(((REDACTED)))  (((NAME(S) REDACTED DUE TO PERCEIVED HARASSMENT / CYBERSTALKING / CYBERBULLYING / REVENGE POST))) | RIPOFF REPORT POST-PUBLICATION CONTENT REVIEW: EDITORIAL REDACTIONS |Deadbeat Dad Florida

 Christina move on, get over it. It's been how many years now. Your married and have kids. Live your life. Let it go. You want trash about you spewed on the internet? You think your so clean how about you being arrested for prostitution. How many guys would you do in a night? A stripper your psycho rants etc. I can go on. Yes I can get nasty. You haven't a clue as to what the circumstances are in my life. Certainly not explaining anything to you. My problem has always been I find myself with the wrong girls. Girls like you Christina (Morse) Shape.. your a nightmare that just won't go away. I seriously doubt I have to worry about you again. Let it go, I have. Years ago. Do the same thing.

(((REDACTED))) is now living in Spokane Valley, Washington. He is on dating sites I presume looking for his next victim. Something felt insincere. A little googling and here it is. Needless to say I will not be dating this man. Check out his Florida mugshot. Doesn't even look like the same man.

To (((REDACTED))) Mom--- your son got Exactly what he deserves---jailtime!!!  I always wondered why it took so long for justice to be served, but better late than never.  I am happy and relieved that he is locked up for all the abuse he put me through, physical and verbal, for all the abuse he put his ex-wife through, for all the cats he murdered, including mine, for all the children he preyed upon, and every other demonic act he has done.  NO ONE HAS PITY ON HIM AND NO ONE IS SAYING A PRAYER FOR HIM Jeanne, Because he is a sick individual and a predator and we alk hope that someone does him in in prison.  He is a scum and you are a sorry excuse for a mother and ex-seargant.  Mommy can't protect(((REDACTED))) now, can she?  we all know about your twisted history also, so don't make all the women he abused look like liars and manipulators--you and your son are.  Hurray!!! 

The first report you will read about (((REDACTED))) is from his daughter whom he had not seen for many years. When he got in touch with her she retracted what she had said. Today they they have a loving father-daughter relationship.

The second report you will read is from a very disturbed former girlfriend. She not only stalked (((REDACTED))) but stalked his mother too! What ever she has to say about him comes from a very troubled mind.

The report from his soon-to-be-x-wife shows how concern can turn on a dime. It is untrue what she said about (((REDACTED))) filming her daughter. The daughter's boyfriend did that! The "wife" also has mental problems and has been hospitalized fior them.

The report of his being arrested is true,. He had no job, no money, bills were piling up, his wife had just confessed to a suicide attempt. He gave in to the pressure and did a foolish and stupid thing for which he is truly shamed and sorriful. He has NEVER in his life EVER done ANYTHING remotely resembling that phone call he made that night. His phone and computers were investigated and found to be clean!

All of his friends, without looking into the situation, abandoned him. No one thought to ask what prompted someone so well liked to do such a thing. He is paying a heavy price for a moment of massive stupidity! 

So I say have some pity and if you are a Saint you may disparage him, but if you have done things in your life for whiuch you are ashamed then you should say a prayer for him, not curse him.

I am the wife that stood up for (((REDACTED))) in this feed.  Boy was I wrong about him.  You would think that after 9 years of being together I would have seen the signs but I must have been blind.  He was arrested in a sting operation for arranging sex with what he thought was a 13 year old girl via the internet and the drove 2 hours to have this sex and was arrested.  I'm thankful that this was a sting operation and that a young girl was not violated.  I pray that he had not done this before but he had been disappearing for long periods of time before this so I have no way of knowing.  We were separating anyway and I was moving back with my family to Texas and he was moving to Washington State to be with his family.  He was going to follow me to Texas to make sure I got there okay.  The Friday before we were to leave is when he was arrested.

I immediately left as soon as I could for Texas loading my car with only the essentials that I would need.  I had to get away from him.  I was afraid he was going to get out of jail since the police officer that came to my door that Friday night wanting his laptop had told me that he would "be home the next morning."  He was calling me nonstop from the jail and telling me that if I would turn around and go back and bail him out that I would have "proven my love to him" and that we could start all over.  I told my daughter to go to my house and get our TV and Blu-ray disc player and the legal papers that I had not taken.  While there, her boyfriend found his mp3 player and turned it on only to find that at some point Ray had sneaked a camera into the bathroom and taken naked pictures of my daughter and made a video out of them for his viewing pleasure.  The mp3 player was turned over to the police and my daughter was told that it was a misdemeanor voyeurism charge since she's 22 years old.  We have no way of knowing if this video was posted on the internet or not.  I know he had a sex video of an old girlfriend that he posted all over the internet.

