Glen Nelson Ramage ripoff dishonest deadbeat dad, guilty of child abuse and neglect Kamloops British Columbia

Kim,

I do not know you, but I know of you. I knew Glen in our teenage years.

I'd first like to say that I'm sorry for your child for having to go through these last years without her father, it's very hard growing up without your Dad, I know this first hand. BUT what makes it even harder is going through life without your Dad and having his name plastered all over the internet, his personal details and problems displayed for the world to see. You see, to him, he's a "deadbeat" who left a marriage and fell back into a lifestyle he'd had a taste of as a teenager, but to your daughter, he's her dad, he's her biological parent, who, no matter what he says, or does, will always be a part of her, no matter how many times you put his name on the internet.

I'm sure by now your daughter has access to the internet, and I can only imagine the pain in must cause her to know that all her father's short comings are plastered on sites for everyone to read. I'm not sure what you're intent is in doing this, but if it's to shame him, I don't think it's going to work. I know, and deep down you have to know too, that he DOES have a heart, and I'm sure at the end of the day he feels the shame all by himself.

It hurts my heart to think what his life must be like.Addiction is a horrible thing, and there's

You HAD to have known when you met, and married him that he'd been struggling with abuse problems for a long time before meeting you. Prior to meeting you, he'd already been in treatment for drug/alcohol abuse. I saw him go through it and I know it was hard on him and I also know that he desperately wanted to put it behind him and begin a new life. Having a family is something he wanted very badly, for a long time. I had wished fro so many years that he had gotten the family he desired and was able to keep on top of his addictions, but it seems they won out again, and that's very sad for everyone involved.

I'm NOT making excuses for him, I never have, nor would I ever. I just fail to see why you weren't able to foresee the chance that he may fall back into the abuse and have a child with him wihout first thinking about the what if's. What if he falls back and begins drinking and doing drugs again? Can I handle that? am I willing to deal with that? Do I have the strenght to get myself and my child out of a marriage/family that involves drug abuse? If these things didn't come to mind, then to me, I have to think that you should share some of the responsiblity for what has happened.

I hope one day you will be able to let go of the anger and hurt and see that you're hurting your daughter further by doing what you are doing. The best thing you can do for your daughter is provide her with all the love and support you can ( which I'm sure you are, you seem like a smart woman).

When money becomes an issue with a childs relationship with a parent, the child suffers, and it's awful. I hope you are able to see past his problems and are able to share some of the good things about him to her. She'll NEED them when she's older, trust me, I know because I never got to hear the good things about my own father, and it has been very difficult on me for many years.

I wish you well, and hope one day you can do the same for Glen.