Mark A. Dyer DEADBEAT DAD! Ripoff! Belton Missouri

$6,000 BEHIND???? I found this site trying to get help to get my son's "sperm donor" to maybe pay up at least a little bit on the close to $20,000 he is behind~ and I find this CRAP!!!!! I'll bet those two little girls act more mature than most of the people posting here!! Political debates and KKK rallies are more civil! I'm just going to say this;

1. Mary, IF you interfered in ANY way with Mark seeing those two girls, or calling or communicating with THEM, then you are GUILTY OF GROSS CHILD ABUSE!! That is as unforgivable as someone abandoning thier children, if not more so!

2. Where is Mark's response to all of this???? If Mark has a restraining order, then it applies to cousins and new wifey as well if it applies here, so why aren't we hearing Mark's side of the story from Mark???

3. IF Mark is in fact trying to communicate with these two girls, a journal and kept notes to them to be given to them at age 18, or earlier would be a good idea to show that communication efforts were being made, and IF he is not trying to communicate with them because of some slovenly excuse of "not dealing with thier mom" then he's still a deadbeat, I don't care how much he pays.

4. EVERYONE involved in this stupid and petty squabble needs to shut the heck up and focus on those two girls and what they need, which is a mom and dad who are working collectively (THAT MEANS TOGETHER) for their well being!! Kids need both a mom and a dad, and things just don't work out right when one is absent. BOTH parents need to get past thier issues as those issues are coming out as an unwarranted punishment on two totally undeserving kids!!

Mary, if you're getting ANYTHING, then you're doing OK. An effort is better than what I have to go through, which is my ex intentionally hiding and working under the table to avoid his payments.. oh, and making more kids that he can't support! $6,000?????? OH MY GAWD!!

To Mark's family, IF your statements are true, and these are fabrications by Mary, I encourage you to hire and attorney and pursue slander charges, as it's all in print right here right now, and it's all over the web as I, a complete stranger and completly un-biased (except for deadbeats really irk me) found the site while trying to get help for my own case!!

What a WASTE of internet space!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

$6,000 BEHIND???? I found this site trying to get help to get my son's "sperm donor" to maybe pay up at least a little bit on the close to $20,000 he is behind~ and I find this CRAP!!!!! I'll bet those two little girls act more mature than most of the people posting here!! Political debates and KKK rallies are more civil! I'm just going to say this;

1. Mary, IF you interfered in ANY way with Mark seeing those two girls, or calling or communicating with THEM, then you are GUILTY OF GROSS CHILD ABUSE!! That is as unforgivable as someone abandoning thier children, if not more so!

2. Where is Mark's response to all of this???? If Mark has a restraining order, then it applies to cousins and new wifey as well if it applies here, so why aren't we hearing Mark's side of the story from Mark???

3. IF Mark is in fact trying to communicate with these two girls, a journal and kept notes to them to be given to them at age 18, or earlier would be a good idea to show that communication efforts were being made, and IF he is not trying to communicate with them because of some slovenly excuse of "not dealing with thier mom" then he's still a deadbeat, I don't care how much he pays.

4. EVERYONE involved in this stupid and petty squabble needs to shut the heck up and focus on those two girls and what they need, which is a mom and dad who are working collectively (THAT MEANS TOGETHER) for their well being!! Kids need both a mom and a dad, and things just don't work out right when one is absent. BOTH parents need to get past thier issues as those issues are coming out as an unwarranted punishment on two totally undeserving kids!!

Mary, if you're getting ANYTHING, then you're doing OK. An effort is better than what I have to go through, which is my ex intentionally hiding and working under the table to avoid his payments.. oh, and making more kids that he can't support! $6,000?????? OH MY GAWD!!

To Mark's family, IF your statements are true, and these are fabrications by Mary, I encourage you to hire and attorney and pursue slander charges, as it's all in print right here right now, and it's all over the web as I, a complete stranger and completly un-biased (except for deadbeats really irk me) found the site while trying to get help for my own case!!

What a WASTE of internet space!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

$6,000 BEHIND???? I found this site trying to get help to get my son's "sperm donor" to maybe pay up at least a little bit on the close to $20,000 he is behind~ and I find this CRAP!!!!! I'll bet those two little girls act more mature than most of the people posting here!! Political debates and KKK rallies are more civil! I'm just going to say this;

1. Mary, IF you interfered in ANY way with Mark seeing those two girls, or calling or communicating with THEM, then you are GUILTY OF GROSS CHILD ABUSE!! That is as unforgivable as someone abandoning thier children, if not more so!

2. Where is Mark's response to all of this???? If Mark has a restraining order, then it applies to cousins and new wifey as well if it applies here, so why aren't we hearing Mark's side of the story from Mark???

3. IF Mark is in fact trying to communicate with these two girls, a journal and kept notes to them to be given to them at age 18, or earlier would be a good idea to show that communication efforts were being made, and IF he is not trying to communicate with them because of some slovenly excuse of "not dealing with thier mom" then he's still a deadbeat, I don't care how much he pays.

4. EVERYONE involved in this stupid and petty squabble needs to shut the heck up and focus on those two girls and what they need, which is a mom and dad who are working collectively (THAT MEANS TOGETHER) for their well being!! Kids need both a mom and a dad, and things just don't work out right when one is absent. BOTH parents need to get past thier issues as those issues are coming out as an unwarranted punishment on two totally undeserving kids!!

Mary, if you're getting ANYTHING, then you're doing OK. An effort is better than what I have to go through, which is my ex intentionally hiding and working under the table to avoid his payments.. oh, and making more kids that he can't support! $6,000?????? OH MY GAWD!!

To Mark's family, IF your statements are true, and these are fabrications by Mary, I encourage you to hire and attorney and pursue slander charges, as it's all in print right here right now, and it's all over the web as I, a complete stranger and completly un-biased (except for deadbeats really irk me) found the site while trying to get help for my own case!!

What a WASTE of internet space!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

$6,000 BEHIND???? I found this site trying to get help to get my son's "sperm donor" to maybe pay up at least a little bit on the close to $20,000 he is behind~ and I find this CRAP!!!!! I'll bet those two little girls act more mature than most of the people posting here!! Political debates and KKK rallies are more civil! I'm just going to say this;

1. Mary, IF you interfered in ANY way with Mark seeing those two girls, or calling or communicating with THEM, then you are GUILTY OF GROSS CHILD ABUSE!! That is as unforgivable as someone abandoning thier children, if not more so!

2. Where is Mark's response to all of this???? If Mark has a restraining order, then it applies to cousins and new wifey as well if it applies here, so why aren't we hearing Mark's side of the story from Mark???

3. IF Mark is in fact trying to communicate with these two girls, a journal and kept notes to them to be given to them at age 18, or earlier would be a good idea to show that communication efforts were being made, and IF he is not trying to communicate with them because of some slovenly excuse of "not dealing with thier mom" then he's still a deadbeat, I don't care how much he pays.

4. EVERYONE involved in this stupid and petty squabble needs to shut the heck up and focus on those two girls and what they need, which is a mom and dad who are working collectively (THAT MEANS TOGETHER) for their well being!! Kids need both a mom and a dad, and things just don't work out right when one is absent. BOTH parents need to get past thier issues as those issues are coming out as an unwarranted punishment on two totally undeserving kids!!

