Kim D. Kimbrough aka Lydick aka Ridenour is a deadbeat Mom using the system. Rip-off! Ottawa Kansas

I appreciate Melissa's comments and support and want to update publically. My daughters have come home. I won't go into any personal details about this, but I hope all realize that what comes around, TRULY does go around.
I'm seeing my girls and participating in their lives, finally. I only wish for their happiness and security now and in their future.
I will not denegrate their father. for my benefit or any one else's. They need to know that their father does love them and though his actions were so very hurtful and so very wrong in manner, his intent was to show them his love. however wrong that method might've been.
He has strived to destroy me. tried to manipulate my actions to verify and validify his acusations. It didn't work, and I hope he knows I will not ever do what he wished I'd do...to stoop to his level and throw out multiple blame and accusations.

The tables have turned and now HE has to worry about child support, etc. He needs to re-read his accusations and determine whether or not HE should be denegrated to "dead-beat dad" status he was so happy to label me as.
Okay, that wasn't my best, but I felt it needed mentioning.
Honestly, it truly doesn't matter any more. My girls are home and happy. They're involved in school, friends and activities. their lives have finally become settled and, thank God, routine.
I hate what my ex-husband did to me and to our daughters...but I forgive him, (though that was so damned hard to do!). I was given a wonderful saying by someone very special. I hope others whom have had to deal with such difficult times will read and re-read this quote...and take comfort. Life does change for the better; when you ask for it, pray for it and know you deserve it ~ it will come

"In our sleep, pain that cannot forget, falls drop by drop upon the heart and in our despair, against our will, comes wisdom through the awful grace of God." Aeschylus

Kim

Stay strong. Anyone can tell who is at fault, simply by who initiated the claim here. The fact that you are the mother of his children and yet he still brings up your dirty laundry (fictional or not) to a public forum like this, says it all. He's bitter, especially about you going to college. The fact that you are bettering yourself doesn't sit well with him.

Rest assured, that this will pass like everything else. Do what you can to stay healthy for your children, and whatever they believe now- time and maturity will show the truth. When they're older they will see everything with a keen eye and know who is at fault.

I wish you all the best. Take Care.

'Harry' (legal name) Harry Lee Lydick, Jr. or Lee as he's commonly known has only wanted to take back the control as well as the horrible physical and mental abuse he dished out to myself and our four children.

After 18 years of marriage, I'd had enough and filed for divorce. I finally thought I'd put an end to this...and I was so very, very wrong. When I finally filed for divorce (the second time), I was financially depleted by his repeated attorney filings and his desire to destroy me. It took 15, get this FIFTEEN Months to get a divorce.

This was after numerous filings of his attorneys, costing me over $14,000.00 in fees (I'd heard he spent close to $70K). The first round, I was awarded the home and the children. In 1991, my parents had both died and I came into a sizeable estate, (we lived off that estate for over seven years after he quit his job as general manager of Applebees in KCMO~hours after I told him my mom had died). He 'sold life insurance', but never contributed more than $500/month to support a family of six.

I filed for divorce July of 1998 and was granted a divorce nine months later, by trial. He immediately took the property settlement to Kansas State Court of Appeals. The divorce settlement appeal was awarded in my favor September, 1999. But I was unable to sell my home due to it being in litigation...and was forced to file for bankruptcy.

I also found out I had breast cancer. His next project was to get the children. He knew I was tapped financially and was physically as well as mentally stressed. I was weak and he took advantage of that.

He knew I was still covered by his health insurance from UPS (recently fired for doctoring union employees hours to reduce the cost reports of the Ottawa, KS hub) He was the head supervisor AND making close to six figures income (refer to comment of my taking food from my children's mouths), though refused to inform me of that coverage.

Due to that I waited until my new employer's coverage came into effect three months after I found the lump, my cancer had spread to my lymph nodes and was classified as Class III. The delay could've cost my life...in the least his lies caused several disfiguring surgeries, chemotherapy and radiation treatments. He couldn't have cared less and told me he hoped I'd die.

A side note; his current wife, my children's step-mother really couldn't understand why I was so extremely upset that I'd had coverage when I first discovered the lump. My life, but more importantly my children's lives have been affected so tragically by his actions. That their father would try to not only destroy their mother's reputation, but also do whatever he could to precipitate my death.

I am completely current with my child support payments by working two to three jobs at a time...(ask him if he's working now or if his wife would do the same!). I've also continued my education. I'm in a position of respect in my community and Lee Lydick is only thought of as a hateful, difficult, resentful, disrespected and arrogant man in the Ottawa community. And that is the reason he's taken my children out of their hometown (our middle daughter was moved away her senior year in high school), just to hurt me again.

At this time, I have no clue as to where my girls are...but the child support checks are certainly cashed. I won't go into the many, many precious items of my family that were stolen from me, kept for their own use or sold on ebay. I've been in contact with a few whom have received these sold/stolen items of mine.

These items aren't really important though. The worst is knowing how has these repeated manipulations of my children's psyches have done to their lives and their futures! I stand by my reputation. I stand by my morals and values that I have deep within and gave to our children. Know this of me, Kim Denise Kimbrough-Lydick-Ridenour; I do not have the financial wherewithal to hire an attorney to rectify this situation, and if I did, my children have told me how they never, ever want to have to go to court again. They've told me to just wait until they're of age...it's just too painful for them and I will NOT put them in that position to choose like their father has.

For the record, I've never, and I mean ever been a drug user/abuser and my alcohol use was primarily due as a result to the never-ending attacks. The stalking and criminal trespass charges resulted from my only trying to see my children-which was Court Ordered, and all have since been vindicated. Once the authorities (police, sheriffs, county attorney's office, etc.) in Ottawa, Kansas and Franklin County, Kansas were able to see beyond his bluster, lies, manipulations and hired help, they changed their attitude towards him and came to believe in me. He moved away from the area and those actions speaks volumes. He's an abuser, a manipulater and a coward. He was found out and what did he do? He fled...but took our children with him.

I welcome anyone to sift through the three 2 inch plus files of 98 D 229 and see for yourselves. I welcome any insight you may have and any support you could lend.