Report: #982894

Complaint Review: Chapel Hill Homeschoolers

  • Submitted: Sun, December 16, 2012
  • Updated: Wed, February 20, 2013
  • Reported By: Concerned Parents — Raleigh Triangle North Carolina United States of America
  • Chapel Hill Homeschoolers
    PO Box 3047
    Chapel Hill, North Carolina
    United States of America

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One member recently described Chapel Hill Homeschoolers as a modern KKK group. She said what makes it modern is that they will allow some acceptance if the child is an interracial child as long as they have at least one white parent, but otherwise, there is a steady exclusion of some members who are colored. This typically occurs until the colored family feels so uncomfortable or unwelcome that they leave the organization or limit their participation. While the organization doesn't outright preach hate, racial segregation is present and active in practice. Even checking out Chapel Hill Homeschoolers Association membership numbers and the percentage of fully minority families, it was looking like they are an intentionally racist exclusionary group.

Over the years, my husband and I began to hear the playground conversations on the harsh nature of Chapel Hill Homeschoolers Association from its own members. These were members who did not support the exclusion but were afraid to speak up. The exclusion is not just limited to race, while there was one prominent l*****n couple that was accepted because of the immense effort they put into helping the community, the vast majority would leave Chapel Hill Homeschoolers after being treated unkindly or completely ignored.

When our family decided to homeschool our boys, we wanted a diverse environment for socialization but when we looked around the Chapel Hill Homeschoolers it was a sea of lily white kids and parents. The few multi-racial kids had at least one white parent or were adopted by white parents. When asked where the ethnic members were, long standing Chapel Hill Homeschool Association members often responded basically that the blacks had their own group.  We heard multiple comments like this in our time with the Chapel Hill Homeschoolers Association.

The history of Chapel Hill Homeschoolers is a sad one of modern segregation and pretense.  Chapel Hill Homeschoolers at one time did not even make much of an effort to keep interracial children in the group and at one point there was an actual split between Chapel Hill Homeschoolers and a new organization called Homeschoolers of Color.  

One Mom decided she would form Homeschoolers of Color to help provide cultural diversity and acceptance for her adopted minority kids. The problem is that Mom went from Chapel Hill Homeschoolers who basically created an environment of No Blacks and No Colored Allowed to creating a colored group with equally harmful moto No Whites Allowed   while both groups accepted the kids if they were interracial- each of these grouops discouraged membership if anyone was fully of the wrong color.  I am extremely sad about Homeschoolers of Color because I dont understand how this Mom could possibly see intentional segregation or exclusion of any race as positive. 

While Cultural Enrichment is wonderful and needed in the minority community, Homeschoolers of Color was created with the intention to exclude whites which only compounded the problem that Chapel Hill Homeschoolers had already created in excluding colored families; why does either group feel the need to completely segregate? 

Chapel Hill Homeschoolers has a long history and reputation of intimidation and alienation. The difficult part with Chapel Hill Homeschooler is no law is being directly broken. The colored, minority and ethnic families were not excluded from joining (so no laws were broken), the families were just treated in such a way that eventually they felt so unwelcome that they left.

Through the years, many people have asked about integrating cultural activities or creating guidelines to make EVERYONE feel welcome regardless of race but it is always met with resistance or attacking the person who suggested it.  While the vast majority of parents are good people, it does not excuse the pain created by a segregated community or what winds up teaching children to segregate based on color. 

When the few interracial kids that are in Chapel Hill Homeschoolers are actually asking, why arent there more kids that look like me? Chapel Hill Homeschoolers should have started looking into the answer and finding a solution rather than continue to allow possible racists to lead behaviors which caused segregation or allowing conduct that continued to separate the racial groups. One should think carefully and perhaps think twice before supporting or joining this group. 

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#1 Consumer Comment

No Gay People!!

AUTHOR: MrHomeschool - (United States of America)

We don't have to apologize for not wanting gays, lesbians, homosexuals or anyone with an "alternative lifestyle" in Chapel Hill Homeschoolers. As a father, I don't want my children to be exposed to a gay lifestyle any more than I would want my children exposed to any other sin. 

The gay people keep asking to be free to live but then they join groups that don't want them. Aren't straight people also free to choose how we raise our children or what we believe? If you are gay, why join a group that has people you know are against the a gay lifestyle and then complain when you aren't wanted?  

This issue continues to come up in our group. Long time members know we started the group as Christian conservatives who could support each other in homeschooling. But Chapel Hill Homeschoolers decided to turn into a non-profit a couple years ago and it's been nothing but a hassle. All of a sudden gays think we should "embrace" them.

Many of our long standing members find it against God's Law to be gay, homosexual or whatever you want to call it. I resent being told what to believe or how to run our groups (or that I am a hateful person because I don't believe in the lifestyle). I just don't want my children around people who are gay. It's not about hate, it's about choice and honoring the religious beliefs of people in our group. 

If it's a gay person who made this complaint and they were banned from our community for their gay lifestyle, I think Chapel Hill Homeschoolers is better off. We don't join your parades so just stay out of our group and everyone will be happy.
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#2 Consumer Comment

White Ladies Denying?

AUTHOR: Jess Ka - (United States of America)

Classic= its a happy white chica denying racism, open your eyes its there.

I quit them because I always felt like my family were pets=  Look a Hispanic, we have one of those now we arent racist!
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#3 Consumer Comment

A Wonderful and Diverse Organization

AUTHOR: nculous - (United States of America)

It is hard to believe that this report was written about the wonderful organization to which I have belonged for several years.  This organization is amazingly inclusive, non-judgmental and is a continuous source of inspiration, activities and friendships.

Chapel Hill Homeschoolers is a place to find families as diverse as our area - all races, religions, socio-economic levels, different homeschooling approaches.
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#4 Consumer Comment

This report is full of false accusations against a quality organization

AUTHOR: MadMom - (United States of America)

I am a member of this organization, and have been for 5 years. We are an all inclusive group that does not EVER discriminate against anyone based on race, sexual orientation, gender, marital status, age, or any other stupid thing people use to hurt one another. At 200 participants, we have a fair representation of race, gender, same sex and hetero couples, etc. Nothing the author has reported is accurate or fair. 

Additionally, the author is currently in the middle of an official conflict resolution situation with CHH, and has been cut off from communicating with the board of this organization while the Conflict Resolution Committee is formed. The author has been harassing the board and the "membership" (we're legally a non-membership organization) for weeks now, and is responsible for several defamatory comments and actions on the CHH loop. In fact, just before this particular rip off report was filed, the author was encouraged by CHH participants to stop instigating situations on the loop. 

The accusations the author is levying here are actually a distortion of a group discussion on race and inclusion between another support group to which the author belongs and the Homeschoolers of Color. The founder of HOC started her organization in order to provide further and specific enrichment to her African born children, and she is a member of CHH *AND* HOC. HOC was NOT formed as a refuge from a "racist" CHH.

This author has written this erroneous and highly personally defamatory report simply because the author does not feel welcome to post their extreme and unfounded criticism of the board on the main CHH loop. 

Please know that CHH is filled with liberal minded, inclusive members who regularly fight injustice and teach their children to do the same.
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