Mary, if you're getting ANYTHING, then you're doing OK. An effort is better than what I have to go through, which is my ex intentionally hiding and working under the table to avoid his payments.. oh, and making more kids that he can't support! $6,000?????? OH MY GAWD!!

To Mark's family, IF your statements are true, and these are fabrications by Mary, I encourage you to hire and attorney and pursue slander charges, as it's all in print right here right now, and it's all over the web as I, a complete stranger and completly un-biased (except for deadbeats really irk me) found the site while trying to get help for my own case!!

What a WASTE of internet space!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

First off, I want to let everyone know that I am NOT related to anyone mentioned in the above articles. What I have to say is just from my point of view. And yes, you all may tell me to mind my own business, but let me tell you, I have been on both sides of the fence on an issue very much like this one. Luckily my children have not had to have counseling or anything else to get through a divorce or anything else they have had to go through.

First, everyone needs to remember that the only ones suffering here are the 2 little girls. This is a situation between Mark & Mary, not everyone else. They are 2 grown adults and no matter how much they may "hate" each other it is up to them to fix the situation that has happened. Angela, you seem like a likeable person, but I too have been in your shoes, and it isn't an easy one to be in. You must be very frustrated by all of this as I know that I was in my own situation. But I talked to my husband about "my" personal feelings and eventually became very good friends with his ex. My boys (step) are now 24 & 26 and they call me "Mom" and depend on me as much as, if not more than their own mother. (My boys - were 12 & 14 when I married their father).

Now, my own children (a son & daughter from a previous marriage) who are 15 & 13 now, didn't understand for along time "where their father was". No matter what my feelings were about their father, I never let it show to them. For many years he didn't have anything to do with them, but now after me pushing the issue and not worrying about the "money" he calls, spends time with them (When they want too) and pays his support when he can. He is a truck driver and is gone alot anyway. By "ding - donging" a person about child support can (and usually does) makes a person more mad and theirfore not wanting to pay it. If he pays it ...Fine...if not...even when the girls turn 18, he is still obligated to pay it. It doesn't matter if it is 100.00 or 100,000. It still has to be paid.

Yes, it does cost alot to raise children, and yes it would be nice to have child support, but it always comes back to the children who are hurt because their parents are always bickering whether it is about time with the kids or money. Money is only money.....it isn't (and wont) buy happiness for your children. Both parents have to make it work for the kids, if you don't, then when kids grow up, they may learn to hate you instead of the absent parent.

I hope for all involved that you find a happy medium and solve this issue - Not for YOUR sakes, but for the girls. That is what you need to remember as they are the IMPORTANT ones.

HMMM. . .adults not acting as such. I think Mary messed up when she had Mark arrested. why was he arrested?? Because he called your house twice a day? Has he hit you or caused bodily harm? If not and this is the only reason why he was arrested then mary you were wrong for having him arrested.Understand Im not on anyones side here. I do beleive that there are faults on both sides. How long has it been since Mark has saw the girls? Seems he would have tried to see them before now. As far as the new wife getting involved and being the speaker on the behalf of them both well.. . you would think he would want to say something---I know he is OTR but he gets to come home sometimes. I also know that is going to be hard for him to see the girls when he is always gone and it will take a little effort on Mary's part to work with him on that. Mary do it for your girls not him. I know how it all goes Im a single Mother and even though I wasnt getting support I still let the Father see my son because it was the right thing to do FOR MY SON. Never get in the way of letting them see their Father because it will hurt you and them in the long run. Im not saying that you have in the past Im just saying dont do it. As far as mediation goes .. . . That is probably the best thing for this bitter case. Smart move.
i just hope all involved can set aside any hatred and move forward as adults for the girls. Afterall thats what its all about. if it were me I would have been on the phone calling him saying, come get your girls. But it does sound as though mary wont work with him. I could be wrong I dont know everything but mary you have to work with them not against them and your not doing it for them your doing it for your children. I can understand why you dont want them leaving the state. If he has threatened to run with them I dont think id want them leaving the state either. Not at this point but come on two hours does seem a little rediculous. You cant even catch a movie in that time frame. He needs more than any two hours.MORE IMPORTANTLY YOUR GIRLS NEED MORE THAN TWO HOURS. Thats just not enough time at all. Hopefully you can get support and he can see his girls all weekend every other weekend --the way it should be. But if you ask me thats still not seeing their father enough.

What are you related to the Mary it would sound as if or at least some bitter single mother that wants to avenge every guy out there! I guess Mary needed some support so you log on and post your worthless opinion I guess you are NOT smart enough to know after reading the above posting that MARK IS AN OTR DRIVER he cannot just stop somewhere and post topics on this site! You are NOT a rocket scientist are you? People like you are the problem feeding Mary's ego it is bigger then her brain! Mary is the one that started talking about Mediation and Mary only, but I guess you could not read that from above! In case you did not know, I ended a sentence with a preposition if you even know what that means! So thanks for your worthless input it was not really appreciated.

It seems to me that Mary didn't post the girls name for a reason, and you went and put those girls name on this report, now how would you like it if your daughters name was posted? Not much I am sure.

As far as Mediation is concerned, it doesn't take a rocket scientist to figure out that by Mary agreeing to it, that would be a start. With you coming on here and posting about mediation and what it said is against the Mediation process. My understanding your not suppose to talk about it until the process is done, but what are you doing, talking about it and taking those steps that were going forward and making them go backwards. Not very smart on you behalf or Marks.
I noticed this ripoff report was created back in January, seems to me that Mary was letting off some steam. She had not put comments in for quite awhile.

It also seems that you might be alittle jealous "her new truck". This kind of talk is not going to help anyone.

My suggestion to Mary is not to further talk with you, because you could possibly be the problem, we haven't heard from Mark.

Many times it is the "new wife" that doesn't like the money not going to her and her pocket, and it seems like that case here. Those girls have to be taken care of no matter what, so even if Mark is not paying or paying, and Mary has been there the whole time. Apparently stuggling when she was single and now started a new life and still having problems with her ex.

My suggestion to all involved is to let the past go and work on the future.

**Mary it sounds great that you want to start talking with Angela and try and work through this, it does sound like she may not be ready yet, but hold on, she will come around.
**Mark no comments from you makes me think that you have lost control and letting your wife take care of it, when in fact it is your responsibilty to contact your children, not hers. So be a man, get to know your kids!

Mary,

You seem to tell lie after lie where does it end?

Example:

"Mediation in Progress, THANK YOU RIP OFF REPORT!

This is just an update to inform those whom have now taken an interest in this. Mark and I are now using Mediation to come to a compromise. The Mediation is not done so therefore I will not say more than it is happening. I would not like to be accussed of giving the incorrect information.
If this rip off report got Mark motivated to play an active role in his daughters lives, then I want to thank this company for providing this service. This is the first sign of interest out of Mark in being a father to his children in a long time.
THANK YOU RIP OFF REPORT!

Mary - Adrian, Missouri
U.S.A."

Then you post another topic saying you cannot talk about mediation. Do you fabricate so many false stories that you cannot remember all of them?

cross-reference with the above example:

"As far as the mediation part, I am not to talk about it. It states it clearly on the paperwork I signed. So I am not able to confirm or deny any of that, just that we are trying to come to an agreement.

Angela, I realize that you think that you may know ALL of what is going on, but just like me you only know what you hear him say, I only know my side of it and not his. If you were in my shoes, I believe you would be thinking some of the same.

