCE HE REFUSED TO DO ANYTHING ELSE!  The only child this man's ever supported in a halfway decent manner is the kid he had with his 3rd or 4th wife (I've lost count by now...) 

With regards to mine and my husband's daughter's last name change, JEFF AGREED TO IT! HE SIGNED IT IN FRONT OF WITNESSES & A NOTARY IN THE COURTHOUSE! I'm glad my husband and I were able to give her the one thing she wanted: Our last name, our legacy, & our family! My husband didn't threaten to hit his mother and his mother sure as heck never went after him with a broom nor did she have to keep pounding into his head how babies are conceived along with how to prevent it! (Uh. CONDOM - DON'T TAKE WORDS OF PILLS, INJECTIONS, OR ETC - BRING QUALITY CONDOMS!) 

Jeff was never going to be capable of providing for himself let alone a family! He's proven that fact numerous times over. The fact that he tampered with his insulin (as he told me straight from his own mouth) to get on disability! He was always the type who believed that the world owed him a living when in truth, all it owed him was a swift kick in the assinine part! If you want a living, you work and earn it. You don't splurge on what you can't afford rather than making the trailer payment & lot rent & you sure as well don't go to your mother to have her hock their home yet again until finally his own trailer was forclosed on and it was worth a pittance of what it should have been worth by then due to the holes the children kicked in the walls & the fist holes he punched in the walls as well. I guess this is some strange senseless notion of believing one can significantly reduce the value of what was probably once a nice little place for a family before it was lost in forclosure. The saddest part is when the constant 2nd, 3rd, 4th, 5th, etc... refinanced loans for cash for a lazy son who refused to work his way through life but ultimately, he cost his parents their home, a home his father bought & paid for back in the 70s and would never have had a mortgage if it were not for his youngest son. 

It broke my heart when I ran into this man in town after his own home was in forclosure due to his wife & youngest son. We sat together on a bench under a shade tree as he broke into tears over the loss of the home he hoped to die in one day rather than a hospital and certainly better than he received via Hospice when his family literally signed the papers to starve him to death by refusing any type of liquid sustanance. That little 600sq ft house without central heat or air-conditioning that sat on less than a quarter of an acre of land was only valued at around $16,000 - $17,000 maxmimum yet at foreclosure, thanks to the serious bills this boy racked up left the house in foreclosure for more than $76,000! All I was able to do to comfort this elderly man was to hug him tight and let him know that he was always in my thoughts. This was also the day he asked me a personal favor. Never being one to tell this gentle souled man no, he asked if I would attend his funeral when his time come. Of course I attempted to get his mind off death and onto life but he stopped me by saying that he knew he wasn't going to stay in this world for long, especially after he had lost his home thanks to the son his wife spoiled to the point where he was never going to amount to anything. He asked again then told me why he wanted me at his funeral. He explained that he would understand if my daughter didn't want to come, which I assured him would never happen because she loved him still (and he was still making stops to see her tho they were few & far between since it was just prior to his losing his license thanks to his family, especially his youngest son, 2nd-oldest daughter, and his son's wife); he wanted me there not only for my daughter but also so he would know someone was going to be there who loved him without conditions placed upon that love. I promised that elderly right then and there that I would be at his funeral, liked or not, I'd be there for him so he didn't have anything to worry about b/c someone was going to be there who loved him without any conditions - someone who merely loved him for the kind elderly man with a slight limp yet gentle blue eyes for who he was and for who he tried to be. 

I remember after I first learned of his death, I felt such an overwhelming feeling of relief! He was finally free of that family who were constantly sticking knives in each others' backs! He was free of the constant fear of losing everything he wo rked so hard to provide because his youngest son took care of that when he failed to get the memo about how to prevent pregnancies along with not getting the memo regarding the meaning of wedding vows, although none of the children in that family, along with grandchildren too, didn't receive that memo either... 

