CharmDate Qpid, AsiaMe Would not cooperate, refund money, so I filed a complain with PayPal Hong Kong Internet

I started using CharmDate about two weeks ago and immediately became suspicious.  I wrote to a few ladies in Ukraine and ALL answered me, but only two really sparked my interest.  I began with one, and as soon as I tried to give her my email address, I was warned that I could not do this.  For the amount I paid to communicate on this site, which turns out to be about $6.00 per letter sent by me and $6.00 for me to read any letter from her and even $6.00 more per photo to see extra pics, I should have stopped right there.  They set you up with the girl showing interest in you, getting you "hooked" and then talking about anything, including how much they admire you, how handsome you are, how sexy you are etc, etc...I suspect the girls are real but are acting as cyber-hookers, and there is no way to actually meet them.  I tried several times to use an old spy trick to influence a response by email, using a cipher to convey my email address and then later giving the key, explaining how to use it and then said I would wait for a response...instead I got a sob story on their site about how she was worried I would not write her again and how much she would miss me and how she would be crying in her pillow every night if I did not respond.  I got no email from her.  I won't say that I am a professional spy here, but I knew immediately this was a scam.  I'm glad that I'm only out about $150.00, but some lessons need to be learned.