I have realized I have really never talked to you and that maybe some of the problem, in coming to some sort of agreement and compromise. You have my email address on yahoo, so if your so inclined you may contact me and possibly start a dialogue.
Anything else?

Mary - Adrian, Missouri
U.S.A."

You just keep providing proof after proof that YOU are the liar cauing problems NOT Mark.

Mary if you have Mark arrested every time he calls how he can call the girls. You keep saying that he never calls, but if he does he will broken the law and you have him arrested! You have contradicted yourself several times on this site. (Get a dictionary as I think you may need it) That does not mean anything to you though does it! I do not believe the girls are in any school activity if they are, you DO NOT go support them! You spend more TIME on the internet telling lies to the world then you have to support your girls if they where in school activities! This all seems to be about you and NOT the girls!

You are the abuser to your girls not MARK. Just because you and your Mother DO NOT get along do not mean you have to treat your daughters the same way. Some people are stupid and do not realize or they just do not care! I am sure you do not care you only want payback for something Mark never did!

Ben I put on here that the only followers were family or ex's family, I need to correct that I about forgot about the other 2 gentlemen that posted an option on this report.
I am not perfect, so please forgive the fact that I said that. I can admit when I mess up.
Sorry.

First let me say I may not have addressed everything that Angela posted but I will go back through and see if I can't clear that up later.
Now as far a scanning, I don't have one, so will you settle for snail mail. I have no problem proving my claims. All I will need is an address to send them to.

Another question is raised that I am not sure what followers your talking about, the people as of so far, are either related or ex's family. So I am not sure where you fit in on this, but like I said I would be more than happy to mail you copies of what ever it is that you seem to think is a lie.

Sorry my pocket book has not quite caught up with technology :)

For your information, this web site or any others for that matter had nothing to do with Mark getting ahold of March Mediation. He just found out about this posting and others this past Saturday, which would have been April, 17th. As you know the mediation appointment was set of several weeks ago. This was the only civil way we have been able to contact you and to our amazement you agreed. Even with this mediation process we are still not getting any cooperation out of you.

Mediation was not your idea it was Mark's and you say you want what is best for the girls and you want them to get to know their father. Then get you head out of the past and work with him on the issues that have been brought up. Stop blocking him at every effort he makes. The things he is asking for are not unreasonable. You say you want this, then prove it. Or is everything you have been saying a lie? Are you just saying all these things and not working with him that way you can come back to these web sites and say what a horrible person he is just so people will take pitty on you.

Are you really that unhappy with Kelly and your life that you need this kind of attention from strangers? Does it make you feel better when you are in control of everything around you?

Including if and when your girls are allowed to see their father. If both parties involved want what is best for the girls and want their father in their lives then what is the problem with getting this resolved. Mark is more than willing to work with you and nothing seems to be good enough even though in your own words, "you want the girls to get to know their father and bond with them". This does not need to be drug out anylonger for the sake of the girls.

Mary,

Getting defensive are you. Possibly, because you know that you have been a liar for some time now! The restringing order is public knowledge and can be accessed through the courthouse. It says that Mark cannot call or visit your house; if he does, he will be arrested! He cannot call or visit their school if he does he will be arrested. A double-edged sword it sounds to me! You get on this site/others and say that he does not want to contact his girls in any way, but if he does try, he goes to jail! WOW...you are a piece of trash aren't you! Does it make you feel better to tell lies; you should see a shrink about that you may be able to get some pills to help resolve this chronic problem!

Mediation is the only legal way Mark could contact the girls! So now, let us look back at what you have said. You said that Mark does not make an effort to contact the girls, but if we look at the court records they say he called your house looking for the girls and you had him arrested! WOW, that sure sounds like a dedicated DAD to me! Then we must look at how many times he has been arrested for trying to call the girls! We can do that by looking at the court records as you have pressed charges every time he has called! Other times like during the war with Iraq we can look at that entire time! Well if he was bounding towards enemy fire in Baghdad then he would not be able to contact the girls at all would he? According to public records, his unit packed a KL43 and a SINGAR neither are for public communications unless of course you can translate Morse code at 22 plus characters a minute. Somehow, you do not seem that intelligent! I think everyone would agree!

Maria, Usted es la mala persona aqu! Me siento apesadumbrado para su becuase de las muchachas que le odiarn cuando consiguen ms viejas.

Angela after reading your post it occurred to me that some of the information you got correct and some not so correct, half trueths if you will.
First I want to start by stating any CP that goes after Child Support that has been court ordered will always be viewed as someone who is after money. When in fact that CP is trying to do right by their children.

Now where to begin, I would like to say, I have only talked with Angela I believe to be once on the phone and that was to only ask for Mark, cause the girls called to talk to him. So that being said, here goes.

Mark calling and I saying there are plans made, partly true. He doesn't call for months at a time, so there for when it is "his weekend" there very well could be plans. He doesn't call for months and then expects the girls to drop what they have planned because he decided to play daddy. Now I have scheduled with him changes, when they occur to switch weekends to try and work something out with him.

Counseling, lets see I never posted anything about that, but here goes, yes they have gone in the PAST, they needed to hear from someone else that it was not their fault their father doesn't come to see them. They thought that he didn't want them around anymore, which was made clear by the lack of contact. They have not been back to counseling in well over a year! They learned that if he called, he called, if he didn't, he didn't! They have no control over what he does or doesn't do. I think that addresses that.

Now about me pressing charges. HELLO do I have the police department in my pocket. He had a restraining order and broke the order, the police then got him. Pretty simple. He was allowed to call the house to schedule visitations with the girls and that was the ONLY reason he was to call. Now he may have not told you this, but when someone calls your house more that say twice a day for more than lets say a week at a time, then yes, that is harrassment. That is an example, not the actual way it happened, but pretty close. On the restraining order it states CLEARLY that Mark was able to call and set up visitation and could contact the girls by mail. NO JUDGE would keep children from visiting there father, unless the father was going to harm the children, of course. Which was not the case.

Now lets discuss the child support issue...This will be fun.

In the beginning there was no child support ordered until the divorce, this much is true, but what you don't have right is the amount. Mark wanted out, just as much as I did, so he told the lawyer that he would pay $200 a week in Child support. Which at the time he was making good money so it was not a big deal. Not the $600 amount you stated and $200 extra...I am not sure where that came from. At the same time Mark signed off on all legal rights to the girls, except for visitation. Which was set up with 24 hours notice, and reasonable.

I love that you think he was only behind when he got called active. He was behind before leaving for Iraq, or didn't you notice he didn't get a tax return that year! Mark has been behind on child support since Sept. 01, and that actually could be incorrect, that is just when I started keeping track, and had Child Support Enforcement take over. Having to call him every week and ask for Child Support just wasn't any fun anymore. As far as me contacting you about the fact that child support was not coming in during that time, I think you have child support enforcements number and could have called to verify whether the amount was being withheld or not. I can call when child support is not being received. Like right now for instance, it has been 2 weeks and no Child Support.

Now obviously you haven't had to deal with child support enforcement. If they would automatically put someone in jail and/or arrest someone for not paying their child support, then most CP's would not have arrears upwards of 12,000.00 and more. Heck they would not have arrears at all if that was the case, cause they know they would be in BIG trouble. As far as Mark's reserve pay, again you need to talk to child support enforcement on that, that was their garnishment not mine. Do you think that because according to you "I want more money" I can just get a garnishment and do that. Lady, I am good but not that good. Any money taken from Mark is done through child support enforcement, not me.