Contrary to what Amber wants to believe, the greatest day of my life was when I was free of her "DADDY!" However, I wasn't the one stalking him all over the county for months then years on end. HE WAS! I didn't run myself off the road with my child in the backseat in a carseat - HIS WIFE (The wife who got pregnant at 14 then threw her baby away after it was born all for a man & happens to be the same teenager who is Amber's mother!) IT WAS AMBER'S MOTHER WHO DID THAT WITH MY EX IN THE PASSENGER SEAT! 

The only harsh words passed between us outside of informateion about my daughter was when Amber's mother, while standing next to the man whose marriage she blew apart, made a comment about how she stole my 1st husband and "she'd have my boyfriend too when she wanted him!" I still to this day cannot undestand how in the world or why in the world Jeff didn't leave that bitty standing in that parking lot alone while finding a good divorce attorney since he seems to know plenty of them!  My response to her rant was plain and simple. I told her that she & I wouldn't have a problem over Jeff unless she attempted to send him back b/c now that she had him, she had him for life because I sure as heck didn't want him! In addition, I added that my fiance' of 4 years didn't date children or girls who sleep around in attempts to trap them by getting pregnant so no, she would never even be a blimp on my fiance's radar. I promptly turned to walk to my car and left the kid standing in the parking lot with her bottom jaw sitting on the pavement while her illicit child molester (considering she was 15 when they began sleeping together & he was over 20, which is considered in this state as statutory rape!) 

In all fairness, Amber can't be blamed solely for her sad lot in life. After all, she didn't have anyone in her life to help guide her after the judge severed all decision-making options regarding school, extracurrucular activities that were school-related, and other activities we had her in such as ballet, jazz-tap tap-dancing, & Eastern Appalacian Irish Clogging, tee-ball, and many recreational center activities over the summer where we live, which are many considering we live in a nice, affluent, small city with a practically non-existent crime rate! Approximtely 98.9% of citizens own their homes and have children or the last of the children are studying to earn their undergraduate degree or working on their graduate degrees while others are grown, married, have children and they bring their grandchildren around practically every weekend. Oh and the July 4th celebration is amazing for such a small city! Our oldest daughter has brought quite a few young men out to spend the day at the park enjoying the festivities during the daytime and then there is the spectacular fireworks show that is as beautiful, or even more so, than cities 2 to 4 times the size of our little slice of heaven! I don't believe either of our children have missed a fireworks show here in years! Halloween & Christmas are equally as pictureque here. If I had to describe the place our children know as their childhood home, I'd have to say that it is as if it was possible to step through one of Norman Rockwell's famous paintings where everyone knows everyone else. I can't imagine raising our children anywhere else. The statistics on the schools here are phenominal! There is a 99.98% graduation rate among seniors; some 98.6 or more continue forward for their undergraduate degrees and almost as many earn their graduate degrees. Our oldest daughter took her state board exam and earned her state license as a Certified Nurse Assistant 2 weeks prior to the graduation commencement ceremony! Afterward, she worked through the summer months then began college in the fall just as the rest of the graduating class did. 

