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This is about Michael C. from St. Paul, who a friend of mine met on datehookup.com and told me all about. So using most of her own words, I am posting this on her behalf, because she has been evicted from her home, a situation he said he thought hed take her out of, and obviously didnt. (But like she said, he was on probation for less than a year and hes already looking for some other woman on dating sites).

He was telling her all these things that made her think they were in a committed relationship, which she wanted with him. He told her things like: he always thought he was the one to help her out of her difficult situation, (which she is now homeless because of), that he had to do the one job he was on at the time for them because he was thinking of their home, pets, and vehicles, and just giving her the life she deserved and that anything worth having takes work and if he had to work his fingers to the bone to get there he would, that he was her man, he loved her, talked about spending the rest of their lives together and getting married.

In October, he was arrested for a DUI, which was when she found out he was on probation for domestic violence. She told him shed stand by him, wouldnt judge him for it, and accepted him for it.

In November, he hadnt emailed her for awhile after a nice email she said she sent him, and because of that and some things he had said in his last email to her, she thought he was trying to push her away. She also found out, that after telling her the above things, that he was still using his profile to meet other women, and had been all along while telling her the things he did.

That upset her, and when she questioned him, he just turned it all around on her by saying she was having an immature tantrum while he was dealing with his legal stuff, because he was writing to other people, when all she did was tell him over and over how she wanted to stand by him, wait for him, support him, worried about him, and never got a thank you or it means a lot or I really appreciate it.

He just wanted to meet someone else while he was dealing with his legal stuff, around the same time he was telling her he always thought he was the one to help her out of her situation, and that she had to move on without him if he went to prison for 3 years, and while he was supposed to be on the job he said he had to do for them because he was thinking of their home, pets and vehicles, and just giving her the life she deserved and anything worth having takes work and if he had to work his fingers to the bone to get there he would.

He also said he didnt play games and that he was glad she showed him this crazy jealous side to her and she ruined this and was never going to speak to her again because of it. That wasnt true about her being jealous or having a tantrum. She thought she was loosing him like everything else in her life and that he was trying to push her away because he wanted to meet another girl he met on datehookup, which she knows for a fact he did, (thanks to me contacting the girl and finding that out,) but he lied about knowing who she was and said she was fat and blind.

He also told my friend he never said he wasnt going to write to other people. But that wasnt true according to my friend. She said he never once said he was going to keep writing to other people.

All he did was tell her things that made her think he wanted a committed relationship with her and they were in a committed relationship, which she wanted with him, and thought she was the only girl he was interested in, like he was the only guy my friend was interested in, and she didnt write to other guys because of that and how she felt about him and what he meant to her, which he knew, and how she felt about him was true. My friend said she was counting on the things that he told her, and felt he shouldnt keep wanting to meet other women after the things he was telling her because it was like he didnt mean them, care about how she felt, and it wasnt fair to her.

He did not get the point. He shouldnt have had any use for that site anymore after the things he was telling me or shouldnt have been telling me that stuff if he was going to keep using it. (If thats not paying games I dont know what is).

Thats like he didnt care about her feelings, how she felt, or it didnt mean anything to him, or he didnt mean the things he said. That was OK I guess, to tell her those things and still want to meet other people, and doesnt care why that upset her, but she cant say anything about it.

Otherwise she is jealous, having a tantrum, and ruined it and he is never going to speak to her again. That makes no sense.

It seems he does not do anything wrong or take blame for anything. He should have cared about how my friend felt and what she thought if he meant any of the things he told her or really liked her. He didnt care it distressed her that she thought he was trying to push her away even if she was wrong. She was just jealous and having a tantrum, and wasnt going to speak to her again, and she ruined it, which made it sound like he was trying to push my friend away.

(And if that girl would have agreed to meet him, I wonder how he would have worked out meeting her and coming to see her at the same time when he was laid off from his job? She knew nothing about my friend, and what he was telling her, and my friend knew nothing about her.

Or if some other woman would have seen/liked his profile and wanted to meet him or if he met someone else he liked better after telling my friend that stuff, what would he have done then?) I think he just told her those things to make himself sound good. Too bad my friend made the mistake of believing them.

That is how he showed his appreciation to my friend and for her wanting to stand by him and accepting him and all his legal problems, by wanting to meet someone else instead?

My friend being upset had absolutely nothing to do with being jealous, playing games, or having a tantrum while he was dealing with his legal stuff because he was writing to other people, my friend said, when she said she told him over and over that she wanted to wait for him, stand by him and support him through them. It wasnt my friends fault he had legal problems either.

How could she trust him or what he was saying to her then? He said honesty was the corner stone of their relationship. But he wasnt honest with her about wanting to keep meeting or writing to other people.

He said he hurt her by getting upset. How? With what I know he meant to her?

She thought she was giving him what he wanted from a woman? So why would he need anyone else, when he had her? What more did he want?

He said her own insecurities made her think he was pushing her away, but he shouldnt have had any interest in meeting or writing anyone else after the things he told my friend. That wasnt fair to her.

But she did feel bad for getting upset and tried to explain and apologize. But he just ignored her and wouldnt read her emails, or try to make up with her and just kept using his profile like he was doing it on purpose, when she was the one he was telling all that stuff to. Like my friend said, instead of saying he was never going to speak to me again, he should have quit using that site, and explained why he still was after telling her that stuff.

I told her that she could sue him because of the things he told her and she said she told him that as well, and all he did was say he thought she was using his legal problems to get his attention and that she was sick and needed help and to say goodnight because she was done. That sounded like a threat to me. She did have the right to try to sue him for breaching his promises.

He could not see or try to understand her side. It seems he is going to do what he wants and no one can say anything to him about it, or say anything to him at all. He cant see anyone elses side but his own. He does not care about anyone elses feelings but his own.

A woman always has to be on his side and cant be against him. He wants her to fit a certain code he has and if she doesnt or acts in a certain way or crosses him, forget it, he is done with her and he moves on to the next one, hoping/expecting shell accept him and his criminal history, like my friend did.

Like his thinking she was jealous or having a tantrum, and that was it. He never wanted to speak to her again and she ruined this, and how she felt, her feelings, the things he told her, how she felt about him and the things she told him and what she was going through, (a situation that had me possibly being homeless and now she is), didnt seem to matter. Saying he was glad she showed him this side to her and wanted nothing more to do with her then, proves the above point it seems.

She said that she never once said to him when he told her about the domestic violence that she was glad he showed her he had a violent side or this violent side to him, and was never going to speak to him again because of it and that he ruined this. She gave him the benefit of the doubt and accepted him for it and didnt judge him by it and still wanted him in her life and to stand by and support him. I didnt know that being jealous was so unforgivable and worse than being a criminal or what he did and he treated my friend like she was the criminal.

He could have given her the benefit of the doubt too, and tried to be a little understanding/ forgiving/ compassionate of her like she was of him. I think it was pretty terrible she had to beg him to forgive her and he just ignored her. He expects people to give him a second chance, why couldnt her give my friend one?

It seems to me he isnt perfect either. I think he should have been trying to convince my friend that he wasnt violent instead of her trying to convince him that she wasnt jealous. My friend said he said another woman he was with he tried to say was a con-artist.

It seems like its always the womans fault. He never does anything wrong. I doubt hes sorry for any of this because it seems he doesnt care what he does to a woman physically or emotionally, and probably isnt sorry for any of this.

Hes a great one to be telling my friend that she was immature or having a tantrum and sick and need help with what he did and should take a look in the mirror.

And if he sees this, none of this is being said to get your attention now. Its being said because its the truth.

Anonymous
simpsonville, South Carolina
U.S.A.