Lets get to this picture you are talking about. When someone provides you with their password, it is not hacking or stalking or harrassement. You may need to take that up with him. He had that password for years. So when a password is given to someone, then that someone didn't do anything wrong. If he didn't want to give the password, what's the easiest way to avoid that, lets see...change the password. Let's just say you may want his password, that is all I am going to say on that.

As far as needing or wanting to know where he drills, that is public information that can actually be obtained pretty easy. As far as to why you may think I needed it or wanted it, just information. Like lets see, if he got called active again. Then I would know what unit. I already know your gonna say, "Last time he got called active he called the girls" That would be true only difference is he did it the night he was actually GOING. Not when he actually knew, it was several weeks after he actually knew. But that is here nor there, it was to prepare the girls for it. Of course it didn't have much of an affect since he called late at night and they had to be woken up, they didn't really remember the conversation at all.

I didn't realize Mark was trying to get visitation enforced. Like I said before, he needs to call and set up a visit, no enforcement needed on that, just to pick up his cell phone and call. There is or was nothing stopping him from doing this, but him.

Let's get to the 2 hour visits. In the past Mark has not been exactly the best dad and has done somethings that make you question his responsibility. So after going to the counselor and the girls asking for only 15 minutes with him. I talked them into trying 2 hours and going from there. This is called RE-UNIFICATION / TRANSITION if you will, when a parent has not been active in a childs life for long periods of time, this is set up so that the child and parent can re-establish a relationship slowly, and in the childs best interest. I have tried to explain this to Mark, if he had been consistant with visitation then then by now he would be having them all weekend long, but since he is sporadic at best, this has failed so far. Mark has threatned in the past to take the girls and run with them, so no not at this time am I willing to let them be taken out of state. They have sent grandparents pictures of them, these POOR grandparents that never have contact with the girls, don't contact them. They have my address and number to call the girls. They can come to Missouri and visit with the girls. They are the adults and need to communicate with the girls, not the girls chasing them. I made sure all of Marks family got school pictures and one set of grandparents and an aunt were the only ones who remembered the girls at Christmas. Thank you cards were sent to let them know the girls appreciated what they did.

Funny there is no piggly-wiggly in this town, but yes I did work there for a short period of time. Where to begin, when someone comes into the store to harrass you and not purchase anything, that would tell ya they were not there to buy food as you say.

He moved the distance he did. Not me, so I am terribly sorry that it is such an inconvience to him to have to actually drive alittle to see the girls, he has decided many of times that he didn't want to drive and see them. Your right that I am not going to bend over backwards for him, he can take alittle responsibilty and make the effort.
As far as child support for my NEW truck....HELLO what new truck, the vehicle I have is over 2 years old, so I am not sure what your talking about.

As far as the mediation part, I am not to talk about it. It states it clearly on the paperwork I signed. So I am not able to confirm or deny any of that, just that we are trying to come to an agreement.

Angela, I realize that you think that you may know ALL of what is going on, but just like me you only know what you hear him say, I only know my side of it and not his. If you were in my shoes, I believe you would be thinking some of the same.

I have realized I have really never talked to you and that maybe some of the problem, in coming to some sort of agreement and compromise. You have my email address on yahoo, so if your so inclined you may contact me and possibly start a dialogue.
Anything else?

This is just an update to inform those whom have now taken an interest in this. Mark and I are now using Mediation to come to a compromise. The Mediation is not done so therefore I will not say more than it is happening. I would not like to be accussed of giving the incorrect information.
If this rip off report got Mark motivated to play an active role in his daughters lives, then I want to thank this company for providing this service. This is the first sign of interest out of Mark in being a father to his children in a long time.
THANK YOU RIP OFF REPORT!

This is becoming like a family reunion here. As I told Ben, and you put it yourself, there are 2 sides to every story, so take your own advice.
In comment to your 2 cents, Child support and visitation do not go hand in hand, any court will tell you that. Mark had every chance to see the girls, he just hasn't figured out how to dial a telephone, the only thing that stops him is him. He has my phone number and address.
As far as retraints and arrests. Your dang right I had a restraining order put on him for threatning to KILL me, but I guess I must have over reacted and should have not done that. Yes, he was arrested and plead guilty for breaking the restraining order. Other than that I do not know of any other problems he has had with the law, they certainly don't have anything to do with me. Remember I have not heard from him since Novemeber. You also need to know that was over 2 years ago. You might want to get updated information.
A general rule of thumb is, if you don't do anything wrong then why would you be afraid of getting into trouble.
I have NEVER told my children their father doesn't care. I beleive they have come up with that on their own, since he doesn't contact them. To address what you think a 12 year old would say, most would not say alot of things, but then there is that small percentage of children who say what ever is on their mind and thinking. I just so happen to have one of those types of children. Of course you being her Aunt would know what type of child she is, right? She hasn't seen or heard from you in about 3 or 4 years! Again, I will say if prove is needed I have it! I would not make claims with nothing to back it up, that would be illegal.
You yourself have only gotten one side of the story! Seems you are happy just knowing that one side, which is your choice.
I am not aware of any postcards, emails, phone calls that you are talking about. I have emailed you once in the past to let you know your neices were doing good and to send you pictures of them, if your referring to that, I will be sure not to update you or send pictures again. Just because Mark and I are divorced, I didn't think that meant the girls were divorced from the rest of his family, since I know now how you feel about that. I will be sure not to make that mistake again.
My name is spelled CORNELIUS,
Thank you Robyn Setter for your 2 cents.

I am not related to this person you are cyberstalking. I know you would want everyone to believe it because you want the pity from all these followers! Get a life as you seem to be spending yours trying to make someone else's miserable through lies and deception, but it will all end soon. Scan and post your court documents; all the documents and let these people make their own decisions! You can purchase a domain and a hosting package to post all the FACTS not your bogus opinions! If the facts are as you say then you WILL NOT have to tell everyone how bad he is because they will see it for themselves. I have seen all the public documents as they are readably available via the courthouse, and know that you are not being truthful. It is like someone going around telling everyone they are the boss! If they where then they would NOT have to tell everyone because everyone would know it! You are telling yourself, your kids and everyone that will listen!

One day when your girls get older they will hate you for the lies they are old enough now to know that you are a liar. You wait your bitterness for Mark will lead you down a road of no return, and your girls will have more animosity toward you then you can imagine. It doesn't take much brain power Mary so even you should be able to figure this one out!

I have had the pleasure of knowing Mark for two and a half years. I have been married to him one and a half of those years. Everything that Mary has said on this site is laughable, and let me tell you why. From the day Mark and I met he has had nothing but trouble from Mary.

Mark and Mary have been divorced since April 5, 2000. Since the divorce Mark has not been able to see Morgan (almost 11) and Michaela (12) on a regular basis because of Mary. He has court ordered reasonable visitation with 24 hour notice. They both agreed to every other weekend but she will no longer allow that. There are always plans that have been made or they are going out of town, it's just one excuse after another. How is that fair to the father or the girls for that matter. There is no reason she can't make family plans on her weekend or if it's something that's unavoidable then why can't she offer to change weekends with him. The only reason there is, is because she has no desire for those poor innocent girls to get to know their father.