Amber's major problem is the fact that she is upset because her father is not perfect, far from it. She's angry because she knows her father strays from every wife he's had and did the same with her mother. He cheated on her wtih his best friend's wife and even got the woman pregnant! The other reason Amber is angry is because of jealousy. I can't help that I wasn't able to make her life easier but once the judge determined that Jeff put Tina's life in danger and could have very well killed her when he kidnapped her from the hospital the day she was to have surgery. Our daughter, mine and my husband's daughter, was deathly ill and required that surgery to save her life! Thankfully she had it in time but in the time it took to get an Emergency Custody Order and place an APB out on that family who kidnapped her, she could have died! This was something we were not and could not stand for and thankfully there was a judge who saw that this was reckless, dangerous behavior that put our daughter's life in jeapardy so therefore he did exactly what the law requires: He stripped Jeff of all parental decision-making rights along with visitation other than visitation at our home where we were able to ensure she was safe and not in harm's way. By that time, he learned he couldn't use her as a pawn anymore as payback for my refusal to take him back after Amber's mother left him the 1st time she walked out after he was unhappy with the fact that she was attempting to turn herself into me! She went to a hairdresser, not a high-end hairdresser that for certain, but she had her hair colored light like mine and had what was supposed to be an attempt at a spiral wrap string perm, while in addition, she went around everywhere trying to find out where I bought my clothes and shoes but wasn't able to do so since my clothes at the time were from a boutique I visited frequently in Virginia, which is where I also bought the 5 & 6in stiletto ankle boots, pumps, slingbacks, & other shoes I wore although I must admit it was not easy walking away from a pair of nice leather black or brown 5 or 6in stiletto heels unless it was for climbing shoes or the sneakers I wore for my daily jog or the 5 to 10 mile bike ride I took daily in order to stay fit but also so I could eat what I wanted and still fit into a size 6. After he walked out on her because she was trying to be me or turn herself into me, obviously Jeff wasn't as into her as he thought he would be, he ended up at my house where I promptly reminded him that the day he cheated & walked out I told him he would no longer be welcome in a marriage with me nor in my bed and those terms still stood!  Sometime later, I heard he reconciled with Amber's mother, who had conveniently become pregnant with her in her absence from her supposed husband she adored. 

But again, Amber isn't totally to blame. Some of that blame rests on the shoulders of her parents; however, the fact that she is legal age now is capable of making her own choices, perhaps it is time she disengage herself from these toxic people in order to find a life that might make Amber happy as it is more than clear from her response here that she is not happy with her lot in life. The only thing I know that can fix that problem is for her to get off her duff, get back into school, attend college, get a job, and make the life she wants without any meddling from the ones who have obviously filled her head with outright lies since again, she wasn't even thought of or even a flicker of a thought when most of this occurred and afterward, she was drinking milk from a bottle and having her diaper changed so she has no memories of her own, just the lies she's been feed her entire life. 

As for Jeff's blindness - yes, he is blind now but if he had allowed the specialists to do eye surgery when they pleaded with him so he wouldn't go blind and if he had stopped manipulating his insulin doses, he would be a fully sighted, working age adult without any defects or disabilities to prevent him from working! Again, he BRAGGED TO ME about how he was going to get on disability and then work for his brother in his roofing business. Sadly, karma hit and he lost his sight permanently and all out of greed and most importantly to get out of paying child support for the children he kept creating with different women! 

For the record, I do not now nor have I ever wanted him back after he walked out on me for the child he slept with that should have landed him in jail! As a parent, I don't understand why Amber's maternal grandparents didn't file for statutory rape was most likely due to her being pregnant by another man, which would seriously undermine any inkling of credibility so they cut their losses and put them to better use by raising a fine young man from that beautiful little boy this girl threw away all on the say-so of a married man. And my answer is the same today as it was that day in the parking lot, the only time we'll have trouble is if anyone attempts to bring him to my doorsteps because I didn't want him after I found out about his infidelity and I don't want him now, nor did I want him at any time in between! 

My only concern was raising my daughter with a wonderful father who loves her unconditionally and has throughout her entire life. She is HIS DAUGHTER, NOT JEFF'S! WE RAISED HER INTO THE SWEET, HARDWORKING YOUNG WOMAN SHE IS TODAY! And with regards to the wedding, her dream was to have her DAD (THE MAN WHO RAISED HER) to walk her down the aisle, to give her away on our behalf, and to have her Father-Daughter Dance with the only Daddy she's ever known - my husband of approximateily a quarter of a century now! Our daughter already had the songs picked out that she wanted for their dance along with a surprise song for me & her consideirng I'd helped her and her dates for the springi formals and the proms in order to have them dancing without tripping over toes and feet. It was an honor to dance with our daughter at her reception. Sadly, Jeff is like that bull in a China shop. He stomps all over everything and doesn't realize that he's not been a part of her life in more than 25 years so why now? She has a Dad and he loves her with every fiber of his being just as I do. Our daughter has an amazing family who loves her completely and have such pride in all her accomplishments. 

