San Diego County Department of Child Support Services San Diego DCSS Child support court sexist, favors women Vista California

  I have been involved in a Child support case at the North County San Diego court house that went from June of 2013 to March 2014. I was quite amazed at how sexist the whole process was and how sexist the court staff was. One example was my ex claimed health issues had made work not possible for alot of 2013 and thats why income was low. The judge let my ex claim all kinds of business expenses for 2013 though, when I questioned how my ex could have all these business expenses but also be unable to work due to health issues I was cut off midsentance and told that it had already been ruled on. My ex is self employed and brought only income and expense statements that my ex had filled out and the amounts of expenses constantly changed ( $0 to $1500 a month rent) which was never questioned by the court, while I had to bring those in along with bank statements, paystubs and proof of health care coverage payments. It was like whatever my ex said was fine and taken as fact but I had to prove every little detail. My ex was allowed to speak and bring up points but I was rarely asked for input and when I tried to speak or defend myself I was talked over, cutoff, etc. It was so bad at the last hearing I gave up, sat down and just listened, almost frozen in disbelief. I am the male/father in this situation and almost everyone I dealt with at the North County San Diego court house in Vista was female. It is very sad that the system and the people that are supposd to just work in the system are so biased and unfair.