Just because they had problems does not mean she has the right to channel her anger at him through those girls. It not only hurts the girls but it hurts Mark as well. Doing this will only hurt the girls in the long run. She claims the girls are seeing a councilor because of Mark, look at the facts, does it look like Mark put them in therapy. I think not, they live with their mother and step father.

What has Mark done to them physically or emotionally? Mark is not around them enough to hurt them emotionally and that's because Mary won't allow it. I'll tell you why he is not around them enough, because he is legally not allowed.

Mark was calling his girls on a regular basis and for what ever reason Mary felt threatened by their relationship or something so she put a stop to them talking. She filed a police report claiming that Mark was calling and harassing her over the phone. It didn't just stop with a police report she had charges pressed against him as well and had him prosecuted. Mark does not call his girls because he has been told by a court of law that he is not allowed. The only way he is allowed to contact them is through the mail and then there is no telling if they get what is being sent. She has had him arrested once he can't take the chance of being arrested again for calling the girls. What kind of mother has a father arrested for calling to talk to his daughters? Only vicious and vindictive people do things like that. Mary says she wants what is best for the girls, she even pleaded with Mark on one web site that she wants Mark to be a part of their lives and bond with them but yet she continues to block every effort with one excuse after another. She has no desire for Mark to be a part of their lives. Mark didn't walk out on those girls she pushed him out with every possible effort.

Moreover, let us address the issue of child support. After the separation Mark was paying her 600.00 a month, which is what they both agreed upon. Not only was he paying child support but he was also giving her an extra 200.00 a month on top of that as well. When the divorce was final he was ordered to pay 800.00 a month even though they agreed upon the 600.00. He was being gracious by giving her an extra 200.00. The amount was never calculated based on his income, had it been it would have never been that high in the first place. Some people may say he is getting off easy by only paying that amount but keep in mind that child support payments are based on your income and is not to exceed 50% of your paycheck. Mark had been paying that amount since the divorce was final. Now you may wonder why he is behind if he had been paying all along. Mark was deployed to Iraq in March of 2003. We received a letter from the Navy stating they would be taking child support out of his check starting immediately. We were under the impression that the amount was being paid as the letter stated it would be. It does take some time for paperwork to be processed. We personally didn't get paid for a couple months. When we contacted the Navy they stated everything had been taken care of and the payments we being made. Mary was a Navy wife and should be all too aware of how slow they can be when it comes to paperwork. Not only does she know this but she had our phone numbers and our address. She could have picked up the phone and called to see what was going on. She could have even asked us to pay her ourselves until the Navy was making payments to family services. Even if we couldn't pay her the full amount we could have paid her something in the mean time. If the girl's wellbeing was in jeopardy then she had every obligation to contact me so I could relay the information to Mark. So yes for a period of time Mark was not paying child support due to extreme circumstances beyond his control. Once child support stared back up he was also paying for arrears. After returning from Iraq Mark was temporally unemployed, however he was receiving unemployment and child support was being taken out of that as well. It may not have been the amount she needed to make her truck payment, oops, I mean to help support the girls but since when did it become the sole responsibility of the father to do all the supporting financially. If Mary would work herself and contribute to the financial needs of the girls then maybe they would have brand new clothes, shoes, etc, as she claims they don't have. She even told the girls this past Christmas that she had to sell some of her jewelry in order to purchase them Christmas presents. How much money she spends on gifts is her business. Mark is not paying her child support so she can purchase Christmas gifts from HER. And second of all what kind of person tells their daughters that they won't be getting much because their father is a looser and not paying the amount he was paying when they got divorced. The girls have no business knowing what is going on between the mother and father. We were all floored that she would say such a thing to them. It's not Mark's responsibility alone just like it's not Mary's responsibility alone to provide every day care for the girls. However for some reason Mary does not understand that fact and expect Mark to do it all. She also claims on this site and others that Mark made payment arrangements to pay his child support and that is true. She also claims that he broke that agreement and that is a bold face lie. He makes his weekly payments just like he agreed to do. Included in his payments are also arrears. This may not be the amount she was getting before because Mark is no longer making the money he was before and like all of you know, child support is based on your income. So unless there is another Mary Dyer Cornelius and Mark Dyer in this world then there are a lot of fact missing from the story she is telling you. It's amazing how much of this is left out and that basically everything out of her mouth is a lie. It also amazes me that so many people are quick to judge someone without all the facts. Don't you think if Mark wasn't paying his child support then his drivers license would be suspended for good or maybe even hauled off to jail for failure to comply with a child support order. There is an arrangement made with family services and it is being upheld. He has his child support taken out every week and the amount paid was ordered by family services. Mary also tried to get more money out of him by going after his reserve pay. Family services has no idea how she was able to do this since an arrangement was already made and was being paid by his full time job. This only went on for a couple months and I'm happy to report that family services sent the military garnishment unit a letter telling them to stop taking money out of that paycheck. Don't get me wrong, I'm all for the non custodial parent to take care of their part but it doesn't entitle Mary to go after every bit of income he has coming in just because she wants a few extra dollars. There is a set amount in which is to be paid and that is being paid every week. I guess she thought he wouldn't notice the money missing from his check or that he just wouldn't do anything about it. What she did is no different than stealing from the government. If you may want to believe a story without all the facts then I guess the simple minded people will. However if you want to see the court papers, the arrest papers, or papers showing he is paying child support then I'll be more then happy to provide them to you. Not that it's really anyone's business but since Mary is the one who started this then we are willing to provide the truth, not half truths.

Else, another issue that should be discussed the photo that is posted on this site and other sites, is a stolen picture. This picture was taken with a digital camera by a family member and e-mailed to Mark's account. This picture has only been e-mailed to a few people all of which we remember who received it. It was not a public photo nor did anyone who received this photo have any reason to forward it to Mary, in addition, none of the people that received the email with the picture attached knows her or knows her e-mail address. Consequently, to the person/persons who broke into one of our e-mail accounts there has been a report filed with the local police department and the IP address has been recorded and the route used has been traced back to the ISP; in this area is where the mistake was made and it is being investigated. Congratulations, your picture may be posted in a more visible location throughout the United States.

Furthermore, in case you did not know, stalking/cyberstalking is against the law. There is no reason Mary needs to know where Mark's drill unit is located nor does she need to know what he is doing drill weekend. The police view this as stalking/cyberstalking. If she tries to claim that, she needs to get a hold of him in case of an emergency then that would be a first. She has all had our phone numbers and she knows where we live. There are many ways she can reach Mark and none of them involve needing to know his every move or what he does with his time. Its one thing to talk about stalking/cyberstalking him but a mistake was made by writing it down and asking for advice from others.

47 U.S.C. Title 18: 2261A

Cyberstalking generally refers to the use of the Internet, e-mail, or other electronic communications devices to stalk another person where stalking in the traditional sense means to engage in repeated harassing or threatening behavior (such as following a person, appearing at a person's home or workplace, making harassing telephone calls, or leaving written messages or objects) that places the victim in reasonable fear of death or bodily injury, cf. 18 U.S.C. 2261A (prohibiting interstate stalking).