After getting to Texas I thought I could just forget and start over but it has taken me a month to just be able to laugh.  I was staying in my room isolated for the past few weeks.  I finally got a job the other day.  I found out that he had a girlfriend at work for over a year that I did not know about.  Prior to all of this he was suppose to give his son a 1996 Ford Ranger truck that he had built from the ground up and at the last minute he texted his son and told him that the truck had thrown a rod and gave the truck to his girlfriend then had the nerve when I was somewhat accusatory with regards to this girlfriend  to tell me that I was the liar in the relationship, not him.  He accused me of badmouthing him when I found out later that he spent most of his time at work badmouthing me.  He had been seen numerous times on smoking breaks kissing, holding hands, etc. with this girlfriend who has decided since all of this happened that she wants to save her marriage and has convinced her husband that nothing happened with mine.  Unfortunately, people that worked at the hospital that I worked at, quit and went to work at the hospital that he worked at and kept in touch with friends at my hospital.  My friends knew too many detailed things that no one else would know to not be telling the truth.  The girlfriend told me that my husband was even on her childrens school pickup list.  Who would do that????  I was a much more protective parent. 

Last but not least I found out that he had killed our cats.  The last one that he killed being my daughter's cat that she loved so much.  This cat was so sweet and loving and my daughter carried this cat around all the time and was so attached to this cat.  I woke up one morning to find the cat dead.  He acted all distraught and even had the nerve to tell me that I could have left a Tylenol in the floor that the cat could have gotten (guess I know how he killed the cat).  He buried the cat, made headstone, and planted flowers over the grave.  All the while it was an act because he killed the cat. 

Since I turned my back on him he has turned to his girlfriend who's husband is so duped by her that he actually drove her weekly to the jail to visit him and she was writing him letters once a week.  Her words to me were "hate the sin, not the sinner."  I don't hate (((REDACTED))).  I would not give him the satisfaction of producing such a emotion in me.  I feel so many emotions that many don't even have a name but hate is not one of them.  I want him prosecuted to the fullest extent for what he has done.  God will have the final judgement.  It's not for me to judge.  Looking back I feel stupid that I stayed in this marriage as long as I did.  I should have ended it way sooner.  He was always very critical of me.  I am now trying to rediscover who I am and make my way in this world happily and without letting the past have any negative effect on me.  I know I will be okay.  I have my family, friends, church and job.  (((REDACTED))) was a bad choice that I have definitely learned a lesson from.

For all of you wandering what happend to (((REDACTED))) lately well he just got caught in a sting. He walked in a house to have sex with a child and was busted by the police. He is in the sumpter county jail trying to get somebody to bail him out.  I would now guess that he will be a registered sex offender now.

Granted the title was uncalled for. What ever I did or may have done and do not recall, I am very sorry for any pain I have caused you. I do not expect nor do I ask for your forgiveness. From the sound of your post, I cant see how anyone could or would. I wished we could have at least remained friends like all my other past relationships. Dont know why ours was such a fiery one. I remember things we did and a lot of it was fun and a lot of things were done on both sides out of caring for one another. I remember the easter basket, do you remember the Christmas we were broke, I went out to walgreen's while you slept and brought home a lot of little presents and things so it would look like a Santa came for you. Cause I knew you were bummed out about holidays. I don't really expect you to remember any of the good times, cause I do. I tend to try and block the bad. It does no good to hold onto anger and Ill feelings,  cause they were so few, BIG, but few. and I like to remember more of the better moments. and there were a lot! even at times when we got mad we laughed. Sick? maybe. But it just brought us closer. even when we had nothing, we had something. and our humor was the best we had. even when we got the guy to shampoo our dirty bur bur carpet and after his persistent selling tactics, We just blurted out " We Be Po!" I think of that from time to time and this smile and burst of quick laugh comes out. I wish it could be different between you and me. My fiends informed me you did a friend request on Facebook. that's fine with me. they know me well and I have nothing to fear. I also noticed you Blocked me. No problem. I will not block you. But from what I have seen. You have two beautiful children. And I am happy for you. And hope nothing but happiness through the rest of your life. You have also not lost your beauty as well. You look even better. As I said prior, I do not expect any forgiveness or response from you. but if you do happen to read this. Know that I think of you fondly from time to time. and regret a lot of the hurt. And laugh at a lot of the fun.