Jeff made his beds  I'm sorry but it's time he lays in them... He threw her away as if she didn't exist when he found he couldn't use her to manipulate anyone anymore and threw her away. What he wasn't counting on was having an excellent mom & dad at home who were capable and more than willing to give her everything she needed to succeed in life and she has done well. No parents could be more proud of their daughter than we are of our daughter. 

Amber, if you want that kind of life then you need to worry about changing YOUR LIFE and leave the lies your parents have told you where they belong: In a dumpster! Otherwise, you will turn out to be nothing more than a hateful person nobody wants to be around while running from man to man in an attempt to find happiness yet failing each time. Don't do as your mom did; don't do as your (supposed) father did. Stand up on your own feet and tell them to piss off then get busy making a living and lifting yourself out of the gutter where the normal people live. Throw those lies away b/c that's all you've been told is lies. Walk away and don't look back then start your own life from scratch and perhaps one day you will succeed where your parents failed mierably. Your words don't hurt me. I have a wonderful home in an amazing city where my husband & I are happily married, raised our children in this beautiful home and were able to send our children to the best schools so they had better chances at making the best life possible for them and one has already. The other won't be too far behind, even if she chooses to obtain her graduate degree as well as her undergrad degree, which we hope. She is fortunate to have such an amazing sister and to be part of a solid, non-dysfunctional family, where nobody stays around wno attemps to start trouble just for the sake of starting it. 

Get a life of your own b/c you were far too young to remember any of this.... diapers and bottle young! 

Revealer:

Thank you for your comments regarding those who are cheating the system & getting away with it, especially those who are deliberately destroying their bodies in an attempt to get on disability or SSDI in order to get out of working each day.

Please know that if medical technology was advanced enough to repair the damage to my retinas & corneas, along with the severely damaged joints, connective-muscle-tissue, skin, hair, and esp the pain not to mention the fact that I seriously miss working, I'd be out there in a heartbeat working my fanny off just as I did prior to the blindness then again prior to the diagnoses of the 4 types of autoimmune diseases that have destroyed my nervous system, damaged & is deteriorating my spine (most of the damage is in the lumbar spine & worsening but my entire spine is showing signs of damage & this damage makes it difficult for me to walk any distance w/o severe & excruciating pain;

my specialists tell me that I need to start coming to terms w/the fact that I will have no alternative but being confined to a powered wheelchair, sooner-rather-than-later, which scares the heck out of me b/c I can't see where I'm going & a power chair is my only option since the nerve damage to my fingers, hands, arms, & shoulder, not to mention the spine has far too much joint/spinal damage along with severely deteriorated neurological damage; it is more painful than you can imagine to write even this response).

I can't bring myself to tell my DH yet. He's a 'fixer' and just as with the hereditary gene that left me blind, he couldn't fix it though he spent a great deal of time & energy trying to find any specialist who could fix the problems with my retinals & optic nerves too (they're extraordinarily small for a person my age & the optic neurologist believes it's the result of my having been born severely premature & especially in a time when most premature infants who were born as premature as I was died either during the delivery or within hours to days to a week or so after birth but the Universe must have had another plan, as well as a purpose for me to be here. 

I love my children, please don't get me wrong; My husband & I both would lay down our lives for either one of them (and yes, my husband of more than a quarter of a century now loves our oldest child despite the fact they don't share DNA or other genetic ties - they share a father/daughter bond that nothing or nobody can break! He's loved her since the first time they met, which was approx 3yrs after we began dating b/c I didn't want to risk 3 broken hearts if our relatonship didn't work out & he understood completely. He had no intention of stepping on her birth father's shoes but when the worm refused to have anything to do with her & refused to support her,

which we already planned to put every dime of the child support into a trust so she wouldn't be lacking money for whatever she needed while in college... he gladly picked up the role of "Daddy" after it became abundantly clear that her birth father wanted nothing to do with her, not to mention his refusal to support her, which he had refused to do since he walked out for a 15yo pregnant teenager with mental issues, b/c only someone with mental issues would allow a boyfriend who was married with a wife & child convince her to give up her own child (the 1st child she had at 15, after getting pregnant at 14yrs old) in order to prevent his threats from coming true.