Section 2261A. Interstate stalking
Whoever -

1) travels in interstate or foreign commerce or within the special maritime and territorial jurisdiction of the United States, or enters or leaves Indian country, with the intent to kill, injure, harass, or intimidate another person, and in the course of, or as a result of, such travel places that person in reasonable fear of the death of, or serious bodily injury to, that person, a member of the immediate family (as defined in section 115) of that person, or the spouse or intimate partner of that person; or

(2) with the intent -

(A) to kill or injure a person in another State or tribal jurisdiction or within the special maritime and territorial jurisdiction of the United States; or (B) to place a person in another State or tribal jurisdiction, or within the special maritime and territorial jurisdiction of the United States, in reasonable fear of the death of, or serious bodily injury to -

(i) that person;

(ii) a member of the immediate family (as defined in section 115) of that person; or

(iii) a spouse or intimate partner of that person,

uses the mail or any facility of interstate or foreign commerce to engage in a course of conduct that places that person in reasonable fear of the death of, or serious bodily injury to, any of the persons described in clauses (i) through (iii), shall be punished as provided in section 2261(b).


Besides, Mark may not be able to see his girls but that does not mean he loves them any less. He thinks about them all the time and wishes he could see more of them but when he is blocked at every effort it makes things very difficult. No one is enforcing the custody order because it doesn't spell out visitation dates specifically and they just take her word that it's not his weekend. There has been only one time when there was not a fight put up when Mark asked to see his girls and that was on New Year's Eve. We know the only reason she allowed them to stay over night was because she didn't have a sitter or she just didn't want to pay for one. Even though Mark knew he was being used he didn't care, he was just happy to have his girls. The girls have always had a good time when they come to visit and we have the pictures to prove it. Normally she only allows a 2 hour visit which doesn't allow for much to do at all. It's only enough time to grab a bite to eat, run to the store, or the park and then it's off to take them back. We are trying to work something out that will allow the girls to be a part of our life and family but Mary won't work with any request that we have. It's an hour drive to where the girls live from our house and she won't even drive 15 minutes to the closest city which is where we have to go in order to do anything with them. We would love to have them over to our house to meet family but she won't allow that because she will only allow 2 hours. Like I said we live an hour away and we would have to turn right back around and take them home. We have asked for only a few things and she won't work with anything of the requests, none of which are that unreasonable. How is this wanting what is best for your children when you deny them seeing their father? We even stated we would be willing to start out with a few hours at a time and work our way up to a full weekend for the sake of the girls and this is still not good enough. The girls have a sister that they don't know and we would like to change that, but we don't see that happening any time soon. It's really uncalled for that this can't be worked out for the sake of the girls. It's not just Mark and I that would like to see the girls. We have family that would also like to see them. It's hard for that to happen since all of Mark's family live out of state and Mary won't allow them to leave the state to see their grandparents, aunt's, uncles, cousins, etc. It's been years since they have seen or heard from the grandchildren. It's sad that some grandparents won't get to know their grandchildren. It all seems to be one sided with Mary. She takes them out of state when she wants and doesn't notify Mark. She claims they are in all sorts of after school activities but yet she never lets us know when they have games, plays, concerts, etc. She doesn't let us know what is going on with the girls but yet she gets upset when we don't know what is going on with them. The summer before last he lived in the same town as the girls, Adrian. It's a very small town with no stop light and only a few things. It just so happens that Mark and his roommate joined a bowling league and come to find out Mary, Kelly, and the girls also bowled at the same place. When Mary had Mark arrested she told the Judge that Mark was stalking her at the bowling alley. He was forced to stop playing because of her. He was not allowed to go into the only local Piggley-Wiggley Market because Mary worked there part time or use to and she still did her shopping there. He couldn't even buy milk because of this woman.

To boot, there has been a bit of an update as to what is going on. We are trying to see more of the girls and work out some sort of schedule. She agreed to liberal phone visitation and we were shocked. She even agreed that it was a good idea and that it would be good for the girls. Later during the same conversation we found out her idea of liberal was on a Sunday during a one hour time period. Again it goes to show that she needs control of every situation. Mark is an OTR driver and he is not always able to keep the same schedule. In fact some times he may even be asleep during that hour because he has to work later that night. Although he will try to take advantage of that time it's not always possible. What if he can't make that call during that time, does that mean he has to wait until the next week to talk to them? I allow my ex-husband to talk to our daughter any time he wants and vise versa when she is with him. If for some reason she can't be reached when he calls he just leaves a message and she calls him back or he calls back the next day. That is what liberal visitation is. They talk almost every day and it not it's every other day. The same goes all of his family. It's important for them to know their father just like it's important for my daughter to know her father and I would never get in the way of their relationship. I'm sure if this were to happen with Mary then she would be back on the phone filing charges against Mark again for harassment. This is the kind of stuff he puts up with on a regular basis in order to talk to or see his girls.
At this point he will never get to know his girls before they are grown adults. At least when they do become adults Mary will have no say in the relationship that they have with their dad and we can't wait for that day.

Additionally, the few times that Mark has been able to talk with his girls they have made comments that sound like they came from the mouth of a 32 year old and not an 11 and 12 year old. A friend of ours told us about a condition called Parental Alienation Syndrome. It's something that custodial parents do to children when there is animosity towards the non custodial parent, it sounds so much like what is going on in our case. I will give some information on PAS for those of you who have never heard of it before, we think this is why the children are in therapy. This is also CHILD ABUSE! Mark will continue fighting for his girls unconditionally without hesitation or reservation.

Here is info about PAS:
CP stands for Custodial parent NCP is for non custodial parent.

* CP tells the children lies about the NCP
* CP tells the children things that are true but only serve to hurt you in the eyes of the children
* CP tells the children all the bad things that happen to them are because of something you did for did not do
* CP schedules children's lives in order to eliminate your time with them
* CP will make the children give up something in order to spend time with you
* CP indicates to the children that you are unimportant even harmful in their lives
* CP replaces you as a parental figure with another person
* CP acts angry or hurt when the children seem happy to be with NCP
* CP threatens to harm herself in the children want to be with you
* CP blames any shortage in the children's lives on you or your lack of love or financial support
*CP can implant false memories of the father

***ALIENATING THE OTHER PARENT IS A FORM OF CHILD ABUSE****

Finally, in the eyes of the law, a parent cannot be denied visitation because they are behind in support payments. I hope this PAS information has been helpful to some parents who think their children are being brainwashed. That is all we have to say for now. I hope the facts have enlightened those of you who only got to hear part of the story. If anyone would like to see court documents they are public record so you can view them at will, but I am willing to forward whatever court document you want to see. Reply to this message with an email address and I will scan whatever document you want and email it to you. Thanks for everyone's time and consideration.

To all of those who choose to "Give your 2 cents", maybe you are being brainwashed too. Fathers dont have any "Rights". Who is doing the real damage to those beautiful girls? Mother that would keep her kids away from their "Birth Father" w/ or w/out support is in it only for the MONEY!!! Not the well being of her kids. Mary Dyer Cornelous makes it impossible for Mark to see or talk to his girls. Mary will have him arrested, restraints put on him ect...whatever it takes to make the "Mission Impossible" for him and turns around and tells the girls "Their dad dont care." GIVE ME A BREAK!!hmmmmmmm!Do you think that "Dad, you not paying your support is stealing from us?", is the words of children under 12? DONT THINK SO!! So, to you Mary,aka, Brainwasher, keep up the post cards, emails and bogus phone calls! Maybe when someone else you have brainwashed goes to jail for you being the mastermind behind the games, then we will see who the real DEADBEAT is. And for you that like to give your "2 cents", there is always two sides to a story, so keep your change and buy into something you know more about!