First of all, your heading "My Response To A Pathetic Spew" shows that you haven't changed and if you sincerely regret what happened in our relationship years ago, you wouldn't be addressing me as such. Funny (not really-just typical of abusers) that you paint your own pictures of things. The guilt (if you really did have any) must have been so overwhelming that you twisted things around to shift the blame to me. I did NO vindictive things to you Ray--I loved you and went to so many lengths to prove it to you--I loved you so much which is the reason I stayed for so long amd put up with so much from you. I remember that big beautiful Easter basket that I made for you full of all your favorite things and you threw it out on the front lawn in Jupiter and destroyed it--Terry couldn't even believe what an ----hole you were being when he came over during that episode and asked you to calm down-you were like a wild animal out of control. Angie told me that she told you "Ray, don't f--k this one up," (meaning our relationship), and you did just that. I cooked your favorite things, tried to please you, never cheated on you and I got treated terribly by you. I never filed any false police reports--I guess the day you smothered me with a pillow in the bedroom, or the time you put your hands around my throat (for which the police took pictures), or the boiling pot of spaghetti that you threw at me never took place in your mind. And when the police did take you away those few times, there were two reasons I didn't press charges--one because I was scared of the repercussions from you, and two, because your mother kept calling me up trying to intimidate me. I also (sickly) still loved you and thought things would change. As far as the anger management class went, you were ordered to either take that or go to jail, which is what the prosecution wanted for picking me up by the back of my shirt, throwing me out the front door, tossing me on the front lawn, and throwing the boiling pot of spaghetti I was making you for dinner that night, which, by the way, do you remember why you did that to me???, because you came home late that night for dinner without calling me (which you had done repeatedly--later to find out you were going to Karen's house in Hollywoos, and other places), and I asked you where you were and you started going bolistic on me. As far as trust issues go, you were the one screwing around on ME and calling all these women (even the neighbor woman acrossmthe street-remember?) on your cell phones all the time. As far as Angie putting her arm around you and always sitting your lap (which was inappropriate--she wouldn't have like that if I did that to Terry) when we went over their house, that was not jealousy--thought it was in poor taste of her, just like later on after you and I broke up, she tried to set me up (before she set me up with my husband) with someone fromTenesse who she was actually having an affair with and Terry didn't know it)--so that is another thing altogether. As far as camping out on your doorstep and your mother's doorstep, I was pregnant by you ( the first of two times, both times you forced me to get an abortion), and you were avoiding me because of it and I needed you to deal with the situation and I even knocked on your mother's door one day because you were usually camping out there, and I told her that I was pregnant and needed to get in contact with you a d she was very mean to me--no compassion at all-in fact, she was always mean to me for no reason because of whatever bull---- you fed her. I don't think she ever like any woman you are with. As far as nursing school goes, I only had one month to finish it, but I was pregnant, about to go through abortion and dealing with your abuse,and I had difficulty concentrating but I still managed to get good grades--the reason I didn't finish had nothing to with you--I received an unfair complaint from one of the nurses on the floor and it was untrue and my instructor (who the nurse complained to) had to bring up the complaint to the board (it was about leaving my floor and not changing one of my patient's diapers (who was an elderly man with incontinence) (and which by the way was not true), and the school board recommend I repeat my previous term (even though I got an A-on the final test) because they thought I needed to brush up on diuretic medications,etc (which was nothing more than a political move at school), and I refused to do that on the basis of principle because of one nurse with a big mouth was going through her time of month. So I dropped out. Remember, before I left Florida, you were the one who was stalking me and camping out at my apartment which is why I had tonged a restraining order out on you up until I left--I was scared of you (((REDACTED))).

So get the facts straight--I will never forget what you said to me when I moved into my own apartment---you called me and said to me "I would rather destroy something than lose control of it."

Yes--I did love you. But you caused me so much pain.

