Shannon Graham Life Coach Shannon Graham - Scam Coach , Internet

I went through this but the details of my story were different. I'm sorry for your bad experience. You did get ripped-off.  I know a lot about coaching now that I have done research so I can shed some light on this bad coaching exp and why it was wrong. You went for improvement as a couple, and you got someone who caused damage to what good was already there without understanding you or your signifigant other or your fears. He didn't have a degree, he's so young he doesn't really know anything about life and at that age has little to no real long term relationship experience. 

 A coach should never be pushing a couple so hard, independently of eachother for what were long-term desires not needs. Needs are: regular communication, undestanding, support, and seeing eachother. An example of a desire: I would love to be a billionaire, live in the Taj Mahal, and buy a new sports car everyday.

Because my girlfriend can't give me the latter does that mean, we are incompatible and should part ways? No.

Every couple has to navigate their differences over time and look at any long term partnership, marriage, relationship and they will tell you the same. At any given moment a couple is focused on different things. They are at different stages of their lives etc. They are in different moods. They might be wanting different things. One might want fame, the other might want stability. One might have a successful career, and the other might be making no money at all. These are not reasons to part ways, these are reasons to find bridges between these differences and give eachother support in what they are doing and wanting.

FYI Coaching was a term invented in "Hollywood".  A lot of the practitioners were into spirtiuality and occultism, sometimes psychics would become "life coaches" as a way to make more money off. There are some who have a degree in Psychology background. But the ones who aren't are putting your emotional life in danger.

"In the past 10 years the field has expanded to a billion dollar industry. Get rich quick ads have promised people life and relationship coach training to 'get everything you want out of life' and have ironically targeted their ads to people who are themselves 'stuck', people who are looking for a new opportunity to make 'big bucks now'. People get to call themselves a life coach if they just place an ad in the paper or on-line."

Coaches are not a therapist-some don't even go through any training and get away with it.  A coach should not be influencing you to make choices that will be traumatic or damaging to your emotional life.  Anyone with training works slowly, making small behavioral adjustments. By pushing for more and actually cutting off vital connections because the coach doesn't know how to work slowly or to allow people time to change and find positive solutions is criminal.

You can't push people before they are ready. Not in so little time. You should never be seeing a couple without eachother. You need to get them talking together.  It sounds like this coach saw you independently which shows he doesn't know anything about couples coaching. Heard your fears and frustrations-most people unload in their sessions-so it is not an accurate view of what's really going on. It's like venting.

He didn't get that Like you spoke about all couples are different. But the coach should be working to bring you together with small behavioral changes. Not pushing both people to make drastic changes. Not highlighting differences, but looking for common ground. You came as a couple and you should have left as a better couple who learned to compromise on your differences and talk with love and respect. 

This inexperienced person 'therapy like' activities they are not a life coach, they are a danger to your mental health!