He threatened her that if she didn't give that "kid" away, they were over, so she did it! She actually did it! The only positive in that situation is that her parents adopted the child & then banned their daughter from their home and got a restraining order to keep her away from what was now THEIR SON & HER BROTHER! She wasn't allowed in their home or even on their property and wasn't allowed access to the baby, which was a great benefit considering how her next 2 kids faired. But I digress...

As I said, if specialists were capable of medically correcting the retinal damage, cornea damage, joint damage, etc... and fix my spine, my left knee, & keep me out of a wheelchair and my hands didn't have so much arthritis and Osteoarthritis along with nerve damage in them, I'd be in a job right now - no questions asked! I love my children but I know that if I was able to work, it would have made their lives so much easier because it'd been easier to pay the bills, put back for college, pay our home off earlier, and we might have had the financial capability of traveling more than we have all these years. My husband shouldn't have had to bear the brunt of it all. Sure, I receive SSDI, but believe me when I say it is nowhere near enough to live on. I guess that is why it makes me sick when I think back to that hateful phone call when my ex said he was getting on disability no matter what and he was already screwing with his insulin dosages to get there and he got there but he didn't get what he wanted. Karma took a big bite out of his backside!

The surgeons at the top eye center who diagnosed my eye problems (all of them) is also the center where his surgical specialists begged and pleaded with him to let them do surgery to correct the tears in the back of his retinas but he refused stating that he wasn't having any surgery until he WENT BEFORE THE DISABILITY JUDGE TO GET HIS DISABILITY APPROVED!  Well, 2 years went by and finally he got his day in disability court and was approved; however, in his ignorance and his greed, he never saw what was coming next! After 5 sugeries in attempt to save his sight, all 5 failed because he waited too long so now, he is totally blind! In addition, I've learned that his kidneys are shutting down & without a transplant,

which he doesn't deserve since screwing with insulin dosages makes vital organs weak and cause them to shut down so he likely did this to himself in his quest to get on disability and work on the side without paying taxes, he blew his life apart and only has himself to blame. Karma is taking care of the debt he owes for what he's done. Now he only has himself to blame and a short time to make things right b/c kidneys don't grow on trees & they're practically impossible to come by and that is only if he's viable to be on the transplant list to start with. 

thank you for your kind words and understand. FYI: Before the nerve damage to my hands and the arthritis with Osteoarthritis, I worked from home as an MT and loved every minute of it! I paid my taxes, did my work, added to our household account funds, and felt normal again. I'm only sad it was taken away from me again but in hindsight, it did allow me more time to help our oldest through high school and the youngest with homework & projects in school too along with the home-schooling as well. 

Thank you again.

The 1st wife who was a single mom until the greatest & amazing man came along who loved us both & took to being a dad like a duck to water. He's a natural!  :)

I feel truly sorry for this poor child. The truth of the matter is that Amber's mother pulled her from pillar to post and back and forth into her supposedly 'birth' father's life that this child likely has skid marks down her back. Her mother is not stable nor is her supposed 'birth' father.

For starters, Amber is much younger than my own oldest daughter so she is far too young to know anything regarding to what occurred more than 20 years ago. My oldest daughter remembers quite a lot more. She even told the judge in chambers in front of my two attorneys and my ex-husband's attorney about how Jeff and his mother always fought; she told him of the day they fought and he hit her and his mother swung the broom at him and hit her in the head right as he ran out the door leaving her behind then supposedly threatening to break the door down. I received a call at work some 45mins before it was time to clock out asking if I could keep her because he had "nowhere to live where she could stay and that he and his mother got into a fight." He had no clue I recorded the entire conversation and he told me everything when we met at my house on the front porch with my micro-cassette recorder I used in college to record my lectures recording everything and I mean EVERY THING HE SAID! The judge heard it and read the transcripts. His own mother was nearly put into jail for contempt of court in addition to child neglect and abuse charges! The week before she saw my daughter and told her if she told the judge she wanted to live with me and with my "man" then she was going to burn everything she owned! This had her in tears for a week and we could not find out why. Additionally, she was wetting the bed, something she had not did in many years.