Well Ben, I don't know what other websites your talking about that I directed you to. I have never directed you to another website, or had any contact with you. So if you harrassed the state of Missouri, you did that on your own. I beleive this is Ben, Mark's cousin, I could be wrong. As far as me being a liar, funny how I have all the paperwork to back everything I have ever said up.
Now I am not going to go back and forth with you on this, I am the one living this and not you. The girls are the ones going without their father, because of his choice.

You have no clue what your talking about, you are getting whatever information you are from the "source", who it the liar. (and he is a good one)
Is he not in the arrears of over $6,000.00?
Is he not in the Army Reserves?
Has he seen the girls since Nov. 03?
Did he not have his license taken and then reinstated, due to failure to pay child support?
Does he not have his taxes intercepted to pay towards his arrears?
These are some of my claims, and all documented, do you know the answers, cause I DO!

Nothing Mary has said here is true. I know first hand because she got me started on a different web site I go to track this Mark person down and was served by the state of Missouri for harassment. They say he is legal; that he pays his child support. I almost went to jail for what she is saying on this site and others. Before anyone else starts trying to slander, a person you had better start doing some investigating yourself! Readers beware of false information like all you have read before me concerning that Mark person. Additionally, she stole that picture out of his email from Yahoo. They are tracking the ip address that logged on and got the picture soon she will be facing criminal charges herself.

Well I thank you for the information Jeff. I agree, I have beat my head against that wall one to many times. I don't call him, like you said the kids don't like to hear promises that don't happen. They haven't seen him since 11/03/04. He called finally earlier this month and wanted to schedule a visit, but when I called him back he didn't answer or call back to set up a time. I don't even tell the kids, you know they get their hopes up. I hate being the bad guy, even though I know it is not my fault.

I finally got the garnishment on his employer and that has been coming in now almost a month.......we will see how long that lasts. As for the reserves, they withheld some money and are suppose to dispurse it on the 1st...we will see. Other than that, at least some financial help is coming in, no emotional :( for the girls anyway. They are great and I enjoy them everyday, he misses out on band programs, and sport games with them, but not me. I have yet to miss one! I am proud to be able to say that :)

I hope all is well on your end, it is difficult to raise children, with daily obsticals always in the way. Keep your chin up. Your not alone.

Mary,

It is unfortunate that your children are in the situation. While the above reply is right about the UCMJ. He can be made to pay support for his children. There are a couple ways you can find out where his reserve unit is. First, you know his location. His reserve until will not be far from that, no more then 50 miles most likely. Another way would to contact your closest Army post and get some information from the JAG office. They may not be able to tell you much, but they will give you some guidance on how to contact the command in the state he is located in. Also, since it is the Reserves, they may be able to act on it there. Once you contact his command and provide the proof they need, they will have to act on it because, like stated above, he is in violation of the UCMJ. Mind, as you can see, this may be a long process.

Also, it seems you are already getting support from him. If this is back support + the support he is supposed to be giving you then I can assume you are trying to contact him for the children. While this is a nice idea, the fact he isn't doing it now unfortunately shows that he isn't interested. He will have to do this on his own, you cant make him unless he wants too.

Being a parent who has custody of his children, I have tried to deal with their mom and contact her. It only hurts the kids when a parent make s a promise and never goes through with it. Promises, like "I will be there this weekend", "Your birthday card was mailed" ect. ect. After too many of those, I just decided that dealing with her only hurt the kids worse and left it alone. If this is the case with you, it may be a good idea you do the same.

I wish you luck if the future and give your children a big hug :) ..I know it is hard to raise children on your own but the rewards out weight any problems I have had.

Thanks... I have been working on getting a garnishment on his Army Reserve pay. Child Support Enforcement finally got one on his regular job. He made a payment arrangement that will take this man over 6 years to pay off the arrearage, my oldest will be almost out of the house by then. I should see something come of the reserve next time he drills. It took some work but I did get it. I have not been able to find out where he drills yet or his unit address, but I am working on it. You sound like someone who knows resources that might help. If possible, I would like to talk with you about that. If not I understand.

As a father of 2 incredible people that I have the privelege to care for; as well as a former Military Police officer in the Army I am at the very least, a tad angry at this man. I will however, not take the time to expand on his short-comings (no pun intended) and offer advice instead. Apparently Mark is enlisted in some branch of the Armed Forces, and regardless of active status (reserves, nat'l guard, etc) he can be punished under the UCMJ; Uniform Code of Military Justice. The section I am referring to is Army Regulation 608-99, "Family Support, Child Custody, and Paternity," outlines Army policy regarding the obligation of soldiers to support their family members.

Here are some further details:
Soldier Responsibilities. Soldiers are required to manage their personal affairs in a manner that does not bring discredit upon themselves or the Army. This responsibility includes: maintaining reasonable contact with family members so that their financial needs and welfare do not become official matters of concern for the Army; conducting themselves in an honorable manner with regard to parental commitments and responsibilities; providing adequate financial support to their family members; and compliance with all court orders.

Penalties for Noncompliance. This regulation is punitive, which means a soldier can be punished under the UCMJ or by adverse administrative action for failure to follow provisions of: a court order concerning child custody; financial support provisions of either a written agreement, court order, or in the absence of either, the BAQ-WITH amount due a family member(s) under AR 608-99. A soldier who falls into arrears violates the provisions of the regulation. Punishment for such violations may be based on a failure to provide financial support when due, not for failure to pay arrearages. While commanders cannot force a soldier to pay arrearages due his or her family member(s), soldiers should be encouraged, but not ordered, to pay them. Commanders should inform the soldier, however, that if he or she received BAQ and was not using it to support his or her family member(s), DFAS can recoup those past payments from the soldier's pay. The failure of a soldier to comply with court ordered support may also be the basis for a lawful order from a commander to comply with such provisions.

Questions on AR 608-99. For additional information on AR 608-99, soldiers requiring personal assistance in these areas should contact the III Corps Legal Assistance Office at 287-7901/3199. Commanders should contact the III Corps Administrative Law Division at 287-3655/7404, or call their trial counsel at 287-5413/2993.

More advice: Don't drag his girlfriend/new wife/ etc into the fray, those little girls are only the responsibility of YOU and HIM. He makes his own decisions, as do you. The manner in which you handle this situation will have profound influence and affect on those girls, keep that in mind. Just my 2 cents.

I hope this info helps in some way and gives you another avenue in which to pursue the justice those girls deserve. Take care of those girls and good luck.

As a father of 2 incredible people that I have the privelege to care for; as well as a former Military Police officer in the Army I am at the very least, a tad angry at this man. I will however, not take the time to expand on his short-comings (no pun intended) and offer advice instead. Apparently Mark is enlisted in some branch of the Armed Forces, and regardless of active status (reserves, nat'l guard, etc) he can be punished under the UCMJ; Uniform Code of Military Justice. The section I am referring to is Army Regulation 608-99, "Family Support, Child Custody, and Paternity," outlines Army policy regarding the obligation of soldiers to support their family members.

Here are some further details:
Soldier Responsibilities. Soldiers are required to manage their personal affairs in a manner that does not bring discredit upon themselves or the Army. This responsibility includes: maintaining reasonable contact with family members so that their financial needs and welfare do not become official matters of concern for the Army; conducting themselves in an honorable manner with regard to parental commitments and responsibilities; providing adequate financial support to their family members; and compliance with all court orders.

