Paul Ferrari Is Cheating On His Wife. ripoff Carlsbad California

i sent her a facebook message. i copy and pasted to her what you wrote amber fry

Hi,
I am heart broken to read this about Paul and Karis. When did this affair happen? Please contact me through this service.

A

"I tried to "break up" with him and he KEPT pursuing me; taking me to nice dinners weekly. I WENT ON THE PILL FOR HIM, AT HIS REQUEST. And he pursued me from day 1 after skinny dipping. He initiated everything."

Utter bullshit. "Tried" ??? Please. First of all, by your own admission, you're an easy first date. Then, you somehow lack the ability to state "don't ever call me again" and make it stick. You are just as much to blame as he is. Enough of the poor victim already, OK?

And now you want revenge? Good luck - that door swings both ways and BOTH of you will eventually get what you deserve.

I love to read the reports on this site. It's better than a soap opera! All you have to do is look at the search box on the home page. They have a whole section on Adultery. And I love to follow the "Tupper Lake" crowd... it's like watching a train wreck!

"Amber," why are you still going out with him? When you first heard that he was married you should have dropped him like a hot potato! You need to RUN the other direction from him. Next time he calls, tell him you will call his wife next time he calls. He will stop.

You got burned, he's a sleaze ball. His wife may know all about you, she may not. He will catch up to him.

In the meantime, you need to get on with your life.

This posting is exactly why a site like this should not exist. 1. "Paul Ferrarri" is not a business, or least "Amber" never identifies him as such; 2. This was obviously posted without verification with "Paul"; 3. An anonymous post was made accusing a man of something that could cost his marriage and his job. Whether he did it or not is immaterial. This is not the venue for such grievances to be aired.

Dear Amber,
I feel for you because I encountered a similar character.

First, STOP SEEING THIS MAN! Refuse any further dates no matter how many times he calls. Have your phone number changed and screen your calls at work. If you continue to see this man, he will continue to use you because HE CAN.

And if he does call or write, KEEP A LOG of all phone calls and 2+ more copies of his letters. You may be able to get him on stalking if he continues to pursue you after you refuse him time and time again.

Here's an idea of how to get even, but PROCEED WITH CAUTION. You don't want to wind up in San Francisco Bay.

Do you know where the wife works? Have you ever tried to do a search on her? It is really important if you find out where she works and then do an address search on the company.

Do you have any photographs of Paul taken with you, without you, or taken by you?

Do you have any written correspondence from Paul to you?

Do you have any gifts he gave you?

If you have most or all of the above, you're in business to fight back.

If you don't have photos, go out to lunch (not dinner) with him and pretend you are testing a new camera and take several photos of him. If he's an arrogant narcissist like Scott Peterson, he'll do it. If not, maybe you can have a friend take photos of the two of you.

Here's what you do if you already have the wife's work address, emails, letters, and photographs: You will need to prepare a nice little package of copies of his letters, emails, and scans of photos and send them to her.

When copying emails, cut and paste the emails with their full headers into a word processor, then take out your email address.
If it's a regular letter (a handwritten one will really nail him), make a copy, black out your name, and make another copy from the copy with your name inked out.

Scan any photos of him that you took or any taken of the two of you together. If possible, use PhotoShop or some photo manipulation software to blur out your face, but leave everything else. Also, take digital photographs of the gifts he gave you, scan them. Add captions in Photoshop as to what these items are and the approximate date Paul gave them to you. If he left any signed credit card receipts, that would be a plus. You can copy that too.

Don't HANDWRITE anything.

Buy a huge card at the Hallmark shop with a pretty, feminine colored envelope, like pink or lavender. You will need just the envelope, although if you can use the card to insert copies of your letters and photos if it's not too big. Put copies of all emails, letters, and scans of photos into this "pretty" envelope.

Have a friend address the envelope to Paul's wife. Don't address it yourself. You don't want Paul to recognize this is from you. Have your friend use bogus return address, or put NONE AT ALL. And MAKE SURE you put more than enough postage on it--you don't want it to get kicked back to the post office.

Then send it off via regular mail. If you send it to her work address, she is guaranteed to get the envelope. If you send it to her home address, hopefully she will be the one to open the envelope first. That is riskier, especially if this Paul person handles all of the mail. He might be paranoid enough to open his wife's mail. That's why it's important to get her work address.

Good luck---whatever you decide to do, you need to STOP SEEING THIS MAN and the wife needs to know what he has been doing.