This came out too. The judge, who was also the husband of one of the teachers I worked with as secretary of the PTA BOARD and a friend who we chaired various committees together was livid over this one. Regardless of the law that requires teachers to be called via a subpoena to a courtroom for a case, my child's teachers came and stayed even after they could leave. The judge asked why they stayed. One teacher in particular stood and spoke for them all on our behalf. She told him they were there to make sure he did right by this child because she was extremely close to their hearts and their hearts already knew where this child was safest and where she would be able to thrive. Each already went into detail regarding the work I did with the PTA Board, various committees, classroom parties, making these beautiful cakes at no charge for the cake walk then the following year making some 30 or so for the auction at the Halloween Carnival.

Amber does not realize that Jeff nearly killed my daughter when he stole her out of a hospital where she was under care to have surgery that would save her life. He and his family nearly killed her! She had the surgery but only after my attorneys went for an emergency custody order based on the hospital swipe! He lost parental decision-making options after lying to everyone as well as for putting her very life in danger not to mention the photos where she was hit by his current wife, Amber's MOTHER!

This child's mother hated my daughter so much because she looked just like me - the one thing my ex attempted to get back but I told him point blank it was over and I meant what I said the night he walked out. If he stepped across that threshold, he would never be welcome back and he left so he suffered the consequences of his actions although his then-wife didn't know it. So, she did everything to make herself into me but did a horrible job of it because I put my children first, not last.

Amber should be upset about the child support too because she didn't get a dime either, especially after Jeff began intentionally changing his insulin dosages hoping for a disability that would pass the judge's call yet correctable to allow him to work under the table and make money without paying it all in support for children he sired. Karma is a b*tch and she had a field day with him. It's said if you send bad karma out, it comes back times 3. He cannot drive; he refuses to even wait on himself; and he gets angry when someone refuses to stay up to tell him what is happening on television when the "fake" wrestling comes on - what a joke! If it were boxing, it would be different. I would love to be ringside if Chavez came back in the ring for one more fight just as George Foreman did but I'm not banking on it happening. Boxing is a real sport, wrestling like on television is a joke. I'd put any junior varsity wrestler at any school up against one of those guys any day and I'm sure the varsity wrestler would win.

Another lie Amber was told is about my daughter's graduation. She received a call on our house phone from Jeff. It happened to be on her birthday, her 18th birthday yet he had no idea! He NEVER wished her happy birthday! He called pleading to be at her graduation ceremony but she put her foot down. She told him he was not welcome and she did not want him there. His excuse was that he was "her father," which was a mistake on his part - a big one! She let him hold it hook, line, and sinker with an anvil on top for good measure. She let him know without a doubt that he was nothing more than the p***k who got her mother pregnant. He was nothing more than a sperm-donor! She followed with the fact that she was going to graduation with her mom, dad, her granny (who had recently had surgery and in a wheelchair but she made it! ) and she had aunts, uncles, cousins, a lot of family members of our family there.

This was a special day for our daughter too. She had been car-hunting with her dad under the ruse that she was helping him find a car for her uncle to get for her cousin who was at UNC of Chapel Hill. They chose a 2007Mazda Z3 in Navy Blue with side airbags, front airbags, and a great stereo system, alarm system, and the first year of Triple A paid. It was HER graduation gift from her dad mostly, but from the entire family too. The smaller sized gift, though she claims it was not the less bonding to her heart is a locket her dad and I picked out and gave her with the inscription of T on the front for her first & last name, although she's married now but she retains her maiden name (our last name as a family, which is what she wanted from the time she was about 7yrs old & she got it). The back inscription says, "I Hope You Dance." It has a special meaning between her and me.