First off Christina. it's not easy to sum up a two to three year relationship in a statement like here. To begin with, I was in love with you instantly the time we met when I drew your blood at Boca Community Hosp and we kept seeing one another while you worked at a md's office and went to LPN school.

then we moved in together. suddenly you lost your job at the md office and I am not sure why,  but you weren't cutting it or were just not happy with school so you dropped out.

I was still working and you could not find a job. then you came to me with this ad you found in the paper about modeling and knowing how beautiful you are, I could see you doing that.

well after you checked it out you told me what it really was and some how we went to go see the guy who ran the business and we had a big and long discussion about it.

I wasn't thrilled with the idea and so as to not go into great details about something I am not proud of being a part of and I know for a fact neither were you. Lets just say there were rules in place that seemed to get broken over time.

And yes jealousy came into play and we both were into something that just got out of control which ate away at the trust. What we had was a love / hate relationship.

and those type can go either way. I felt smothered and couldnt breathe and you would not get off my back. and you showed your jealous streak as well going after some girl who just places her arm on my shoulder looking to see what song to play on the juke box. No you didn't get into a fight but you did go over and remove her arm from me.

It's obvious from reading your vile and hate filled comments about me that you are still bitter and hate me like no other. Our relationship ended badly. You did many vindictive things to me that any guy would and I should have ran from you.

 and you would not stop. you kept calling, you camped yourself out on the stairway at my mothers house I had to move too after you called the police cause I locked you out, because you wouldnt leave me alone.

when you left, I then left the house to calm down and relax and get my thoughts together only to be met by the police. yes I was arrested, and you were there the next day telling them that had you known they were going to arrest me you would have never called. and then it happened again cause some how the state felt you were being coerced.

you even lied to them when they asked if I was home, you told them I wasn't when I was asleep.  but then once arrested you went to great lengths to try and convince them that you were not.

 the plea bargain! well that was a deal I made to the prosecutor cause he was going to file charges on you for filing a false report. and I just wanted it over with and didn't want you getting arrested and through the courts, so in return I pleaded no contest and took the anger mgmt classes.

which I am glad I did, not at first cause it seemed nothing more than a b***h and gripe session. but towards the end I learned a lot in how to deal with not only myself but women in general when an argument arises.

Granted there where things that took place I am not the least bit proud of and wished they never happened. I do not hate you, and definitely not nearly to the point of utter contempt you have towards me. I am so sorry for the things you went through and dealt with. I didnt care for the places you lived at and was worried for you.

 If it makes it easy for you to blame me for every thing then go ahead do so. And if you do I hope it helps you. I want you to be happy. And I am sure you are.

Know that I have no hatred for you and regard you as a good person with a great heart. I could have been a better steward of your heart but I wasn't and I payed a heavy price......your hatred of me and the tortured reminder of what had and could have been.

I have grown up a lot since then and I am not the same person I once was as I am sure you are not the same either. I hope that some day that you could find peace in your heart to forgive me. I continue to this day carry a great deal of guilt and remorse regarding certain things that only you and I know about.

So you rest and relish knowing that it hurts and torments me, whenever I think about it. If there was one person in my life that I could have a do over and makes things right it would be you. I hope you are happy where ever you are and everything you ever wanted is or has been granted to you....... You deserve them.

Stephanie, your original story on you dad was right on the money-don't let him manipulate you the way he does and has done with so many people in his life. I Actually spent more time with him than you have and you're his dauhter (what does that tell you?), and I know him a lot better than you do--I know you want a "father figure"in your life, but Ray is not,and will never be, a dad to you-just because one can "make" a baby does not male one a good father. He is not capable of that Steph-he is a very sick and dangerous man and will tell you whatever you want to hear-don't be fooled by him and listen to your mother-she know best.

Read all the other rebuttals on him in this article.

This man should have never been released from a mental ward. He is seriously ill and needs tremendous help. He appears as a charmer (in the beginning) just like Ted Bundy, and then the REAL monster comes out. Just ask(((REDACTED))) (((REDACTED))) used to be his best friend until he dumped (((REDACTED))) once he found out how abusive he was to his girlfriends). They used to call him the ""fertility king," because he has children all over the globe (he doesn't support any of them though). He lies, cheats, forges documents, etc. He once forged someone's nursing diploma and put his name on it when he was working as a phlebotomist in a hospital so he could be a nurse instead and make more money. He has been fired from numerous jobs because of his inability to get along with people-major anger problems. The one truth that he did tell is that he was put in mental wards by is stepmother because THERE WAS A REASON FOR IT, and he was abused by some people there. WHO would want to get involved with someone like that because you k ow they probably have major issues.

