In the early am hrs. of May 5, 2011, My spouse (m.11/14/87) put his hands around my throat and tried to crush my windpipe with his thumbs. He outweighs me by 130 lbs. and he lifts weights (300+). During my struggle to live, due to him kneeling on my leg and forcing it the wrong way into the floor, my menicus and ACL were torn. He went to jail for approx. 8 hrs. and his boss bailed him out. The DA never contacted me and in fact, dropped the charges. I was in severe pain and couldn't walk without pain for 7 mths!
Fast forward to Feb. 2012, I am the plantiff in a Divorce that's about to get filthy! My husband filed for a t.r.o. against me!!! Knowing 1,000% he had no basis for one, I didn't bother filing an answer. IT WAS A DISGUSTING TRAVESTY!! I've never put my hands on him. In fact, nearly 2 yrs. before he punched me in the face 3x, blackening my eyes for 12 days. I won't go into why I let him get away with that. I'll just say it was a misguided attempt to protect a 3rd person and leave it. It's a decision I'll regret till my last day on earth. Anyways, he wasn't paying court ordered spousal support the whole month of Feb. and I freely admit I left many messages and texts re: my homeless situation and how badly I needed my money. I'd been diagnosed with Major Depressive Disorder and Anxiety in Nov. Had in fact been suffering since the end of Jan 2011. I'm finally on medication and in therepy, and I'm working hard to get better. Anyways, he had me arrested!
Even worse, when we went to the show cause hearing, he was allowed to enter flat out LIES! Including a secretly recorded conversation that took place in Feb. 2011. When I objected to the age of that recording, the Judge blew me off! He said the DV I'd suffered in May was too old yet, the recording my slimeball ex played was 3 mths. older!! The "Judge" granted him a 3 year order. I was in fact arrested 3 additional times. I also spent a month in jail when I got my court dates mixed up and 2 bails were revoked. Now, I accept that I did violate a court order and, in fact did plead guilty to 2 charges in order to get out of jail. However, WTH is wrong with our justice system that this Narcissistic waste of life got away with this? His motivation, straight out is money! In his warped thinking, this will get him out of paying and me getting anything when the divorce is final. Even though we were married 23+ years and I worked and contributed to our household the majority of the marriage. In 46 years I'd never been in trouble with the law. The worst part of it, 20+ years of training and work experience in the Child Development field is down the toilet. I'm in the freaking system as a DV perpetrator!! I have filed a civil suit against him re: the injury to my leg. My reputation however, is trashed! How is any of this freaking justice? I've always been so proud to be an American. Now I wonder, Why?