The one thing Amber didn't seem to understand is that Tina did not want to be associated with that family because they all end in divorce and they pick their mates cheap rather than for lifetime. She wants a marriage to last like her dad's and mine. We've have been together for 22 years now. There has been some talk of having a ceremony for our renewal of vows. I am open to it because my MIL is up in years and this time, Tina will be able to see us both go through a formal wedding and be old enough to remember it.

Jeff was never supposed to crash her graduation nor her wedding but he thinks that just because he's blind and he's "weak" he can do what he wants and get pity where nobody will call him out. I AM BLIND and the last thing I WANT OR EXPECT IS PITY! I don't need my husband to cook for me, wash a dish, load a dishwasher, run errands, pay bills, vacuum the house, help our youngest with homework, take care of my guide dog, care for our domestic short-hair cat, or anything else every other parent does with sight. The only thing they can do that I cannot do is read a book using their eyes. But, I do have audio books even though I cannot read Braille because Lupus (SLE) and Sjogren's Dsiease along with Fibromyalgia that caused nerve damage in my hands that prevent me from even learning Braille! Before the autoimmune diseases, joint disease, and nerve damage, I spent 10+ years working as a medical transcriptionist, taking care of an infant, caring for an entire house, cooking every meal, and taking care of my guide dog! I had nobody here to do it for me. I had to do it myself and that's how it should be. He is one sorry man to sit on is duff expecting everyone to do for him! Oh, and I can throw pottery on a pottery wheel, electric or manual... though, I do need a kiln, a building, and a de-airing pugmill, which I cannot afford. I studied with a few multi-family master potters including the younger of the infamous Leach Family line out of England where Bernard Leach worked with Japan's National Living Treasure of 1955, Shoji Hamada! I come from a family of multi-generational potters. One of my pieces when into an exhibit in the Native American Ceramic Pottery Display a few years ago. It was the learned work of my grams and Papaw before they died.

So no, I can handle things just well. Jeff has let himself become crippled and he will die a cripple. I have no pity for him. I'm ashamed of him. It is people like him who make the blind stereotype worse!The only good that can come out of it is if a bunch of blind people beat the crap out of him so he would be forced to something other than lay there and bleed!

MY DAUGHTER DESERVES THE DAD WHO WOULD WALK THROUGH FIRE FOR HER! That's the Dad she has and the only one she will ever need. He is the one she wanted to walk her down the aisle, the one to give her away, and the one she wanted to dance with at her wedding after she danced with her new husband. Jeff clearly does not belong in my daughter's world nor ours. He's just dead-weight.

If Amber thinks he is so great, then she can go live with him. My daughter has a loving husband, loving Mom & Dad, and a little (teenage) sister who adores her. She's got all she needs in life and it starts without end with our family as it grows forward. Pity and temper-tantrums can be left at the door because they have no place among our family. If Amber can handle Jeff's then they are perfect for each other. Perhaps her mother Loretta ought to marry hm again. Then Amber could have everything she seems to want.

I find it sad that all those years my husband was enjoying being the one who our daughter wanted to dance at her wedding with, learn to ride her bike with his help, go out riding on the motorcycle with him, learning to fish, bringing part of the mountains back from the Blue Ridge and from Cherokee, home of my ancestors anyhow, her dad has always had time for her and always will. The same is true of me. I will always have time for her when she needs me and the same is true of her husband and our SIL as well as our two grandsons!

Overall, Jeff did us a favor by leaving. At least he didn't stick around confusing her as it seems is the problem with poor Amber. Our daughter has lived such a full, loved, entertaining, and wealthy life with as much happiness and love as one can put into 10 lifetimes.

Amber, I am sorry you didn't have the storybook childhood and young adulthood our daughter had throughout her life. My childhood was pretty crappy too but I went out and made a life for myself, my children, my husband, and no amount of joint pain, fatigue, blindness, or anything else thrown my way will stop me from continuing to go. You need to let go of all that hate or it will consume you.