I dated (((REDACTED))) in 1994-1997 and was engaged to him briefly. The best thing I ever did was to leave him. He was abusive physically and mentally to me. I had to call the police a few times on him and his mother, who was a Florida state trooper would always call me up after having him arrested and try to intimidate and scare me if I didn't get him released-she abused, or try to abuse her authority. She, herself, has been married three times, all to alcoholic husbands, so what does that tell you about her? Her and (((REDACTED))) have always seem to have a twisted relationship, sort of a "Norman Bates" and his mother relationship. She would refer to him as (((REDACTED))). Back to (((REDACTED))), though, he tried to suffocate me with pillows, tried to strangle me (the police took pictures of the fingerprints on my neck), through a boiling pot of spaghetti at me, which went to court and he was ordered anger management classes for a plea bargain, had sex with me against my will a few times, one of the times resulted in a pregnancy which he forced me to abort because he already had Stephanie, and Brett, and a couple other kids I can't remember (too many in all to keep track). He killed my cat by banging it as hard as he could in the bathtub where he trapped it (he was jealous of all the love I gave my cat-that is bow sick this man is). He alienated me from my family because his own family was so dysfunctional, he was unemployed most of the time and I was the sole provider. He wanted me to be an escort so I would bring in "the big bucks"while he sat on his a*s.-what does that tell you about a man who would pimp out his girlfriend. He has strange and disturbing fettishes, and was recently spotted in Ft. lauderdale at a strip club dressed in a dress with a dog collar around his neck with a man, yes man, holding his leash-this information came from a reliable source. I got pregnant the second time and was far along to where I was showing, and he wanted me to abort the second time, and I had a hard time finding a doctor who would perform the abortion, but finally did. Why did I stay with him and put up with all of ths for 2 1/2 years? Because I was scared of him because he was 6 feet, five inches, and he was violent and mentally unstable (he told me about being diagnosed with schizophrenia and bipolar disorder,etc., and used to be on Halcion which is a powerful mental drug-look it up). He is very manipulating and a pathological liar and he knocks down your self esteem to "0" so that you start believing that you are worth nothing also. I finally got the courage to leave him, moved out and started to date someone else and he found out where I lived, broke into my house, and stole my address book along with some other things -there is a police report on file for that also. I got a restraining order out on him and moved out of the state. BEST THING I EVER DID and it was the best thing is ex-wife did all those years ago-she probably most likely would have been dead by now.

She wanted to protect Stephanie as any mother should. You must have been coerced by him into writing what you did, or else your self esteem must be severely low or you are in a severe form of denial. If I were you, I would keep a close eye on your kids around him-I wouldn't trust him tom save to save my life.

ok, I have actually spent some time talking to my father, and more family members, and have learned some things. Number one, do not do things in fits of rage. Number two, get both sides of the story. Now usually I do follow number two, it on this case there WAS no other side to listen to. Granted, my dad was not the greatest in the past. It has taken him 50 years to grow up and pull his head out of his a**. But he was not as bad as I was brought up to believe. Mom's side of the family painted a picture in my head of this horrible human being who beat women and babies and preyed on people. Not really true, and he didn't go around making kids as I thought he was doing. After talking to him and my grandma (((REDACTED)))who IS my biological AND real grandmother, seeing as the woman I thought was my grandma, or was brought ip to believe she was my grandma has not really talked to me since my grandpa died and has not responded to a letter I KNOW she had to have recieved by now. She told me that my biologcal grandma was evil and cruel, not true I met her and she is great. My dad is now keeping in contact with me which all I ever really wanted and was told all my life he wanted nothing to do with me he didn't care about or love me in any way I just cramped his style... But that is not true either. I did not read his rebuttal all I re read was my report. I was very angry at the time. Enraged would cover it more. And yes he is paying his child support...

