Eugene Villasenur, Eugenio Villasenor Eugene Villasenur, Eugenio Villasenor Uses Sex Acts to Allow me to see My Daughter as well as is Abusive and is currently Violating his restraining order.. Riverside California

Henio Villasenor aka Eugene Villasenur, Eugenio Villasenor

Father of my Daughter who has a restraing order from seeing me and my child uses my emotions of family to continue to hurt me and our Daughter. By forcing me to preform SEX Acts in the car when my daughter is in the back seat! Below is my Decleration to the courts in order to show cause of his behavior to me. I am speaking out more towards the sexual abuse that has accuered with this man biut this decleration is a start. His Name:

Eugene Villasenur, Eugenio Villasenor

Which he goes by Henio Villasenor

Henio and I were only together a short period of time before I got pregnant. We met in January 2008. We were smitten over each other from the beginning. He was very persistent in trying to date me. The first sign of abusive behavior was on St. Patrick’s Day 2008.  We were out and I was sitting on his lap. We were playing around tickling each other and my face was close to his face. His mood and look instantly changed from playful to some what intimidating and he head butted me pretty hard in front of everyone out that day, hard enough that my nose started bleeding. He got up pushing me off of his lap and ran inside the restaurant to get me napkins and then kept his distance from me. I didn’t quite know what to make of the incident and I was there with him alone I didn’t just leave then.

We ended up forgetting about it and he apologized and was so nice afterwards making me feel like it never happened. He was always sort of emotionally abusive from the beginning telling me I needed to tone up my body making me feel fat, asking me if I wanted breast implants making me feel like they were too small yet at times would tell me how much he enjoyed my body so I didn’t know how to I felt. Sometimes I felt so unattractive, he constantly checked out other girls asking me to engage sexually with him and another woman in our relationship which I never did and sometimes I would feel like I should because he always said he never experienced that and he wants to experience it before he died. He had me feeling like our relationship would not go anywhere more serious after the baby was born unless we did something like that. 

I was a very confident outgoing young lady before I became involved with him. After being with him I slowly started feeling more and more insecure about me as a person and as far as my physical appearance went. A little while after that around May Henio and I had a disagreement because he wanted me to come over and I was too tired to go out to Riverside from Orange County (later I found out it was probably because I was pregnant and I didn’t know). He became irritated with me and had previously invited me to go to Philadelphia with him which his departure date was coming up in just a few days. He never called me. I tried calling and he didn’t answer or return my call until about a week later when he was already in the airport asking me to pick him up. I was already leaving for New York and could not possibly pick him up.

He became irate over the phone yelling at me calling me names and told me to f**k off he never wanted to speak to me again. I hung up and felt like good riddance. While in New York I found out I was pregnant (which he later told me he knew that he might have gotten me pregnant and told me to get the morning after pill while we were in Utah around his birthday in March which was untrue because he never ever mentioned that or I would have gotten it and my cycle was so irregular I never paid any attention to my period). I was so upset to find out that I was pregnant especially since we just had a falling out and I didn’t really want anything further to do with him. I was not financially stable or ready for a child and abortion was out of the question. I had moved back into my moms a week prior to save money and look for a new job. Becoming pregnant definitely threw me off.

I was not married, we barely knew each other let alone like each other and I was terrified of having a baby with this man. I decided not to tell him or involve him at that moment until I was better prepared for what my life was about to become (which I am so happy for my beautiful daughter who has changed my life completely and impacted me in the most positive ways on the kind of person I am today). I came home and told my mom and she helped me to find resources that could help me to prepare to be a single mother, find some stability in my life financially, emotionally, and start to shape my future on a career path for mine and my child’s future. I decided to go into the medical field and enrolled into a medical assisting trade school and continued my education to get my RN which is my plan still. Weeks later I let Henio know I was pregnant. We continued not to see each other.

When I was about 6 months pregnant I tried as hard as I possibly could to work on things with him going to see him, becoming intimate with him again at 6 months pregnant, only to find out later that he was intimate at the same time with another woman who he told me was his ex girlfriend. I was feeling very maternal just wanting to take care of my family and try to get to know each other again and prepare for this baby together. At that point I decided not to let my heart get more involved with him. He went to jail shortly after in August or September for his felony case of cultivation of marijuana, cocaine, and a gun charge and was later released end of November. My baby was born in December and from the way he acted while I was pregnant telling me he wanted to come be apart of my pregnancy then not showing up to Doctor’s visits or telling me he was coming to visit for lunch or something then just not calling or showing up was very damaging to any sort of future I thought we might be able to try and have.

I didn’t even expect him to show up to the hospital but he did. He came in asking for a paternity test which I was glad to do then deciding he didn’t want one anymore and that my daughter needed to have his last name. We tried little by little to become acquainted with one another hanging out so he could see the baby. My birthday came in January and we all took a trip to Mammoth which I didn’t really want to take my new born baby to but he insisted and I guess I thought it might bring us closer. We brought my little sister to help babysit and once again another sign of abusive behavior happened. We were playing around on the bed I was tickling him and he was tickling me then his face turned into that serious face again and he kicked me off the bed onto the floor so hard knocking the wind out of me in front of my little sister and the baby. 