My daughter has a life. It's time you go out and find you one but I suggest that you make it one as far away from Jeff and his family as possible or you will never have a moment's worth of rest! The only thing left when you are old and decrepit will be hate that eats away at your bones and your heart.

Leave your mother, leave your supposed father, and find a life for you where you are accepted for you without the expectations.

And just so you know, Thurman was allowed to come see Tina when he was able to get away from Lillian and Jeff. I allowed him to come see her as long as none of them were with him and he kept the promise they wouldn't know and he would make sure they didn't come. In return, I made a promise to him. I promised that no matter what, even if my daughter couldn't make it, that I would be there at his funeral to tell him about her and to say our good-byes and so he could thank me one more time for allowing him to have access to a child he loved without an agenda to use as a pawn, which is the only reason Jeff and Loretta keep you around and your younger sister. That sister keeps you tied to your mother and Jeff uses guilt against you to keep you within his clutches. All it will do, all it has done, is made you miserable. It will eat you alive if you let it so let it go and leave Tina to be the wonderful woman she can become while you go out and find out what wonderful woman you can be without the chaos and fights you hear constantly among that family.

As a toddler when you cried wanting to come home with me, it took every ounce of energy I had not to bundle you up and put you in my car/truck/4WD or whatever I was driving at the time, and bring you home where you would have a chance at a happy life as I knew my daughter would have but I knew if I tried, I would go to jail for it so honey, take my advice now. Get away from them while you can so you don't turn old one day and find you are just like them - full of piss and vinegar and downright hateful to the core.

Hello everyone that is looking and reading what this agree woman has wrote,

My name is Amber Rose and this is my dad that is being talked (lied) about.. You want to know the truth about this whole lie that is being told.. Here goes.. First off this lady Samantha is his first wife, and she is just mad because Jeff is not in love with her anymore and left her for another woman and is very happy in life now.. Yes, he has a daughter by her and is not ashamed to admit it, he loves his daughter very much. Infact, they talk on the phone at least once a week and see each other very regularly as well.. Samantha is the kind of person if she is not happy then everyone around her must be unhappy as well.. The whole child support deal is that she (Sandy/ Samantha) mad him sign over his rights so that her new husband could claim Jeffs daughter as his own.. Im not talking bad about he new husband in any way because I know that he gave her things that Jeff couldnt at the time.. And on top of that when Jeff called to talk to her she would always tell him that she was not home or too busy.. What does that say about her?? How does that help with all the dads out there that want to be in their childs life but are not given the chance, really.. Why even b***h about it then, if your the reason.. How about we let her come to our grandfathers funeral because their daughter wanted her there, but yet their daughte wanted him to come to her own wedding and Mrs. Samantha throw a fit, really its her dad get over it, it should be her choose. And then when it came down to the father daughter dance she said that she was going to show her a*s if they danced, really agian why should she have a say in it.. All I am saying is he is a really good father and tries his best to be even better.. If you ask me she is the bad parent..!!

And as far as the Social Security false aligation, he goes to 3 different doctors for his blindness and all 3 will tell you/ anyone that he is concederd legally blind..

But honestly we dont really care what anyone thinks about him, we know that he is a good dad and will always be.. But it because of people like her that give dads a bad name!!

Amber Rose

Four Oaks, North Carolina

Jeffrey finagled his way onto social security though I don't think it will last long. Hopefully he will stay on it until my daughter graduates because he was only made to pay a little less than one-third of what he owed in back support. I would rather she have the entire amount due her but what can you do? They run, they hide, they find every way possible to get out of paying and somehow once the kids are grown they miraculous get better and have the ability to work again. Poof!

I just hate that he is too sorry to pay the amount himself instead of depending on the system to take care of his child support and child upkeep costs. Unless the third wife leaves with the last child, I expect in at least three years he will work again because the two older children will have graduated high school and then he can go back to earning a real living without having to slip and hide to keep from supporting his children.

10/14/05