Michael Slaton III Rip Off his own Kids O'Fallon Missouri

he is divorced from his wife and is now helping with the financial support of our kids.

he is divorced from his wife and is now helping with the financial support of our kids.

he is divorced from his wife and is now helping with the financial support of our kids.

My ex does play a good role in his kids lives. Right now he doesn't have any legal rights to even see them but I do allow him to see them regularly. His home and vehicles and income are probebly slightly higher than mine.

Mike

My heart goes out to both you and your children. In a split care arrangement, you shouldn't be paying child support, especially in the amounts listed. Every state is different, and some of them are EXTREMELY difficult to work with, but there is a chance that you can file for modification based on change of circumstances. Given your unique situation, it's worth a shot.

SLJSB, I've been on both sides of this coin. My first question is whether or not 'dad' gets to interact with the children on a regular basis. Your post indicates that this situation is being looked at from a financial standpoint only. I tend to look at each post of this type and ingest it with a grain of salt. He said/she said is always somewhere in the middle. The house and vehicle are subjective items.....a vehicle can be leased fairly inexpensively, and just because you have an expensive home (again, a subjective call...what is 'expensive' to one is slumming for others) doesn't mean that you are paying large amounts of money (ie: not making the payments).

Are the children being denied basic needs? Food, housing, clothing, utilities? Are your incomes fairly equal (I couldn't afford to send my children to a school that required tuition)? Has dad been asked for input regarding their schooling (a possible reason why he's not paying)? There are a lot of considerations that need to be taken into account that haven't been addressed here, including the age of the children and their relationship with their father. In my own little world, it's always better to have a dad that feels that he can be involved, is consulted regarding decisions for the kids, and whom is allowed free and open interaction with the kids than it is to get a few extra bucks a month that is going to mean that he runs away. I've also seen all too many situations where dad was pushed out of the kids lives, and still expected to support them, and (again) in my own little world, this is wrong. If you don't encourage the relationship, then why push for financial support? Too many folks think it's ok to have their cake and eat it too (dad can't freely interact because I run the show, but he's sure enough going to pay anyway), and in the long run, the children pay for the actions of the adult. I'm not accusing you of anything at this point, but if you want an informed response from this forum, then honest information needs to be posted as well.

Should you file for child support? The jury's still out.......

I will not presume to know why you aren't already receiving court ordered child support; however, no parent should overlook their child's welfare.

It is immaterial what he does with his money, as long as he is providing you with the agreed upon funds to support the children. If he isn't, then by all means, seek court ordered child support, medical assistance, and proof that he has a college fund established for each child.

A word of caution, don't tie visitation in with child support, they are seperate issues, and if he doesn't want to be a part of their life, that is his choice, don't force the children on him.
I have the impression that he might try to deny the children are his, don't let that offend you, stay focused on the objective, getting him to support his children.

I see if from both directions. I help pay my husbands child support and I have been trying to get child support from my childrens dad since 1996.

If everybody would simply look at WHAT IS BEST FOR THE CHILDREN... then you would each see that finances, situations and sensible resolutions are what is best. The court systems cannot see the interest, they are out for MONEY!!! Get over the emotions that you have with each other and look through your childrens eyes...

Hope this helps...

I am a father of 3 and they get to spend every other week with their mother. I get them off the school bus every day as they school in my district not their mothers. I was ordered to pay $1000.00 per month when I made 100k p/y several years back. I now make 45k per year and 1/2 my pay goes to child support. She makes 32k per year, but I cannot have the support modified until 3 years has passsed. (sold my house) Now my kids live vertually in poverty when with me and luxury when with her and it's 50/50. I do agree that things should be equal, yet the system is broke and can destry a persons life. In my case, my kids suffer when they are with me...I can't take them to movies or out to etc etc...They will not modify the support to equal things out for 3 years. If your kids are suffering due to unequal living wages, you should consider a moderation organization and keep the cost down for the both of you. Spend the money you save from atty cost and take the kids out to eat wit what you saved. The moderation will allow you and the father to agree on the support by using the support calcualtor and making personal suggestions to each other before sealing the deal in court. I hope this helps. Good luck.