Penalties for Noncompliance. This regulation is punitive, which means a soldier can be punished under the UCMJ or by adverse administrative action for failure to follow provisions of: a court order concerning child custody; financial support provisions of either a written agreement, court order, or in the absence of either, the BAQ-WITH amount due a family member(s) under AR 608-99. A soldier who falls into arrears violates the provisions of the regulation. Punishment for such violations may be based on a failure to provide financial support when due, not for failure to pay arrearages. While commanders cannot force a soldier to pay arrearages due his or her family member(s), soldiers should be encouraged, but not ordered, to pay them. Commanders should inform the soldier, however, that if he or she received BAQ and was not using it to support his or her family member(s), DFAS can recoup those past payments from the soldier's pay. The failure of a soldier to comply with court ordered support may also be the basis for a lawful order from a commander to comply with such provisions.

Questions on AR 608-99. For additional information on AR 608-99, soldiers requiring personal assistance in these areas should contact the III Corps Legal Assistance Office at 287-7901/3199. Commanders should contact the III Corps Administrative Law Division at 287-3655/7404, or call their trial counsel at 287-5413/2993.

More advice: Don't drag his girlfriend/new wife/ etc into the fray, those little girls are only the responsibility of YOU and HIM. He makes his own decisions, as do you. The manner in which you handle this situation will have profound influence and affect on those girls, keep that in mind. Just my 2 cents.

I hope this info helps in some way and gives you another avenue in which to pursue the justice those girls deserve. Take care of those girls and good luck.

As a father of 2 incredible people that I have the privelege to care for; as well as a former Military Police officer in the Army I am at the very least, a tad angry at this man. I will however, not take the time to expand on his short-comings (no pun intended) and offer advice instead. Apparently Mark is enlisted in some branch of the Armed Forces, and regardless of active status (reserves, nat'l guard, etc) he can be punished under the UCMJ; Uniform Code of Military Justice. The section I am referring to is Army Regulation 608-99, "Family Support, Child Custody, and Paternity," outlines Army policy regarding the obligation of soldiers to support their family members.

Here are some further details:
Soldier Responsibilities. Soldiers are required to manage their personal affairs in a manner that does not bring discredit upon themselves or the Army. This responsibility includes: maintaining reasonable contact with family members so that their financial needs and welfare do not become official matters of concern for the Army; conducting themselves in an honorable manner with regard to parental commitments and responsibilities; providing adequate financial support to their family members; and compliance with all court orders.

Penalties for Noncompliance. This regulation is punitive, which means a soldier can be punished under the UCMJ or by adverse administrative action for failure to follow provisions of: a court order concerning child custody; financial support provisions of either a written agreement, court order, or in the absence of either, the BAQ-WITH amount due a family member(s) under AR 608-99. A soldier who falls into arrears violates the provisions of the regulation. Punishment for such violations may be based on a failure to provide financial support when due, not for failure to pay arrearages. While commanders cannot force a soldier to pay arrearages due his or her family member(s), soldiers should be encouraged, but not ordered, to pay them. Commanders should inform the soldier, however, that if he or she received BAQ and was not using it to support his or her family member(s), DFAS can recoup those past payments from the soldier's pay. The failure of a soldier to comply with court ordered support may also be the basis for a lawful order from a commander to comply with such provisions.

Questions on AR 608-99. For additional information on AR 608-99, soldiers requiring personal assistance in these areas should contact the III Corps Legal Assistance Office at 287-7901/3199. Commanders should contact the III Corps Administrative Law Division at 287-3655/7404, or call their trial counsel at 287-5413/2993.

More advice: Don't drag his girlfriend/new wife/ etc into the fray, those little girls are only the responsibility of YOU and HIM. He makes his own decisions, as do you. The manner in which you handle this situation will have profound influence and affect on those girls, keep that in mind. Just my 2 cents.

I hope this info helps in some way and gives you another avenue in which to pursue the justice those girls deserve. Take care of those girls and good luck.

As a father of 2 incredible people that I have the privelege to care for; as well as a former Military Police officer in the Army I am at the very least, a tad angry at this man. I will however, not take the time to expand on his short-comings (no pun intended) and offer advice instead. Apparently Mark is enlisted in some branch of the Armed Forces, and regardless of active status (reserves, nat'l guard, etc) he can be punished under the UCMJ; Uniform Code of Military Justice. The section I am referring to is Army Regulation 608-99, "Family Support, Child Custody, and Paternity," outlines Army policy regarding the obligation of soldiers to support their family members.

Here are some further details:
Soldier Responsibilities. Soldiers are required to manage their personal affairs in a manner that does not bring discredit upon themselves or the Army. This responsibility includes: maintaining reasonable contact with family members so that their financial needs and welfare do not become official matters of concern for the Army; conducting themselves in an honorable manner with regard to parental commitments and responsibilities; providing adequate financial support to their family members; and compliance with all court orders.

Penalties for Noncompliance. This regulation is punitive, which means a soldier can be punished under the UCMJ or by adverse administrative action for failure to follow provisions of: a court order concerning child custody; financial support provisions of either a written agreement, court order, or in the absence of either, the BAQ-WITH amount due a family member(s) under AR 608-99. A soldier who falls into arrears violates the provisions of the regulation. Punishment for such violations may be based on a failure to provide financial support when due, not for failure to pay arrearages. While commanders cannot force a soldier to pay arrearages due his or her family member(s), soldiers should be encouraged, but not ordered, to pay them. Commanders should inform the soldier, however, that if he or she received BAQ and was not using it to support his or her family member(s), DFAS can recoup those past payments from the soldier's pay. The failure of a soldier to comply with court ordered support may also be the basis for a lawful order from a commander to comply with such provisions.

Questions on AR 608-99. For additional information on AR 608-99, soldiers requiring personal assistance in these areas should contact the III Corps Legal Assistance Office at 287-7901/3199. Commanders should contact the III Corps Administrative Law Division at 287-3655/7404, or call their trial counsel at 287-5413/2993.

More advice: Don't drag his girlfriend/new wife/ etc into the fray, those little girls are only the responsibility of YOU and HIM. He makes his own decisions, as do you. The manner in which you handle this situation will have profound influence and affect on those girls, keep that in mind. Just my 2 cents.

I hope this info helps in some way and gives you another avenue in which to pursue the justice those girls deserve. Take care of those girls and good luck.

I am a cousin to the 2 gorgeous girls that Mark has decided to not take an interest in. I am adding a response just because i want him to know that he is missing out on 2 of the best girls' lives ever. Although they are getting the best care from their mother, it might be nice if he showed a little bit of attention to them. A phone call or a letter or something would be nice. Even though it helps, it is not all about the money.

I am a cousin to the 2 gorgeous girls that Mark has decided to not take an interest in. I am adding a response just because i want him to know that he is missing out on 2 of the best girls' lives ever. Although they are getting the best care from their mother, it might be nice if he showed a little bit of attention to them. A phone call or a letter or something would be nice. Even though it helps, it is not all about the money.

Rephrase... I stated that Mark Dyer's children did not know who he was. Yes they do know him by face and name, but as a human being they do not, as with he. Could he tell you what their favorite colors are, or which music group is their favorite, no I think not!! Just the same the girls could not tell you anything about him, except that he doesn't call to wish them Merry Christmas or Happy Birthday, or to visit with them regulary.

Also as an update: A garnishment has been attached to Mark pay, so sometime soon the girls should see support coming their way, if only financial.