Randy is a complete liar. He defamed me on this site and I would like to set the record straight.
While I was with Randy, the beginning was great. But then I noticed him starting to drink more, and his true personality came through. I saw texts and e-mail from other girls that were indicative of a secret romance, and I even wrote one of these girls and it was confirmed that he was indeed cheating- if not in person, definitely online, as I saw it with my own eyes on his phone. He was secretive and sneaky. Then, one night before passing out from drinking it became physically violent and I was hit numerous times and slammed into the wall by Randy.
The next day he saw the bruises on my face and the split on my eye and he said he was so sorry, and even cried saying he would never do that again and would not drink anymore. But he did. So, I kept to myself in my room for a while and he would yell through the door for me to come out and talk with him, but I was too afraid to, so he would sit and pound on my door constantly- and this happened more than once when I was on the phone and the person with whom I was talking heard the whole thing. I used to leave my phone on all the time just in case he actually got into the room, which he did after removing the doorknob! Randy is a narcissist and a liar, and when he begged me not to leave him and not to call the police, I relented stupidly and did as he wanted. He said it would give him no chance of visitation with his daughter, which was already extremely limited. I fell for it, but bad things continued to happen. When he left to visit his dad, I decided to go to a domestic violence shelter (which he calls a half way house full of man haters who messed with my mind.) I had been talking to a girlfriend of mine and she said there was a really nice place where I would be safe, so I went. He found out where I was- he said that it is not hard to find out where an abused woman would go, all it took was one question to a nurse at the hospital where he worked. Needless to say, only bad things continued happening, and the harassment got worse and worse.
What I am saying is the truth. Yes, I have been married too many times, but I left each of the marriages with only what I took in. So his claims of "using" him are false. He had nothing for me to use him for. If I was only out for money, I would have stayed with one of the other men I was with, as they made a lot more money than Randy.
I have been with someone for more than a couple of years, and I am very happy. Apparently he has found someone and is happy, too. I won't harass his new girlfriend, or wife I guess, like he did mine. He was rude, wrote to him and told all kinds of lies, and some truths that are private. But, this nice man with whom I share my life saw right through him and has no complaints at all. He is nice to me, truly cares about me, and would NEVER lay a hand on me in anger. Turns out you were wrong, Randy- there is someone out there that will love me for just being myself...not like you always told me that noone else would want me, and how could anyone who makes so much money and can have anyone they want actually choose me to be with. Well, my daughter said it best right to you when you said that, by saying that I have class and I am smart, and not that tough on the eyes, lol.
I won't go into all the things I could go into...like specifics about threats, withholding vital property/family heirlooms, so I would meet with him, and other things for which he could have been arrested...just know that if you meet this man he will come off as a fun "guy's guy" good ol' boy...but underneath he is dark and frightening. And he will remind you of his "resume" which includes working for the sheriff's office and being an emt/paramedic...and, oh yeah, he was in the army- which he didn't stay in for his full tour because in his words he "threw his commanding officer out the back of a jeep." I don't know if that is true, or if he just thought it made him sound tough, but either way, there is really something wrong with that.
So, be warned, and make your own decision-
Oh yeah, after we weren't together he sat outside a condo where my daughter was staying for like 4-5 hours in the middle of the night on his motorcycle waiting to see if I was there. Also on Easter Sunday he went to the Church he knows I go to which had it's Easter service at the college...and after it was over he came to my car, banging on my window, demanding that I talk with him...he grew ever more insistent and it scared my daughter who told me to just ignore him and to keep driving. Traffic was at a near standstill trying to get out of the parking lot, so he had plenty of time to rant and rave and threaten.
So, as I said, make your decision- I am just telling the facts, unlike he did.
Randy found I was leaving the state and had a process server (apparently his friend) go to all my former employers, friends, parents' house/work, my daughter's work, her boyfriends work, etc...just to find out where I was and had papers served saying that he was suing me for the money that was spent during the time we were a couple. So, for the past two years I have had to live with that hanging over me like a dark cloud- just another way he can insinuate himself into my life and control even a small part of what I do. The suit was baseless, and he lost- we went to court earlier this month- not only that, but the judge ordered him to pay my court costs, and to respect an order of protection which had been in place earlier. He let my daughter and I leave first from the courtroom to ensure our safety, and he ordered that we get back my personal property. So much for his theory that a bunch of man haters had messed with my mind- a MALE judge saw him for what he is, and that is a liar and a manipulator. I am so thrilled he has moved on, it means I will never have to deal with him again.
As I live my life out with this very wonderful man who adores me (and I him)...I get to live with the truth that Randy has to be Randy, which is pathetic...and I get to be me. And, that makes me very happy.
So, beware of your dealings with this man.
Blessings to all!