Ever hear of Pal (parental alienation) It's where a parent or a relative misinforms a child about the other parent to get the child to hate the other. This is not easy to do especially on a site such as this. I rather do this in person. I dont know if you will ever get this, maybe you were just venting. All I can say is your words hurt and ripped into the heart of two people I know who cherrish you so much. Not a day has gone by That I have not ever stopped thinking of you.

over a week ago was your birthday and as I always do spend time by myself thinking of you wishing you a happy birthday. As for me bieng a deadbeat. Deadbeats do not pay, I have the pay stubs to prove i pay. as for the other stories i can only assume you either gotten this information from either your mother who I feel would not do that, so that only leaves only one person I know well enough to know what she is capable of. Just because your mother and I are no longer together I never left hating her. I was not mature enough to be married and I knew that.

The best thing as far as I am concerned that came out of the marriage is you. your mother is not a bad person and i do not regret ever meeting her. I just was not able to give her and you what you both deserved in life. The truth has always been a big thing in my life, I have always been lied to so many times i had trust issues, and that always spilled over into relationships I have had in the past. I had always hoped that trait for the truth would be in you and someday you would want to seek me out and ask me questions I can only imagine what was said about me. when I saw for the first time since your mother and I split up, you were 16 and your so called REAL grandmother found out about Brett. what Happened was to me an equivalent to a prisoner exchange if i let them see brett they would let me see you. When your parents play games like that with you it hurts. but i was use to that kind of crap from her.

I dont blame my dad. I love and miss him so much and I admired him despite the crap he did. All I can say to you the reason Dot (your so called Real Grandmother) and I dont get along is because. I dont like her never did and wanted my Mom and Dad back. and as a child when my dad was in the army my Mom amd dad split up and it really bothered me. My mom left to go to fla and my dad had custody he was in the army and we three boys were holy terrors no one would watch us, so my dad had no choice but to put us in a catholic orphanage in raliegh North Carolina, we three were there for close to two years, this was back in 1969, how do i know? thats when man landed on the moon and i remember watching it on tv i just turned 12. the next thing i know my dad came up to visit us and he had a woman with him and she had two kids. they were together for a while and we up there that whole time. I just wanted my mom and dad back together and i did everything to break up my Dad and dot.

i wasnt doing well in school and i was considered a problem child so before my dad went to vietnam my stepmonster convinced my dad i had mental problems and i should be put away while he was gone. well he did and where they sent me i was abused frequently, I had know one to turn too and no one to talk too. this went on for a few years till one day i finally got a plane ticket to go back home. once i was there it didnt take long for me wanting to leave. thats when I was bused at the age of 16 to spokane, to my mother. theres more to this whole thing but i just wanted and need for you to understand I am not a heartless person I have been hurt many times in my life. but nothing hurts me more than losing you for good.

You are the best thing that has ever happened in my life. some feel the only way to prove that is paying child support thats warped thinking. I pay and would have payed sooner if i knew where the two of you were. it was like the two of you dropped of the face of the earth after i asked my dad if i could borrow some money to get a lawyer at the time. after that i never heard from you and your mother and i can only assume my stepmonster told my dad to let your mom know what I was going to do and "POOF" you guys were gone. Steph, if you want the truth put us all in a room and lets see where the s**t falls. one thing i do believe in the truth has a way of coming to surface. dont let more years go by without us knowing each other. The news of having grand kids fills me with so much emotion it hurts thinking i will never see them. please find it in your heart to really know the truth.

I am not hard to find I have always made it easy for you too find me. this site wont let me give you info but look me up I am in spring hill, fl just north of your so called Grand mother but i just recently moved so you may find an old address but the number should be the same. there is so much for you to know.

