Monroe County Domestic Relations Living at home and being forced to pay child support Stroudsburg, Pennsylvania

In May 2009, I moved out of my home in Stroudsburg due to the intolerable conditions of living with my husband.  I asked my children (who were both under the age of emancipation) to move with me; however, this meant moving out of their school district and they, unfortunately, did not give me their decision to remain at home until after I had moved out.  I moved back home in late July 2009.

During my brief absence from my home, my husband hit me up for child and spousal support.  I was working in NYC at the time and made a decent wage, which in turn, spelled a good income for my husband.  I was paying him almost $2100 a month - I was in the middle of a mortgage modification with my bank and neither he nor I were making any mortgage payments at the time (which had been $2300 per month until then) so, with his $1000 monthly income from his part time job, my $2100 support and spousal payments and the $70,000 he had just received from a negligence suit, he was doing rather well for himself.  He bought himself a new bedroom set and several cars yet never got around to having the house painted nor new rugs put down like he promised the kids he would do after I left.

I paid the support and, like most people, began my support payments already in arrears.  In August 2009, I applied for a support modification and was given a hearing in September 2009.  At the hearing, I explained the living situation which caused me to move out, asking my children to move with me.  When they decided to stay home, I returned home to live with them.  My request to modify the support was denied since the mediator couldn't decide where I was living (although all my mail and my driver's license clearly read my home address).

In October 2009, I again applied for a support modification (since I was still living at home) and my hearing was set for late December.  And again I was denied because the mediator...just decided I should keep paying.  No real reason was ever given to me.

In February 2010, I lost my job in NYC and began receiving unemployment in March.  In April, I applied yet again to modify my support payments and my hearing was set for July.  Although my older son was now emancipated and the spousal support ceased, I had to continue to pay support for my younger son - while I was STILL living with him.  So, again I was shot down.  The reason?  I'm STILL not sure.  At the end of the hearing, I paid $50 to have my case heard before a judge.  The hearing was set for September.  I (and my husband) had our say in court and after waiting about four weeks, I got the judge's decision.  I not only had to continue to pay support, he increased the amount I had to pay to cover medical insurance and to start paying down the arrears.  No reason again was  given to me.

And I was living at home the entire time.

Is it me or are these people stupid??  There is not a single person I have spoken to who thinks I should pay this man one thin dime.  I've supported him, my two sons, a residence, bills, etc., etc., since my oldest son was 3 at which time my husband decided to be a stay-at-home dad.  Enough is enough already.  I don't mind supporting my children, but why this man?  And why were my modification requests shot down every single time?