It was a weird moment andI became irritated and went to bed. We just left it alone not addressing it again. On the way home he received a call from a girl named Maloney, who he previously told me used to be his missus but is now a stripper kind of in a way making it sound like he had lost respect for her, making plans to go and hang out with her telling her he was camping with his dad laughing and joking and telling her she sounded drunk and he would call her in a little while. I was so embarrassed that he would do that in front of my little sister even. I was disgusted and couldn’t even look at him. He didn’t even acknowledge his brand new baby and lied about being with the mother of his child which I found so unattractive and dishonest and mean and hurtful and just immature. We drove the whole way home in silence. I didn’t talk to him until almost a week and half later when he called to see the baby.

We continued to hang out not addressing any of the issues so he could see his baby. I guess I was just waiting around for him to grow up and be ready to be a good man and I was waiting because I really just wanted to be a family. I had this idea he would change and since he was the father of my child I had to be with him. Even though his actions always told me something else I constantly overlooked the red flags because I was just focusing on my good intentions. He told me he wanted to be together and the more time he spends with me the more he felt stronger feelings for me and how he saw what a good mother I was that made him want to try and be a family.I moved in with him around end of March despite all the mixed feelings present of awkward behavior and just not truly connecting with one another as well as cultural differences.

It would drive me crazy but when I would bring it up he would tell me how he would never let anything divide us. He was never home always leaving me home with his brother and the baby with no transportation hardly ever any groceries and at one point with no phone, he didn’t care if there was any sort of emergency God forbid. He would always make me cancel the baby’s doctor’s appointments because he was unavailable and I had no way to get her there. He never gave me any money to get anything for myself or for the baby I had to beg him constantly for money and tell him that the baby needed whatever it was desperately just so I could get a razor or shampoo or tampons even. He didn’t want me to work or leave the house. Finally I decided that that life style was not for me and I got a job at Nordstrom which he made very clear was a major inconvenience for him.

Right around that time I found all sorts of emails that had been written back and forth from the ex girlfriend who he dated while I was pregnant about how he didn’t care about me, was only there with me for the baby, how his heart was hers and how he knew he wasn’t ever going to lose her, how his family always asks about her because they know that he was really all about her and only with me for the baby. I was sick. I left to stay with a close friend for a couple of days with the baby. When I came home he told me he didn’t want me to leave and he had no explanation for what he did. I could not afford at that time to leave him and I was working so I planned to save money and move out. It never works out like that. He managed to suck me back. Here I was stuck in this shitty relationship with this guy who didn’t care about me but when I would try and leave tell me all the things I wanted to hear to make me stay.

I was giving him my all and trying to be the best mother I could be and inside my heart felt black. We moved into a house with just the three of us. He eventually convinced me to quit my job and stay home with the baby so that we didn’t have to pay his sister to watch her anymore because she complained of him not being able to pay her all the time. I tried to enroll back in my studies and he did everything he could to not let that happen. I felt like I couldn’t do anything to improve my life as an individual that I was just there as a convenience for him which was true. The bills I had before moving in with him which he said he would pay slowly all became delinquent. It was a struggle with my faith in God during my whole relationship with Henio. He didn’t believe in God and we were never able to go to church. I would have to walk to church when he was not home as to not feel embarrassed that I wanted to raise my daughter in the church.

I felt a weak bond with my God and struggled to reconnect with that. I felt an unbalance in our life style. He was a drug dealer when he was home and always gone managing his restaurant. In November 2009, we were driving home from the restaurant already arguing about something on our way to pick up our baby from his parents. I said something he didn’t like and he told me to get out of his car. He told me if I didn’t get out of the car he was gong to drag me out by my hair. I knew no one in Riverside except people from church or my friend Ashley and his family. I would have been too embarrassed to call them with all of our drama which seemed to be constant. He pulled over but I didn’t get out and he laughed at me. At home I would find pictures even the day we moved out when he tried taking the baby from me pictures hidden that he kept of that girl which made it very clear to me he was never serious about having a family with me that he just wanted to control me and have his daughter around.

I tried leaving several times and could never do it for longer than a week at a time. In December before Christamas he went s****.>

I decided to go stay with my aunt but after she stole money from me I returned. Our water was off and he was not paying the bills and told me we would be moving. I had a check from a seasonal job I took while at my aunts for $800. I used it so we could stay in a hotel while we looked for a new place. I ended up spending about $600 that I was saving for a car because he convinced me that I could just get a car later and we needed to just get into a new place and I was going to be home with the baby anyways for about another month or so. We got into another argument while staying with his brother after checking out of the hotel the day before we were to move into our new place. I didn’t have a phone and wanted to leave. He would not let me use his phone telling me to go walk to the liquor store and that he was going out to drink with his brother and friends. I was so mad here I was sleeping on the floor with my baby and he was going out I found it so immature. I bundled my baby up and walked to use the phone….. my session is running out so I’m emailing this and faxing you two more hand written pages.