Seeking other women who have been lied to or about, cheated on, verbally or emotionally abused, etc., by KOHNLRJ. He also uses the name "Paladin" in various forms on dating websites and in at least one email address. IMPORTANT NOTE: There might be other guys with these "Paladin" usernames; the one I'm talking about is an OTR trucker named Rich who is from Spokane, WA when he's not living in his truck.
Rich starts out a relationship being friendly and witty. He'll call or text you a million times a day and is very slick about getting into your head and heart. He says all the right things, but not in a "cheesy" way that only a fool would fall for. He'll take an interest in your life, send you presents, and will employ various tactics to convince you he's sincere. He is slick and practiced at it--must've been doing it to women for years, so he knows what works and what doesn't. Eventually he'll tell you he loves you and will ask you to move to Spokane. But beware! He is also leading on other women and is always searching for someone else, no matter WHAT he tells you.
He can only keep up his good behavior for so long, and little things will start to happen that will make you suspect he is cheating on you. For instance, when he's driving, he might tell you the same thing twice in one day. This is because he's talking to so many other women on the phone that he forgets what he has already said. There are numerous excuses he'll use as to why you haven't heard from him for a few hours, when he once called you nearly constantly. His favorite is the "I lost my cell signal" excuse. But he is now using at least 3 cell phones--you don't need me to spell out more about that.
Depending on the situation, his way of responding to you when you confront him will be to either play dumb/innocent ("I have no idea who she is!" he might say), or he'll fly off the handle and reveal his true personality, which is hot-headed, verbally abusive, controlling, demanding, and demeaning. When he is backed into a corner and knows he's busted, he'll scream at you on the phone, not let you get a word in edgewise, and then hang up. (By the way, he sounds like someone's shrill, old granny when he yells. lol!) Then he'll call or text you and act like nothing happened, and he'll expect you to be glad to hear from him. He'll accept no blame for hurting you or lying to you and will find some way to justify his belief that YOU brought on his tirade yourself!
His favorite word for women who bust him is "psycho", when he is actually the one with the mental/emotional problem. He'll also accuse YOU of being a liar, when he is the one who is a pro at it. (I didn't meet him on a website, but when I found out he had at least 3 active profiles set up, he told me it was because he and his friends liked to check out the women on the sites and make fun of them.)
He claims to hate drama--another favorite line of his--and he'll blame you for adding stress to his life, but he brings it all on himself by deceiving you and treating you like you are dogshit under his feet. Again, he accepts NO BLAME and shows NO REMORSE for how he will treat you or other women. Remember this: The way he talks about other women to YOU is the way he talks about YOU to other women he's dating.
If you are in a pleasant relationship with Rich, you either just met him or don't know him well enough yet. I advise you to dump him like I did and run the other way. Someday you'll be glad you read this, and if you ARE reading this, you must already have reason to be suspicious of him. Don't let him even begin to start his games with you, because that's all you are to him: a toy.