Love always
Dad

Ever hear of Pal (parental alienation) It's where a parent or a relative misinforms a child about the other parent to get the child to hate the other. This is not easy to do especially on a site such as this. I rather do this in person. I dont know if you will ever get this, maybe you were just venting. All I can say is your words hurt and ripped into the heart of two people I know who cherrish you so much. Not a day has gone by That I have not ever stopped thinking of you. over a week ago was your birthday and as I always do spend time by myself thinking of you wishing you a happy birthday. As for me bieng a deadbeat. Deadbeats do not pay, I have the pay stubs to prove i pay. as for the other stories i can only assume you either gotten this information from either your mother who I feel would not do that, so that only leaves only one person I know well enough to know what she is capable of. Just because your mother and I are no longer together I never left hating her. I was not mature enough to be married and I knew that. The best thing as far as I am concerned that came out of the marriage is you. your mother is not a bad person and i do not regret ever meeting her. I just was not able to give her and you what you both deserved in life. The truth has always been a big thing in my life, I have always been lied to so many times i had trust issues, and that always spilled over into relationships I have had in the past. I had always hoped that trait for the truth would be in you and someday you would want to seek me out and ask me questions I can only imagine what was said about me. when I saw for the first time since your mother and I split up, you were 16 and your so called REAL grandmother found out about Brett. what Happened was to me an equivalent to a prisoner exchange if i let them see brett they would let me see you. When your parents play games like that with you it hurts. but i was use to that kind of crap from her. I dont blame my dad. I loved my Dad and admired him despite the crap he did. All I can say to you the reason Dot (your so called Real Grandmother) and I dont get along is because. as a child when my dad was in the army my Mom amd dad split up and it really bothered me. My mom left to go to fla and my dad had custody he was in the army and we three boys were holy terrors, my dad had no choice but to put us in a catholic orphanage in raliegh North Carolina, we three were there for close to two years, this was back in 1969, how do i know? thats when man landed on the moon and i remember watching it on tv i just turned 12. the next thing i know my dad came up to visit us and he had a woman with him and she had two kids. they were together for a while and we up there that whole time. I just wanted my mom and dad back together and i did everything to break up my Dad and dot. i wasnt doing well in school and i was considered a problem child so before my dad went to vietnam my stepmonster convinced my dad i had mental problems and i should be put away while he was gone. well he did and where they sent me i was abused frequently, I had know one to turn too and no one to talk too. this went on for a few years till one day i finally got a plane ticket to go back home. once i was there it didnt take long for me wanting to leave. thats when I was bused at the age of 16 to spokane, to my mother. theres more to this whole thing but i just wanted and need for you to understand I am not a heartless person I have been hurt many times in my life. but nothing hurts me more than losing you for good. You are the best thing that has ever happened in my life. some feel the only way to prove that is paying child support thats warped thinking. I pay and would have payed sooner if i knew where the two of you were. it was like the two of you dropped of the face of the earth after i asked my dad if i could borrow some money to get a lawyer at the time. after that i never heard from you and your mother and i can only assume my stepmonster told my dad to let your mom know what I was going to do and "POOF" you guys were gone. Steph, if you want the truth put us all in a room and lets see where the s**t falls. one thing i do believe in the truth has a way of coming to surface. dont let more years go by without us knowing each other. The news of having grand kids fills me with so much emotion it hurts thinking i will never see them. please find it in your heart to really know the truth. I am not hard to find I have always made it easy for you too find me. this site wont let me give you info but look me up I am in spring hill, fl but i just recently moved so you may find an old address but the number should be the same. there is so much for you to know.

Love always
Dad

I have been married to (((REDACTED)))  for quite sometime now and he is a loving, caring husband who always looks out for me and my 2 kids. My kids are 15 and 18 yrs old. My kids father has never paid child support but then I never expected him to because I knew he didn't have the money. He DOES pay your mother child support and has worked at the same company for almost 4 years and has had his wages garnished voluntarily (I was with him when he volunteered). As for the story about him leaving you to bleed to death, HE is the one that took you to the hospital, not your mother. They went together. As for him leaving you to starve, I find that hard to believe since he has always been such a thoughtful person with us. He has thought about you every day since he was separated from you and repeatedly had tried to find you. I myself have tried to locate you for him but with a common name like (((REDACTED))) it was near impossible and with the possibility that you had a married name that I didn't know, I couldn't find you. I can't say that I was there at the time but I can say that the (((REDACTED))) I know is a goodhearted man who works hard and tries his best. He not only pays child support for you but also for his son. His take home pay is just $300 for 2 weeks of work because of the child support that is taken out. We take care of things together and do our best. You were taken away and he was never notified of where you were and after years of trying, he STILL talks about you and wishes he knew where you were and had contact with you. He is not a liar and in fact, I have never known him to lie about anything. He's very honest and open with me. He has never said anything derogatory about your grandmother or grandpa. If you ever want to know the truth, then you can always contact us. You have no idea how much you mean to him. I do know because I have heard him talk about you and know that he loves you. If you only knew the truth, you'd be surprised.